Isn't it a nice idea to be open with everyone we meet, to give people the benefit of the doubt and always assume they have only good intentions? Nice indeed—except I don't believe it for a second.
I'm always evaluating why people say what they say. Nobody does anything without a reason, so when I'm faced with a question about something that matters, I ask myself: "Why does that person want to know? Is he trying to manipulate me? Is he just being friendly? What's his true motivation?" Maybe it sounds paranoid, but I think it's just a smart, thoughtful way of engaging with the world. Before you talk about your feelings, plans, priorities, values—anything at all of substance—ask yourself: "Whom am I sharing this information with, and do they deserve it? Why are we having this conversation?" Engage your brain before you put your mouth in gear. And never miss a good chance to shut up!
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Remind yourself that your boyfriend is his person. His actions are his own, and you have no control over that. Worrying about things you can't control won't stop them from happening if they are going to happen. You might end up getting hurt. So what? Pain is only temporary.
If there are no problems besides your paranoia, leave it be. Enjoy spending time with the people you have while you have them.
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