Do you believe dirty texting between partners is important to keep the spark in a relationship alive?

[IloveWinters]

[ObscuredBeyond]

It shouldn't ever have to be. Especially given how much the Supreme Court has shown that it's not on our side anymore. It's also whored itself out to foreign investors. Meaning, companies that should be hyperventilating at how many personal punishments a judge puts on every single one of their members for their criminal acts involving espionage and abuse of your data, are instead being given largely carte blanche to abuse your information willy-nilly.

That naughty nip-slip your girlfriend sent you on Skype? Microsoft can now do whatever they want with it. Disgusting; but true. The only time you can *maybe* get away with that kind of pillow talk anymore, is if you actually get a hotel room together. And even then, there's no absolute guarantee of privacy.

And the worst abusers will always be involved with the government or with some major corporation, so that they always have some BS excuse to invade your privacy without penalty, while a random nobody pervert acting unilaterally and doing the same thing won't have an army of suitcase-carrying crooks to defend himself with.

And then you'll have those morally apathetic wastes of oxygen that prove Niemoller's postulate right. And until it happens to them, will not care that we live in a disgusting world where personal rights and privacy are dead.

[RebelinSteel]

No it would be terrible if that was required to keep a relationship going. There is a thing about talking to each other, flirting in real life with your partner, things like that. Doing dirty testing is a random thing you might do with some partners, but it’s not a thing to keep a spark alive. I dread to think having to do that in a relationship. I would leave tbh.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Having a healthy sex life is important, however people choose to keep the spark alive… for those that are into dirty texting, by all means, but not everyone is in to that, some prefer a more “hands on” approach 😁

[IloveWinters]

Thankyou for your reply

[FenixG45]

""hands on" approach"

HAHAHA!!! 😂🤣🤪👍

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@FenixG45 😁😇😈 lol

[Nikki1989]

LMAO!

I hope my sex life never becomes that pathetic.

[IloveWinters]

Maybe you have frequent sex

[OlderAndWiser]

If dirty texting between partners was important to keep the spark in a relationship alive, then everyone before about 1995 had a dead relationship, right?, because very few people had cell phones before then.

[Avicenna]

If that's what works for them, sure

[HawkPerception]

I think if you're in a somewhat long distance relationship then yes it's somewhat important, but honestly it's tough. I remember my ex always wanted me to send her nudes and would always send me stuff, but I was never into the online stuff. Kinda gets boring after the first couple times. I'm more into waiting until we see each other in person. But it's important to satisfy your partner's desires as well.

[wysiwyg2525]

Yes it's healthy for one another to do this. No one on here can say they haven't done it. It may be different from guy/girl that your with. So ease into it test the water and see what happens. Never just send a pick of you bannana. Start PG13 to rated R. Then ease into the XXX. ots always ok to try something new especially when your in a relationship.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If a spark leads to a fire in the bedroom I’m all for it however to many sparks could cause someone to buy a fire extinguisher.

Now I wonder why people hump their phones! I like things face to face not person to phone to cellphone tower to phone to person.

[IslaTheWitch]

If both are into it and both know each other good enough to not overdo it - it can spice things up.

[sheikalana]

Not really. Me and my husband never done it even when we were just dating.

[IloveWinters]

So you guys never talked dirty while making out as well?

[sheikalana]

Nah. We talk dirty in bed tho.

[IloveWinters]

Makes sense cool

[sheikalana]

We never been into sexting or sending nudes. That’s childish.

[IloveWinters]

Niceeee , happy for you and your husband

[Daniela1982]

If that is what you need to hold it together then you don't have what you think you do.

[IloveWinters]

I understand your point... I just shared a perspective nothing more.. thankyou for your reply

[SphynxUK]

I don’t see the need. If you are compatible, you don’t need to sext to keep the relationship going. I guess if you’re in a long distance relationship, video calls and texts are welcome, but still, they don’t have to be only sexual in nature.

[antelope51]

He's usually in the other room and we never talk unless it's through text... this Brave New World thing is kinda lame

[picachixa]

Depends. We aren't the type to enjoy that. It would be too weird for us. But we do other things to keep the spark alive. And if thats your thing , then why not.

[FenixG45]

For example what other things?

[picachixa]

Tbf we are pretty old souls even the way we met lol. So for us, we keep the spark by going on dates. I guess just kinda pretending its our first date and getting to know eachother. Even tho its been years. Its fun to give each other, different names. Get a hotel room (kids stay with a babysitter) and pretend we just met again. I also try to keep the spark by suprising him with unexpected things such as notes in his lunches or in his car, stopping by work and eat lunch with him etc... And he does the same. He writes me letters and poems randomly.

[picachixa]

Also not seeing each other. His job sometimes takes him on short business trips. Its rare that it happens maybe once or twice a year. But usually they last for like a week. So when he comes back sparks are flying everywhere cus we missed eatchother

[FenixG45]

*WOW*

[picachixa]

What does *WOW* mean?

[FenixG45]

I'm impressed!

[rienna888]

I think it's better to do it in person instead of over text. My now boyfriend is a virgin and he would sext me but it makes me uncomfortable because i know the things he imagines cannot become reality. As in, he will say he will come a gallon or that he will fuck me 7 times. And i had slept with virgins before, i know it takes practice to perfect it

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t even like stuff like that so it would be a turn off.

[katiesmuff]

Not much of a relationship if dirty texting is how you keep the spark going.

[SotiCoto]

Obviously not. By that logic relationships couldn't have worked before mobile phones were a thing.

[Apple1996]

Yes very important

[MsBell2018]

I feel if both are comfortable, why not? Most times, due to busy work schedules, kids, house work, yard work, etc. that's foreplay!🤣

[mandyfire98]

It doesn't have to be but it can be fun if your partner is away.

[Fireguy17]

No, we never had cell phones when I was younger, and somehow things worked out just fine.
Now that I am older, I just don't find the need or the desire to do that.

[molonski2]

I'm with those who said it is important, going along with dirty talk full stop , you need to keep this stuff going. Vital.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

We recently engaged in this when she was out of town, and we both surprisingly found it very enjoyable!

[DaBiggestBird]

About as important as replacing free driving classes with physics classes

[jshm2]

No. The opposite.

Being clean at all times but dirty in the bedroom, is what keeps the spark alive.

[RavVid]

Not a whole lot. But if it was along the lines of 'I am thinking of your penis in me and I'm getting wet' well I'd be home early.

[Samantha36]

No. There are plenty of ways to have a good sex life

[serious_miss419]

No.
You can’t have a human connection through electronics.

[HelpfulWoman]

easy no. i find it in general to be cringey and a easy skip.

[strateguy632]

not important. i am too shy for that and it did not cause the breakups.

[elizamichale1]

Yup i think its a must

[IloveWinters]

Thankyou for your reply

[exitseven]

I could not imagine sending obscenities to my wife.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't think that it's important. But it's fun :)

[Joshydavid25]

I mean depending on the partners it could..

[DreamLife7]

U need to heal from your insecurities and mommy issues

[shanshu]

If you are both away from each other for awhile then it could help but if you are together close by there's no need

[Winnerongod33]

Yes because am in a type of group that you can find you lover or crush so girls DM me every day but after some time they stop why? Because of I don't give them a naughty chat

[boobliker]

all communations in a relationship is important to keep in fresh and sparks flying

[zagor]

No. The real thing is important, not silly games.

[FenixG45]

Dirty texting between partners CAN BE important to keep the spark in a relationship alive. It depends on the couple and context.

[Anonymous]

It’s not vital, but it’s one way to do it, especially if you’re in an LDR

[AngryCarl]

No, I see no need for it. Whatever happened to flirting?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I've always considered setting to be retarded.

[Opinion Owner]

Sexting* not setting

[IaFl92]

Dirty messages r not important. It is just a spice.

[Amasinghhh]

If its an LDR then surely yes but not regularly maybe once or twice a week.

[slatyb]

Not if you are cohabiting.

[brebre234]

Tbh I would say no to me it's draining

[Anonymous]

It works for us.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[OddBeMe]

Dirty text? Thats the only text.

[Guido]

It's one way to help ignite a spark.

[krin_m]

I don't think it is important but is fun!

[Normalguyonamonday]

i don’t what do you think to your self

[Anonymous]

Sure, if they both are really into it.

[MissBoogus]

No .

[butterly248]

Long distance

[Iron_Man]

No lol

[Christoff92]

Yes.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Nope

[In_Trance]

No, not always

[vicphilips]

I dont know

[jimmy2]

If both agree yes