Should I let him go or wait? if I want to move on, how to do that where I'm still thinking about him?

[Anonymous]

there's this DOCTOR guy I met in tinder 3 months ago,
he initiated the convo, as I am a quiet person, I don't like getting involved with anyone but he made me feel comfortable with him...
but suddenly he started to ignore me, hide his stories, sometimes didn't send me some snaps of his selfie, or text like " it's an art to know what to ignore", " we can't be satisfied with everything we have", and I feel like he meant that to me... asking him about that he totally ignored, and said he didn't care about anything... but sometimes it feels like he cares.. he acts like he's lonely, but had many girls to talk to... also he said me once , I'm the only one he was comfortable.. now he's saying he doesn't like to feel attached with anyone.. he doesn't knock me first now, and said he won't but won't ignore my messages if I knock him first... it's all my POV.. then again he's a doc , so I understand he might be busy... he needs time and space.. but I don't like him hiding things from me... and I said that to him once.. but he keeps doing it thinking I wouldn't know... he knows I've feelings for him... but he isn't ready... I'm in total confusion and he doesn't communicate at all..

[PrettyPriya]

Ok, so that last sentence would tell me all I needed to know. He doesn’t communicate well. That is a no go for me. There isn’t any possible way to be in a meaningful relationship with someone that you cannot communicate with effectively.

Aside from that, sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants and doesn’t have time on top of that. I would say stay away from this one. I don’t see how it is going to work when he shows so little interest as it is.

Why not just wait for someone that does show interest or communicates well with you. It is all about finding a guy with a personality that meshes with you. Don’t just take the first guy you come across or you are wasting your own time.

[Jessica405]

I agree completely. Don't wait. It could be forever.

[PrettyPriya]

@Jessica405 Yep. I think this is just not worth it from the description. The guy seems to be playing games somewhat.

[Asker]

he felt like he's perfect for me, like in every way, that's why it hurts when I think he's not the one, cause if he's not the one, then I don't think I ever find one... I'm a bit emotional, sorry for that...
but he's just too caring at first that I'm feeling like he's doing all of this for some reason, 🙂🙂

[PrettyPriya]

Don’t be sorry at all. I had felt the same way and then the “one” walked into my life out of the blue. Don’t give up. Wait for that guy you deserve. He will be worth every minute you waited.

[Jessica405]

Same for me. My first and only guy out of the blue. All because a mug of coffee. The simple things that lead to amazing things!

[PrettyPriya]

@Jessica405 So very true and I wish the asker the best of luck finding her special man. It will happen when she leases expects it.

[Nawlins34]

Let him go.

The only thing consistent about this guy is he's inconsistent. He creates gray areas and lives/operates in them to HIS advantage.

He's being vague intentionally. Walk away, he'll invite you to waste your own time with a straight face.

You've been warned, be safe and good luck.

[Asker]

thank you so much!!❤️‍🩹

[Avicenna]

Nonexistent communication should always be a dealbreaker, no matter what his profession is.

[Asker]

he communicate sometimes, that's why I'm confused... Part of me says wait for him, give him some time... and part of me feels guilty for having feelings.. 🙂

[Bklynbadboy12]

This guy isn't even worst for your time surround yourself with friends and family get back into life and doing a thing you like to do and I promise you'll forget him in no time

[Asker]

that's the issue, I think he knows that I am a lonely soul 😂 and taking advantages... or maybe I'm just overthinking, I'm seriously in a dilemma, I stopped talking to him almost a week, but ended up giving him a message 🙂

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off you not a lonely soul you have you gag family to keep you company come off anonymous meet some people I know we clown around a lot but I think you'll find that most people here are decent just here to have a little fun and past the time. And your right he's definitely taking advantage. Move on dont waste any more of your time

[Guy13]

Goodbye 👋

[Guy13]

It’s pretty clear to me that he is much more in love with himself and place in life than he could ever be with another In relationship

[Asker]

yeah, and he admitted that 😂😇