What is the definition of a free use relationship?

[black]

Does anyone know what this term really refers to?

[alonso]

A "free use" relationship is a term you might come across in certain communities, particularly those discussing non-traditional or kink-oriented relationship dynamics. In essence, it's a type of consensual relationship where partners agree that one can initiate sexual activity with the other at almost any time, with certain previously agreed-upon boundaries and exceptions.

Here's a breakdown of what this generally involves:

Consent: This is key. Consent should be enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing. It's not a one-time agreement but something that can be revisited and renegotiated as needed.

Communication: Clear communication is crucial to establish boundaries, safe words, and times or places where free use is not appropriate.

Mutual Understanding and Respect: Both partners need to have a deep understanding of each other's limits, desires, and comfort levels.

Safety and Comfort: It's vital to keep the physical and emotional safety of both partners in mind.

Remember, what's most important in any kind of relationship arrangement, including a free use relationship, is that it's based on mutual consent and respect. It's not for everyone, and that's perfectly okay. Also, such a concept might not align with everyone's personal values or boundaries, and that’s also completely valid.

[sawno]

Free use dynamic typically means you get to have sex with your partner literally any time. So if she's free use it doesn't matter what she is doing, where or when. If you want to fuck her you just fuck her and she complies as much as possible.

[sawno]

Ill also add that there is the "Bored and ignored" subset of this where she doesn't always have to interact. Like she is free to use, so you can fuck her whenever you want but simultaneously you are not entitled to her engaging in the sex. If she is reading and you decide to fuck her, she can decide to just keep reading but let you use her body in the meantime. What dynamic you'd want there is between you and the partner. If the ignoring part is hot it can be a constant thing, if it sucks she has to oblige by engaging and if you two think either way is hot she can do whatever she feels like.

[236color]

This is a porn genre that I highly doubt exists in real life, because there would have to be exceptions, and so many that in reality the label would be meaningless.

[Thelionheart12]

It is a genre, no doubt about it. It’s a real thing. My partner had brought her best friend and sister into it. My partner didn’t want anyone else but allow me to free use her, her boyfriend, and sister. It works, but you have to be a certain way. You have to be the strongest and most powerful person in the room. It wasn’t poly or any of that other stuff. It was smooth and if you didn’t ’over do it’, you have access to them 24/7. For me, I was always aware to their state of mind and how they were feeling. I told them, if I’m carrying out ‘semi husband’ duty’s, it’s free use for me.

[msmissydc]

So not sure if it also exists both ways but as far as I know it means One partner has access to sex whenever they want with the other. No: "I dont want to" or this is an unfitting moment. Often the choice of what sex practice also is chosen by one of them.

I guess in the few real life scenarios there are predetermined conditions applied. Examples would be things like: Only in private, or safewords to part "i dont want to" from "NO, I DONT WANT TO!" if you know what I mean. While freeuse as a concept is based around having Access whenever one partner wants it, in its core it is still consensual.

[sawno]

In many cases if its without actual restraints like in BDSM safewords may not even be needed. As long as the general agreement is that he may physically initiate sex any time (With indeed the agree'd upon limitations) if she doesn't want it she could still say no. Its just the implication that under normal circumstances he can do whatever he wants. But a simple no and a reason as to why so he's up to speed whats up would be enough. The reason serving the purpose of allowing him to adapt, for example if she refused because she's still very sore he will know to wait a day or two before trying again. If its a no i'm in trouble with work because I am way behind and can't use any distraction for real this time he'd know to wait until she's done.

[msmissydc]

@sawno Ok, parts I understand but if the "free-use" is just an "ok except when i say no" isn't that just a kind of normal sex life? I mean how else does sex work with people otherwise if they are already intimate? SO is the focus about the free to do WHAT they want?

[sawno]

The fun of the dynamic is that its allowed to be an inconvenience and she in principle never objects. So you agree the No is as rare as possible but it doesn't remove her ability to say no. Its all about interrupting her day to day, so perhaps she is enjoying a good book and really into the story and then he begins using her body as he pleases. She can continue reading if she wants during it, but he gets full access to her body at all agree'd upon moments (Unless she says no). Or maybe she is cleaning the house and he bends her over the table right there.

So the part thats different is not that your in a sexual relationship with a ton of sex, its her surrendering her body for him to toy with as he pleases outside of the regular sex.

[elizamichale1]

With me n my partners it means that i can never say no if they want to hav sex with me no matter where n when n also whatever they want to do they can n if they bring in someone or something i still hav to oblige

[Sasha0426]

What if you’re recovering from surgery and you’re in the hospital? And would you two fuck in a public place where there’s a crowd of people?

[Sasha0426]

And what if you were sick with a fever?

[elizamichale1]

@Sasha0426 well i hav had a fling with him in hospital too actually... n yes i hav done it in public too n in crowds too... i never really said no
N well if i was sick he only asked me for sex maybe two or three times but otherwise he didn't ask for it..
N once i was not well but he had told his friends he would bring me to their party... so he said i hav to go so i went with him n did whatever they asked me to

[Sasha0426]

Damn. You would put your own health on hold just to please him.

[Sasha0426]

What if you had pneumonia and on the verge of dying?

[elizamichale1]

@Sasha0426 coz i love him so much..

[Sasha0426]

Does he love you?

[elizamichale1]

@Sasha0426 oh goshhh i m afraid to imagine tht but yea if i knew a certain day is my last then yes i would love to please him the most so i can leave even my last memory for him as a best sub

[Sasha0426]

Well, good to know you don’t care about your own well being. And it seems neither does he care about you.

[elizamichale1]

@Sasha0426 hey its not tht i dont care about myself... its just tht i love him so much i would always give him preference plus i m a sub by nature tbh n he is a strong dom...
N he also loves me n cares for me so much

[LunarEclipse433]

@elizamichale1 very nice arrangement. Does it work both ways?

[elizamichale1]

@LunarEclipse433 both ways?
I am his sub n he is a dom...

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for mho honey

[Thelionheart12]

@Sasha0426 you have to be very aware of the other persons state of mind and situation at the time they’re in. A man wouldn’t make a person do it when sick or recovering from surgery. I speak from experience.

[crystalline0909]

It's a sex based connection where you let someone use you for sex with no strings attached. Like a sex worker just without any exchange of money.

[Johnathan08]

Free. Use means , anyone can have sex with you , stranger," Free use ", for that you have to be open yourself, and you should not have shame that if anyone sees you or join , so this is why it's just a fantasy and not really exist, barely a girl want to be like that when in a relationship

[Master_Debator]

I have my assumptions on what this means, but I'm mainly here to learn. Is it similar to the pay pigs and fendom type of stuff?

[fatcat700592]

I'm free use and the way my partner explained it was that he can use me whenever, wherever, and however he wants.

[LunarEclipse433]

@elizamichale1 By both ways I was referring to if you brought someone home he would be required to have sex with them. I forgot about your DOM/Sub roles.

[elizamichale1]

Oh okk well first i m not allowed to do tht n 2nd its he who decides wht will happen sexually in our lives

[Miristheiss]

I haven't really heard of that. I'm not sure.

[warsevf]

Any kink has a safe word and it's generally red. Free use where partner gets to do anything he wants sexually.

Its a pretend play

[hbkfan]

It just means someone who likes having their partner available for sex anytime they want and don't have to ask for it or force it

[SoJust]

I define them as people who are free and free with everyone

[karrapdyl]

That's an open relationship.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like another term for open relationship.

[aceleon]

does nothing to do with each other open relationship you have sex with other people
freeuse you can have sex with your MONOGAMOUS partner whenever you like without all the makinglove things, it is basically using each other like objects.

[RedInnocent68]

If it goes up, it goes in… 😉😳

[ThrillSeeker01]

Not sure about "use"