How long does it take to grow from attraction and infatuation to feeling in love?

[Anonymous]

[Lliam]

I could fall into infatuation almost immediately.
The feeling of infatuation is what people associate with love. But, for me, love is when I'm sure I want to spend the rest of my life with someone. I was always very cautious about that.

I've only been truly in love twice in my life. I had long term relationships from the time I was 16, but didn't want to get married or have kids.

The first time I loved a woman with all my heart was when I was 36. Petra was 30. We lived together for over a year but it turned out that we couldn't spend the rest of our lives together. We had to separate for reasons that are too complicated to explain, but they had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. We still loved each other.

It took me a long time to get over that separation and move on with my life.

I met my future wife when I was 40. She is 2.5 years younger. We hit it off and began dating exclusively almost immediately. I finally decided that she was the one and asked her to marry me a year later. We got married a year after that. We've been happily married now for 26 years. She's a wonderful partner and I love her with all my heart.

Petra contacted me on Facebook about 18 years after we had last seen each other. We spoke a few times on the phone. She was living in a different state. It was wonderful to hear her voice, know what she was up to, and know that she was happy.
Five years late, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was devastated.
I still love her and will never forget her. But that doesn't detract from my love for my wife.

[Still-alive]

For many it takes quite a bit of time to get there. for me its when we know each other completely and have learned to accept each others flaws and all. thats when i know. haven't gotten their yet with anyone

[Asker]

Love this ❤️

[YesterdaysChild]

Nothing overnight, that's for sure. I would want to get to know a person pretty well before I would even consider falling in love with them. To get to know someone and to develop your relationship to a true love level would take months. People who fall in love in a week, or even at first meeting, are not thinking with their heads, but the heart they wear on their sleeve. The worst thing to do is to throw sex in too early, because then you are adding another thing that can throw your mind over your shoulder and not give you a clear view. How many actually base their relationship on love, instead of how a person looks or performs in the bedroom? I would say maybe 25%. That would mean 25% base their relationship on money, and 50% on sex. Maybe you might see why the divorce rate is so high. What Percent of Marriages End in Divorce?
According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher, with approximately 60-67% of second marriages ending in divorce. That may be because those divorced want to be in a relationship so are not as careful and miss a lot of red flags. They just jump in on the rebound and hope for the best.

Hoe could I b e so blind?

[DizzyDesii]

I usually won't feel “in love” until after 6 months to the first year of being together. Sure i can be attracted to them within the first day or couple of weeks. I’ll love them (or be infatuated with them) maybe within the 3rd month. But being in love is different

[Asker]

When you say “to the first year of being together”, are you exclusive or dating others until you know you’re in love?

[DizzyDesii]

If we’re “talking” then we will let others know we are a thing. But being a thing isn't the same as being official. If we haven't officially agreed to be boyfriend/girlfriend then you can't blame the other for flirting with others unless we specifically agreed not to. In the past, i have loved someone and they loved me but i still did my thing because we werent official. If im in love with you, we’re most definitely already official and only with one another

[Nikki1989]

Everyone is different. It can take me a very long time.

[pickles77]

If she pushes all the right buttons I fall stupidly inlove fast

[Asker]

What buttons

[Dilԁοphοbe]

The right buttons to press depend on the individual. For example, @wilmareportu will love you if you open her browser and repeatedly press a "report" button.

[pickles77]

It’s a secret, it’s too much power to give women

[WilmaReportu]

@dil-ph-be Yeah I bet you'd love to watch that on one of your adult streaming sites, wouldn't you?

[Nifrayu]

For both of the times I fell in love, there was no infatuation phase.

[Asker]

That’s how I felt about my second love

[ohsheeT]

In a blink of the eye

[Cheerfull009]

No time limit, sometimes some people fell in love with first sight, and same time no love in whole life

[ChicoFromThe305]

It can take a few months I think

[jahaims]

No set time

[Nemesis2k7]

75 days

[ChefPapiChulo]

I love u