Most beautiful girl in the world?

[Anonymous]

I, personally, cannot be attracted to other people more than I am attracted to my boyfriend. I can think that someone is good-looking but I'll always catch myself thinking "not more than my boyfriend". I think my boyfriend is the most attractive person to me and I think it's fine and normal.

I know he doesn't think the same, which is also normal. And I came to terms with that a while ago.

But I'm confused as to exactly what he's thinking and want clarification. Today we argued because I was saying how I'll never be the top of his list or be his #1 most beautiful girl based on things that he's told me:

I'm not the most beautiful/#1 to him. I'm in a tier with other girls he thinks are the most beautiful in the world.

Why I'm confused:

He says he cannot rank how people look and that's why I cannot be #1 but he has tier ranks for groups of girls. I just so happen to be at his top tier rank ("S Tier"). I can't be ranked individually but can in groups. (And honestly I don't even want to be ranked. This just confused me).

I try to say exactly what I think this means:

I'm never gonna be the MOST beautiful girl in his eyes. I'll always be in a pool with other people he finds attractive at the top tier -- but never more physically beautiful than anyone else in that tier to him. But he seems to get upset when I say that even though that's what I feel he's saying. So I just want to know from other people (probably guys especially) if I am interpreting this wrong.

And I know I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world so save any comments about that. I just wanna know what I'm interpreting wrong here. Isn't it true that if I cannot be "ranked" above the other girls in his "top tier" that I cannot be the #1 most physically attractive out of all of them?

My aim isn't to force him to think anything but to understand what he's saying. But I am met with him saying I'm crazy and to leave so I'm obviously doing something extremely wrong. So some help would be nice. Thanks

Updates

4 mo

I feel like no one is actually reading what I have typed out. I have no issues with what my partner believes. I think he has a normal stance. The issue is that when I say it back to him, he says I am misunderstanding or that I'm crazy but I feel like I'm not saying anything too different. So What Am I Misinterpreting?

[Anonymous]

There is no #1 most beautiful girl in the world. As your boyfriend says, there are tiers but no one girl is the most attractive of them all.

If he truly loves you tho, he can see all the beauty in the world in other girls, but none will ever have more value to him than you do and that’s much more important.

I see girls that are more attractive than my girl all the time, but I couldn’t care less about them because I love my girl for much more than her physical attributes and she's of much higher value to me than any other girl in the world.

[Asker]

I get that. I know that being in a relationship with him makes me a priority, but I am solely talking about physical attraction. I know he doesn't think I am the most physically beautiful in his eyes because he can't bring himself to say it.

But I am more confused why he gets upset when I say exactly what he's saying... it's confusing, and I don't know what to do. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong.

[strateguy632]

he handled wisely, he complimented you but not claimed nobody prettier

[Asker]

But why does he get upset when I say the same thing back to him?

[Anonymous]

I used to say that I’m not attracted to any other person either, until it happened out of the blue. I didn’t even know what to do with myself.
It wasn’t even look that attracted me to him, not that he doesn’t look good, but it happened. I should have kept my eyes down when they told me to..!


Anyone telling me you never get attracted to anyone else than your committed partner, I won’t trust that statement out of you, just maybe you haven’t yet! And your partner did right, he sounds rational to me!

[Asker]

I think you need to re-read what I said. I said I find other people attractive but not more than my partner! And I think my partner sounds rational too. But I don't understand why he gets upset when I try to say the same thing he is saying back to him.

[Opinion Owner]

Ight my comment is just agreeing that commonality of attraction to others exists even when there already is existence of an exclusive relationship, my comment is rather personal, and general to the subject.

I agree with your statement, and his as well. Both of you make sense, while your approach is more sentimental and more considering, his approach is rather distant, detached.
You can never be rank number 1 most beautiful girl in the world. However, once you create a bond with someone, and you two want to be with each you can’t see anyone else as attractive than anyone else in the world, in that case it wouldn’t matter how attractive anyone else is, that chosen one would alway be that number 1.

[Asker]

I get that. Thank you

[Anonymous]

All men have wandering eyes. Men that claim they are 100% loyal are lying.

[Asker]

I don't think this answered my question

[Billlewis]

I love your moxie, and I wish you the best of luck;)

[Ironic_Method]

I feel bad for this guy. You are starting arguments over nothing.

[Asker]

The argument started when I repeated back what I thought he was saying. The conversation started because HE sent ME a video surrounding that topic. lol

[Anonymous]

I agree with the other anon