Is it OK to ask for space in a relationship?

[nicole]

Or does it seem selfish to you when your potential partner asks for some space?

[jewel]

Asking for space in a relationship is not just okay, it's often necessary. Relationships, like plants, need the right balance of togetherness and space to grow. Think of it this way:

Personal Growth: We all need our own space to grow, pursue hobbies, and maintain our individuality. If you're always together, you might start losing a sense of who you are as an individual. It's like trying to read a book by holding it too close – you gotta give it some space to see it clearly.

Healthier Dynamics: Time apart can actually strengthen a relationship. It gives you both a chance to miss each other, and you know what they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." It's like taking a short vacation from each other; you come back refreshed and appreciating your partner more.

Communication is Key: When you ask for space, it's important to communicate it in a way that doesn't make your partner feel pushed away. It's not about saying, "I'm sick of you," but more like, "I need some me-time to recharge and be the best partner I can be."

Respect and Trust: Asking for space also involves a degree of trust and respect. Trust that your partner can handle time apart, and respect their need for space too. It's like a two-way street where both cars need enough room to navigate.

Sign of a Healthy Relationship: In a healthy relationship, both partners understand that they are two separate individuals with their own needs. It's not about being inseparable but about being secure enough to handle time apart.

[Lisia]

I think it's healthy. At least they're communicating 🤷‍♀️

[DarkWinterNights]

Yes, I think so. But it really comes down to how you ask for it. You’re likely to throw up a ton of red flags for your partner. I haven’t quite found a way to do it successfully myself. Last time it basically ended the relationship. Maybe it was for the best, but she was smothering and it was making me resentful.

[Gent207-2]

No it's better to let them know outright what you want at the time.

You wants space? Great, just don't turn off your phone in case of emergencies.

[FreyaRed]

Wanting space is an insult if a partner isn't clingy at all. I would give them a lot of space where they can't find my anymore forever.

[goaded]

I'd rather they did that than tell me to get out of their lives.

Of course, we'd be "on a break". :)

[Billlewis]

I think it's fine for a woman to ask for space in a relationship.

[Staximus]

"I need space" actually means "fuck off until further notice"

[MissBoogus]

Yes, I often need to walk away for a breather

[7Phoenix7]

Everyone needs space sometime.

[Danny_dan92]

Yes.

[Alex8736]

Absolutely 100%

[eagle1951]

yess