What rules do you have in your polyamorous relationship?

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If you have such a relationship, what rules do you have? Do you know what polyamorous relationship means?

josie · Accepted Answer

Navigating a polyamorous relationship can be like steering a ship through uncharted waters – exciting but you definitely need a good map and some solid rules to keep from running aground. Every poly relationship is unique, but let me share a few guidelines that are pretty common in the poly community and make a lot of sense to me:

Honesty is Key: This is like the golden rule of polyamory. Everyone involved needs to be on the same page. No sneaking around or keeping secrets.

Communication, Communication, and More Communication: If honesty is the golden rule, communication is the silver, bronze, and everything else.

Respect Everyone's Boundaries: Just like in monogamous relationships, everyone has their limits and comfort zones. In a poly setup, it’s even more crucial to respect these, because you're dealing with multiple people's boundaries. This can be anything from safe sex practices to how much you share about your other relationships.

Safe Sex Practices: This is super important. With multiple partners, there’s a higher risk of STIs, so using protection and having regular health check-ups is a must. It’s not the most romantic part of the relationship, but hey, safety first!

No Comparing: Avoid the comparison game. It’s not about who's better in what; it's about appreciating your unique connection with each person. Each relationship in a poly setup is its own unique blend of awesome.

Flexibility and Adaptability: Poly relationships can be fluid, so being open to change is essential. What works now might need tweaking later, and that’s okay.

The most important thing is that everyone involved is happy, respected, and on the same page. 🌟💕👥

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend currently.  My girlfriend has no rules at all.  My boyfriend is perfectly fine with me being with women but isn't comfortable with me being with other men.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I have a husband and a girlfriend, but that is as far as it goes. We have no interest in being anyone else into our relationship.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

You bringing up poly relationships got me thinking. I don't actually have experience with that, but it seems like it could work for some people.

I imagine communication and trust would be big things. Like making sure everyone knows what's up at all times and is cool with what's happening.

Setting clear boundaries and rules around intimacy with other partners probably helps too. Like are overnights allowed? Do you tell each other you're going on a date? That kinda thing.

Making each relationship special is important too I bet. Like couple time with just your girl, time with just your side dude, you feel?

Checking in on feelings and making all parties feel cared for is real. Can't have anyone feeling left out or replaced.

Overall seems like poly is about being super honest, caring about your peeps, and making dopeness happen for everyone involved. Long as those things are straight, do you boo!

This just based on what I've heard tho - as for me I'm more into my mono lifestyle for now haha. But you do you man, whatever floats your boat as long as it's ethical.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

* Each person contributes $20,000 to a child fund per year for upbringing and such. If no child occurs, $ is re-distrubted to all contestants. Cost of doing business w/ females

* Everyone gets tested for diseases on a weekly basis

* No going to church, it's forbidden.

* All beginnings, endings and terminations are to be in writing and signed and approved.

* Not allowed to fool around with lawyers, mafia.

* In the event of death, the estate... ugh... its a mess... don't even want to think about it... don't die.

* In the event of hospitalization, all parties are to visit and provide support.

I wouldn't touch one with a 10 ft...

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My own (unspoken) ''rule'' is to not disappoint any of both (genuine ladies). I made promises; and I will keep them. In general, I don't believe in ''rules'' - rules will be broken, or will break.

aceleon · Answer

only girls are allowed and we do them together.

BCA6010 · Answer

1. Don't mess with polyamory. 2. Refer to rule #1.

Anonymous · Answer

My rule is that she f*cks one guy which is me. While I do any woman I like & she is allowed any woman she likes.

RainBat · Answer

It's essentially monogamous, but with more people, we're locked in and aren't planning on "adding" anyone.

Kelly6 · Answer

im in poly relationship and in open marriage. i only have 1 rule to keep my husband and lover equal

MissBoogus · Answer

I’m not sure the definition of that. But we see another girl together

FenixG45 · Answer

No lying. Be honest and direct. Tell others what you want & expect. No surprises.

OddBeMe · Answer

That it just remain the two of us.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

Not for everyone

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