Is it normal to lose yourself within a relationship?

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Then if the relationship ends you don’t know how to function cause your so used to having help or support

Harness · Accepted Answer

The modern relationship sphere says no... but I tell you that is the true essence of love... to lose yourself, to gain yourself, to fill yourself with the one you love, to saturate them with you, to loose the sense of what reality is, to give the rein of reason to them... sounds unrealistic, right?

In truth this is what true love is... you should lose yourself knowing your better have will be strong for you, with find you, will accept you.

The problem really is finding that one you can trust, that one to let loose with... the world has become tougher... love has become harder... beauty, good naturedness, et cetera are no longer determining factors. How do you know whom you can trust... this is not a male or female thing... both need love, or at least they want love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you're out of control, yes. I might've been guilty of that when I was younger. I can care about a woman, I can care about her deeply. But there is NO ONE in my life I cannot live without. I ALWAYS am in control now.

BrownSugar00 · Accepted Answer

Yes it is, especially if you're young. I lost a friend to her boyfriend, now fiance, because she'd rather spend all of her time with him and barely with her friends. She's 3 years younger than me. I told her once when hanging out with her that, "I'd be willing to dump her as a friend because I deserve better!" And she just doesn't seem to grasp it nor was she willing to change and put in any effort!

I've deleted her number and unfollowed her. On to the next and better friend that may come along! I deserve better.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I’ve only partially lost myself this time. Like i’m willing to try things that i won't with anyone else. And if we end, i’ll just revert back to my old ways tbh. But the type of “lost” you’re referring to, i was that after one relationship ended long ago. Took finding self love in 2019 to never go back to that type of dependency

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

It’s not normal, but it happens.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It happens a lot, but I'm not sure that "normal" is a good word; losing yourself in a relationship is extremely unhealthy.

Lisia · Answer

It's toxic, but yeah lol same so what can I say.

smashleyy · Answer

sadly codependent relationships are normalized but should they be and are they healthy? No

WhitneySnow · Answer

It might be normal but it’s not a good thing

Srose66 · Answer

It's not normal but common. Most empaths get lost in relationships with narcissists.

exitseven · Answer

Yes especially the first relationship you are in. It is just nuts.

jahaims · Answer

That wasn't a healthy relationship and you weren't emotionally healthy prior to entering the relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

For me, no. But I see it happen with a lot of people.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, that is 100% abnormal.

BLP11520 · Answer

Yes, it's called falling in love

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I know that happens and it makes sense too.

Anonymous · Answer

Thas what i have right now

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah

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