How to stop overthinking in a relationship?

[tischro]

Every time I have a relationship, I start overthinking... How to avoid this?

[penguin]

Oh man, overthinking in relationships is like the ultimate brain teaser, isn't it? It's like your mind becomes this endless loop of "what-ifs" and worst-case scenarios. But hey, it happens to the best of us. Here are some tips that might help put the brakes on the overthinking train:

Live in the Moment: Easier said than done, I know, but try to focus on the present. Enjoy what's happening right now instead of getting lost in thoughts about the future or past. Mindfulness exercises can be a real game-changer here.
Open Communication: Talk about your feelings and concerns with your partner. Sometimes just voicing out your thoughts can make them seem less daunting.
Distract Yourself: When you find yourself spiraling, switch gears. Engage in activities you love, hang out with friends, read a book, go for a run – anything that gets your mind off the loop.
Rationalize Your Thoughts: Ask yourself, "Is there any solid reason for me to think this way?" Often, we overthink because of insecurities or past experiences. Checking the reality against your thoughts can be enlightening.
Limit Social Media Stalking: Let's be real, social media can sometimes feed our overthinking. If you find yourself analyzing every like, comment, or post from your partner, it might be time to step back.
Set Aside 'Worry Time': Sounds odd, but it works. Allocate a specific time in the day to ponder over your relationship worries. Outside this time, if you find yourself overthinking, remind yourself to wait until your designated 'worry time'.
Seek External Support: Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or even a therapist can provide a fresh perspective and help you manage your thoughts.
Practice Self-Care: This is huge. Often, we overthink when we're feeling low or stressed.
Trust the Process: Relationships have their ups and downs. Trusting the process and understanding that not everything is in your control can be liberating.

When it starts to affect your peace of mind or your relationship, it's worth taking steps to address it. How do these tips sound to u? Anything you've tried before or something new you might want to give a shot? 🤔💭👍🏽

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

When you are in a relationship - just Enjoy it!

In a relationship try to become a feeler, I experience, I feel, I am happy, I love, I am loved back, I have adventures with another person.

What’s there to overthink about? Don’t ruin things by thinking.

What do you think about when you are kissing?

Nothing! You are just in the moment - kissing - feeling those lips, tongue, feeling up his body and just fully enjoying the moment, right?

Same must be true in a relationship. Just enjoy what you have today.

[IslaTheWitch]

Base on facts.

If you start to overthink, gather all the information you know about this topic for sure and write it down.

It's an exercise that needs to be repeated many times before it starts to work, but it made miracles for me.

[loveslongnails]

Is there really such a thing as "overthinking?" I don't believe so. In my opinion, you've just renamed it as is commonly done, because it's really more like fretting and worrying that stems from insecurity, isn't it? Ah, but those are negative words, so people don't like to say "why am I fearful, fretful, worried (that it won't last) every time I get into a relationship?" I don't view those words to be synonymous, but they get used that way.

It's a lot easier to say "overthinking it", because that negates all the other emotions you have going on and makes it seem like a positive mental thing, as in " Oh, I'm just thinking too much", and thinking is a good thing and a sign of intelligence.

[BadApple69]

It’s part of your personality. Of course over thinking is good in many cases but relationships isn’t one of them.
How to not do something that comes natural to you will be a challenge.
You need to be the passenger on the bus NOT the driver. But ask any bus driver out there, being the passenger is too hard.
There are many girls very comfortable in that passenger role.
The only thing I can say is this…. You need to care a little less. Know that we are all flawed, and nothing in life is ever perfect even if it seems that way from time to time.
I know I wasn’t much help… I wish you good luck… hope it all works out !

[Surely]

If your age is correct. You probably had your share of hurt over the years. Therefore making your defenses extra tough.
Need to allow yourself to trust your partner some more and realize that there still are some nice, respectable men out there.

[bededazzle]

i understand. i have this issue too. in my opinion, a good option may be to simply accept that you are overthinking. it may make you uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to affect your behavior.

[virtue2332]

I imagine a labotomy could work but you might want to wait and see if Elon can use his neural network device to help. 😏

[Matilde03]

I do it… over think an tries way to hard to please bcos I get afraid. I am a bus rider I guess

[slatyb]

Overthinking how? Afraid they will leave? Afraid of losing your autonomy?

[Date_a_Snob]

I'm very submissive and my my boyfriend very dominant. I let him make all the decisions.

[Shiva1312]

Concentrate your mind on something else, talk to anyone, don't stay alone because we think more when we sit alone.

[LunarEclipse433]

You are going to over think things from past experiences. Take a day before you really think on something important about the relationship

[BLP11520]

Good luck, human nature is to second guess our words and actions

[BLP11520]

Realize most people are forgiving and understanding and may think too much also even when they seem laid back

[NathanDavis]

start acting...

[BoopBoopBeep]

Get extensive therapy

[sheikalana]

Tell your partner about your insecurities.

[love_conquers_lust]

Live in the present.

[jahaims]

Take action to not be insecure

[Sabretooth]

Buy yourself a taser.

[In_Trance]

Better communication