Do you ever feel like you're just not enough?

Question

Because of your family, work, friends, partner or something else?

etsylo · Accepted Answer

i do, almost all the time. i think it just comes from having a negative outlook on myself and the way i think i should behave. sometimes i don't even feel human, or normal, in the way i view everyone else. i struggle still with body dysmorphia and just mental health in general but my thoughts are influenced strongly by those around me too.

i want to feel enough. i love my boyfriend and he tells me im more than enough and i feel bad for not believing his word because even though he makes me feel enough, there's a voice inside my head that tells me im not but i do push through sometimes. it's kind of like my brain is telling me that i literally do not deserve good things but i know i do! i just see everyone doing so many good things in their life and im just stuck here struggling to even function in society. im just really glad my boyfriend gives me the time of day and actually listens to me, the little things he does that are the bare minimum to anyone else, matter so much to me. these things make me feel like i am enough. especially to the people i want to be enough for.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

I’m sure we’ve all felt like we weren’t enough at some time in our life. I felt like that in my last relationship. I was working part time, while going to college and trying to take care of my boyfriend and our place. He worked full time and took care of most of the expenses but money was always tight, so I couldn’t help but feeling like I wasn’t doing enough to help. It’s easy for people to say, “you shouldn’t feel that way” but it’s impossible not to feel that way at times. You seem like such a nice person, I’m sure there aren’t many people that don’t feel like you’re “enough”! I’m a big fan of yours!

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Oh yeah! But I try not to view it in an extremely bad way. I remind myself that we all have different obstacles (with varying difficulty levels) to go through & progression is just at the other end of them. And there's more than one way to get past it. So if anyone thinks I'm not good enough, chances are, they might just have a limited view of how I could potentially progress. So they're more objectively wrong than they are right.

I say that because these feelings can be very relative. Relative to someone's beliefs, values, expectations, current emotional state, differing end goals, etc. And since human perception of us can differ so much, we can't rely on just anyone for that kinda thing. We have to be very selective with what voices we let near to our core. Even the voices that come from our mind. We have to have compassion for ourselves.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

The question is whether you believe you're not enough for yourself or for others. No one will ever be able to meet all the expectations of others, so don't waste your time attempting. If they're expectations you have of yourself, what do you believe the results will be if those expectations are met? People will be more pleased with you when you believe in the value of what you bring to the situation than when you're constantly attempting to please everyone.

If you want to change yourself, ask yourself whether the expectations are realistic. If not, get rid of them. If they are realistic, set a plan to address your goals and then measure your progress.

Anonymous · Answer

Hi, you don’t know me but it breaks my heart to even think you would question if you live up to the expectations of others! You only live one life and ultimately, the only person you can depend and rely on is yourself. If people love and care about you, which I’m sure there are more than you can count, they don’t expect anything from you, except your love and friendship and at times, support. Mainly the only things you expect from THEM. Live for yourself, not how you want others to perceive you! You are a sweet, lovely, beautiful young woman that the entire GAG community has absolutely fallen in love with! You have so much to offer people that the last thing you should question is if you’re “enough”. You amaze me. And yes, I read the question three times! So I know I got it right! 😝

HawkPerception · Answer

All the fucking time. It's been my whole life. I feel like the whole world is looking down on me with condescending eyes all the time. Most of the people I've dealt with in life don't take my opinions seriously, including my family. The only ones that haven't were my partners and best friend. Now that I'm getting older though, younger kids seem to be taking me seriously though 😂

Part of the reason I want to write a book is to leave something behind so people can maybe understand me a bit better and who I was as a person.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Sometimes. I'm lucky in a lot of ways but it sometimes doesn't feel that way. I have to remind myself a lot to be easier on myself. When I'm having a day where I feel like this it's usually over the fact that I get stressed over 19 years working for a place that I can barely get by.

So here lies my reminder to stop feeling this way. I'm stressed because I sacrifice a big part of my pay to retirement. It doesn't leave me with a lot for now. Sometimes no can't go and do what I want because I can't seem to budget enough to live for today and save for tomorrow. So sometimes I get down on myself and feel like it's my fault. I work over 40 hrs a week but NY is just expensive. I don't want to move and leave my family and friends so that's why I stay. So this leads to some days me feeling down on myself.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I recently saw this one movie, and it taught me that I am, in fact, Kenough

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... not anymore, not since I was around age 11 or 12... and in a very different spot than I am today

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Always, but not in an insecure context, moreso in a "everyday I strive to be better than I was yesterday" context. Improving skills, knowledge, talents, that sort of thing, to me it's fun and staves off boredom.

The cap for this is the point in which I can manipulate reality as I see fit. Which probably won't ever happen, and isn't even a goal, but thats the only situation where there would be objectively no room for improvement.

AmeerX · Answer

I had a feeling like that sometimes. It's the worst thing in the world. When you see injustice and corruption it can get to you and we should remember, all the people can't be saved or we will lose ourselves trying to do that. Those people made their choice and We should not let it get to us.

We can be watchful bystanders and should we try to save all of them we are going to be burned doing so.

jcampbell115 · Answer

I'll tell you every day that you're enough until you believe it, even if it's for 40 years

Thestupidusername · Answer

Yes.  A lot... which leads to overthinking..

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Men are constantly told we "aren't shit", are toxic, all men are rapist, that boys should be shameful for just having been born male.  The war on boys and men is real.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

No like I'm not enough but I feel out of place in general, sounds like you got a lot on your mind

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. But then I remember that it's my life not anyone else's. So I should be enough for me. I don't have to meet anyone's expectations. I'll just be me and anyone who appreciates me the way I am is a keeper. Just be yourself. You're enough even if you don't feel like it sometimes. Think more positive than negative thoughts. Increase confidence and self esteem and you'll be unstoppable.

Still-alive · Answer

Not anymore and if anyone makes you feel that way either ignore them or cut them out of your life. They don’t appreciate you.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Sometimes, but I wouldn't word it like that in my head. Most of the time I would say that's not the case of where I feel like that

AydenHazor · Answer

All the time. My therapist is actively working with me to help overcome this

Dr_CEI · Answer

I often feel this way because I'm self conscious about my Penis size and always think I'm being judged

fuddly · Answer

Sometimes I'm not enough for life. I always value myself in a relationship. It just needs getting to know someone and knowing my value as well as theirs. Sometimes i meet someone out of my league

nudeNhorny · Answer

sometimes yes, no matter how hard you try, all the circumstances are just against you, and you can't help but blame yourself for not doing enough, I think that's normal.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Yeah, I’m pretty awesome, but there’s clearly not enough of me to go around… 🤔😉😂

MarkPayne · Answer

I think everyone doubts themselves in certain ways. Just need to work on it. As everyone has talent, strengths and weakness and the ability to put things together. And make an average life incredible.

scooogy · Answer

not annoyed enough?

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

you're awesome.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes, but I keep trying

MemeSupreme · Answer

that's when you push them away. works like a charm

RageBabe · Answer

I perpetually feel like this.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Often.

robhazelnut · Answer

I had that thought for about 30 years.

Al_Musafir · Answer

In some aspects of life, yes.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Family, I used to. No more!

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Yup. I intend to change it.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Yeah it's a pretty constant feeling.

ConfessingSteph · Answer

Yes. Usually professionally.

Jerre · Answer

No I don’t! I love my life, it is great.

eagle1951 · Answer

oh heck i'am always enough

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

EVERY DAY

syncheart · Answer

I never feel like I measure to anything.

DJB72 · Answer

Constantly

clampfan101 · Answer

All the time…

12karen · Answer

Yes.

Z1pTD · Answer

Not anymore

CubaPirate · Answer

Nada mas

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