Is my girlfriend Gaslighting/manipulating me?

[Anonymous]

• Some context My girlfriend (25) and I (27) went out to a club on Halloween and she was grinding with a shirtless guy in front of me and our group. It was embarrassing and disrespectful. I called her out and this is her response.

She’s not taking accountability just deflecting. Our friends literally were pulling her off the guy. She wasn’t that drunk not slurring her words or anything

I think she has no respect for me and thinks I’m weak/stupid. I feel like even if forgive her, she’ll continue to do the same thing and eventually cheat/leave. Should I walk away with my dignity or am I missing something? It feels like she is making excuse and not taking any accountability and putting it on me to forgive her.

[boggboss]

Sorry are u stupid mate as soon as I saw u say this wpuldnt happen again and her say how she was unconscious and blamed it on her being drunk this are indercators she clearly has no respect or think your a joke her arguments could be used to justify cheating her saying she has only been blackout drunk 3 times and 1 of those times led to her being assaulted shows me she has no regard for herself or u as she knows this stuff is a possibility meh u would be a clown to stay with her

[Unit1]

Actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap no matter how big or small.

[Vintagevixen84]

You saw what you saw and she is the one trying to make you doubt that. You know in your heart and mind what you need to do, leave her ! She says she’s taking full responsibility and is taking none, she has a toxic personality. I wish you lots of strength and luck because no matter how terrible she’s acting I know it’s hard to walk away but she’s not going to change.

[Anonymous]

She’s definitely not taking responsibility for her action. I wasn’t there so I can’t judge if she was actually drunk or she was only tipsy when she grinded on the other guy but nevertheless, it was disrespectful.

[nevooo]

id dump her

[nevooo]

out of sheer respect for yourself as a male, if you stay with that girl, you are truly braindead. you could be with a woman, that you dont need to send these texts to, or worry about, or not trust, yet look who you're with. selling yourself way short, to be with a low tier woman you dont trust, whos cheated on you before.

[Asker]

The prior incident wasn’t cheating she was flirting with a guy at a party we were both at

[nevooo]

how many times have you done the things she's done, and if you haven't, why haven't you?

[Asker]

Zero. I value our relationship and wouldn’t want to do anything to jeopardize it. I respect her as person, the last thing I would want to do is embarrass her especially in public.

[nevooo]

but you let her do it to u lol

[In_Trance]

Yeah