Why do I still think of him even after I moved on?

[Anonymous]

It’s been 2 years and I still think of my ex an abnormal amount. We would keep in touch as friends in between those 2 years though. The last time I saw him was this summer when we were working a summer job together. I sometimes get the urge to reach out to see how he’s doing, even though I have no feelings left, and have both moved on. Why?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahhh man, exes are tough. I know what you mean though, no matter how long it's been or how over them you are, they still pop into your head sometimes.

A few things could be going on:

- You spent a long time together and made a lot of memories, good and bad. Hard to delete all that history from your brain instantly.

- Seeing him over the summer stirred up old feelings and thoughts about the past, even if you don't wanna get back with him.

- Natural to be a little curious about how people's lives turned out after being close. Doesn't mean you still care about him that way though.

- Might kinda miss the friendship aspect even if the relationship is well and truly done. Old habits die hard.

Honestly I'd say don't stress too much about thinking about him sometimes. As long as you're not actually still hung up or wanting him back, it's normal to reminisce every now and then.

Just try keeping yourself busy with other people so you don't dwell on it. And definitely don't reach out - better to just let the past stay in the past, you feel me? Stay strong, you're totally over it!

[teamvic]

What are you thinking about when you think about him

[Asker]

things like “I bet he would like that” or a song or show we used to watch makes me think of him & how I miss talking to him and stuff

[teamvic]

Sounds like you just miss his presence. Seems like you want to still be around him

[Asker]

Yes I do, I just don’t know why if I don’t feel anything towards him?

[teamvic]

You can still enjoy being around someone and still enjoy their presence without liking them

And maybe you do like him you just don't realize it

I mean if he asked you out again would you do it🤔

[Asker]

I think you’re right, but sometimes I even feel the urge to ask him to hangout as friends.🤦🏻‍♀️

but I don’t think I would say yes if he asked me out again, but I would definitely think about it.