"I tend to get upset if my partner takes a while to text me back." Agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

If your partner takes a long time to text you back do you get upset or anxious or assume the worst?

Strongly agree it does make me upset or anxious if my partner takes a long time to text me back

Agree sometimes it does

Disagree.

Strongly disagree. i don't get upset if they take awhile to text back

It depends (say how)

[meetkitty123]

I agree that SOMETIMES it does.

My definition of a long time would be pushing past 12hrs.

Example I texted my boyfriend 4hrs ago and he has yet to answer it though my phone says he read it...

I am not upset. I understand when the phone claims someone "read" it doesn't always mean they actually read it. It could mean the touched their phone and the message could have been opened up but they never actually had time to glance at the message.

Also I know with my boyfriend it could mean he was at work, driving or he may have been sleeping and by reflex he might have grabbed his phone while in his sleep.

Now as as I said if it's pushing 12 hours then I start to worry. Especially when my boyfriend lived in California and we had no other means of interacting. It's only been 2 weeks since my boyfriend moved in with me It's only been 2 weeks since my boyfriend moved in with me and I have yet to have an experience where we have gone more than 12hrs where we have not communicated, but I suppose it would still worry me.

I had a major traumatic experience with a boyfriend (who would have been a fiance). He was supposed to meet me for a date (unknown to me he was going to propose on that date) but he died in a car accident on his way to me. I didn't have any way of reaching him and didn't find out of his death until over 12 hours later... Basically the next day.

So this is the reason why I get nervous if Its been more than half a day to a day if a SO of mine doesn't reach out to me.

[Bethany22]

He died on his way to propose to you? Wow!

[meetkitty123]

@Bethany22 yes 😔 his family let me know at his wake memorial service the ring was in his pocket and he had already talked to his family about his plans but unfortunately they never went through it is still rather heartbreaking to me even though it's been 15 years. I still love him. 💞

[Still-alive]

Very sorry to hear that. how long ago was that?

[DizzyDesii]

If its before 5p, I understand that he's probably in the hangar working on a plane. If its 6p-10p then Im slightly annoyed cause he's likely hanging out with those dunken douches. If its going on 11p+ then I start to worry. I hate texting but its not that hard to reply as to what you’re doing so that I know whether or not to keep texting. But i take calls more serious than texting. If you ignore my call after 5p then we’re gonna have a problem

[DizzyDesii]

For example, whatsapp drives me crazy if it shows the last seen or “online”
of a person but they never reply

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mho

[Paris13]

It Would Depend Nn Trust. Or How Much They Care. xxoo

[Uby10000]

Unless it's literal days i don't mind but yes it can be irritating if you both were texting very fast to each other and suddenly silence collapses. Unfortunately everyone has its own life and we can't expect the other to stick on phone all the time, maybe he/she had an urgent call or some chores to do immediately, who knows?

[provokeesmokee]

Depends on my emotional state, my knowledge of their schedule, and the context of what I send.

Memes or just talk? Take your time.
Urgent questions about logistics for a date that evening? Respond, bitch (affectionate)!
Emergency? Depending on their schedule/what they're up to, I might be miffed if not immediately responded to but if there's reasons they can't that's easily forgiven.

[Joshydavid25]

It depends really, on their patterns, and if I know they are busy.. If they have a pattern of being a bad texter, than generally I'm cool and probably don't care.. Or if they are just pretty busy, then it's fine.. Only if they break a pattern, or if I have them on social media and they just didn't text me but are still online; only then would I start to get anxious.

[420Rachel]

I wouldn’t say it necessarily makes me “upset” like in an angry way. Anxious to the max though? Absolutely 😭

[Still-alive]

*finally texts you back* there ya go!

[420Rachel]

🤣 thank you!

[petitedollbabee]

Disagree. He’s usually at work or his phone notifications are delayed. At the end of the day, he comes home to me anyway. So he can not reply and I won’t feel worried, I can talk to him when he gets home.

[Simslover92]

Agree sometimes it does but I've learned to accept that he's not always going to be available to talk to me and that he usually has something going on if he is not responding back right away.

[IslaTheWitch]

Sometimes I know he is busy and can't answer immediately.

But mainly I know he doesn't keep his phone near him all the time. If I need immediate answer I simply call him.

[Finfin1981]

Sometimes if they have read the message but then I remember I like to take my time to reply toi sometimes

[thegreenyogi]

Disagree. Everyone is different and I have faith that if my so called partner redeems it to be important he will respond to my texts eventually.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If I had a girlfriend, it wouldn't matter if she texts me back right away, I just am shy about things.

[AmeerX]

It bothers me especially early in the relationship. I can get clingy ://. I have become more in control of myself especially since work is too much I assume she must also be working

[Sparkie460]

I disagree. People have lives. They may be too busy to get back to me right away. I know it takes me awhile to get back to People because I'm busy at work. I can't always respond right away

[loveslongnails]

If I need an immediate reply, there's this thing called the phone. Oh wait, isn't that what I'm using to text with? LOL

[Likes2drive]

It can be annoying if they take too long on something you wanted to know about

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. She could be showering, driving, in the middle of an important call, etc.

[mandyfire98]

It really depends on the amount of time.

[Cynnsia]

I would wonder if he's texting other girls, and it would make me anxious.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I AM that partner.

[LazerBean]

Nah, he's just busy

[Still-alive]

Even after a whole day?

[LazerBean]

I guess that just depends on if he comes home by 6 or not lol if it's been long enough that I start thinking maybe he's dead in a ditch somewhere, then yeah I'll start to get bothered

[jahaims]

There is nothing upsetting about it.

[msc545]

Maybe they have something else to do?

[sirderpsalot123]

Disagree