Do you think needing space in a relationship is a sign of incompatibility?

Question

Perhaps it's just a personality trait, and has nothing to do, but normally if you need space from another individual, would that mean the marriage is most likely going to end up being toxic if you need space from your soulmate? 🤔

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No, sometimes before taking the next major step in a relationship you need to step back and assess whether or not you're doing the right thing in moving forward.

True story? A close friend has been seeing someone for about a year and felt that there was something holding him back from marrying her:
-- She was older, perhaps he was rushing to ensure she could have kids (which she wants too).
-- He had no idea if she could actually have kids.
-- She's outside the faith and would need to convert.
-- He'd likes older women but wants someone young enough to allow them to take their time in getting to know one another... and gals his age (30-35) "are crazy".
-- He wants to "marry for life" as his parents did... and they took their time.

He then more recently connected with someone who ticks all the buttons:
-- Older (35-40).
-- Knows she can have kids but doesn't care if they have kids/adopt kids/etc. She just wants an honest, serious guy. She's not rushing into anything.
-- Of the faith, so there's no conversion etc. needed.
-- Wants to "marry for life" as her parents did.

There's also CRAZY ATTRACTION VIBES crackling between them. So they meet up. Both nervous as school kids meeting up for the first time. It was very sweet.

Will it take off? I don't know. He LIKES the first girl and doesn't know the second girl well enough. She (the second girl) senses he's hesitating and holding back. So there's something else going on. He's not ready for a relationship... He needs to step back, get space, and get to know what he wants in life.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

No, I would think most people need their space at times, to have some alone time.

But if it's all the time to the point it feels like avoiding the other person, then it just seems like you shouldn't be with that person.

But I also think it's unhealthy if you need to be with your partner all the time.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Only if the both of you never needed space to begin with , if you and your partner use to be inseparable for a long period of time and then all of a sudden they need space from you? Then yes something is wrong in that relationship. People that suddenly need space when they never did before are usually up to no good and have something up their sleeve that they aren’t telling you. They will start blaming you for being insecure and blame you for not trusting them , but the truth is they are the POS not you. I’m not saying you have to hold your partners’ hand at all times , but you should always be your partners’ top priority , if your partner suddenly wants space from you and needs space from you , You are best to walk the other way and not wait for them , because they are Clearly writing Sucker on your head without you realizing they are doing so.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

No. It doesn't matter how perfect your partner is to you. Everyone needs breathing space. If you wake and all you see from the moment you open your eyes to the moment you fall asleep is your partner, anyone would get tired. Everyone needs "me time", some more than others.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some fun and wisdom! 😉 Needing space isn't a red flag; it's a personal necessity. We all need some "me-time" to recharge. It's not a sign of incompatibility; it's about finding that delicate balance between togetherness and individuality. Embrace it, and ensure communication is open and loving. Your soulmate would understand! 💕 Keep things spicy and communicative, and you’ll be golden!

Effably · Answer

So I register as an INTP on the whole MBTI scale. If that tells you nothing, all good.

I have a low social battery. I quite enjoy the social interactions but I run out of steam quickly. The notion of spending days around people without space for just me sounds like near torture.

In relationships this has been something I have learned to work with. It works well for me now. I learned that I can have space while still with a partner. Basically we both remove any expectations and that works well for me. Some people, such as myself, require space. But you can find your own time while with someone, with a little practice and trust.

On the flipside of this person causes a higher need for space than other people do, that would be a little worrying.

lyrem04 · Answer

Not necessarily were humans and we need our own time sometimes, I think although that if the reason why you need space is to avoid conflict or overall interacting with your partner than maybe yea.. but even then I would understand needing to stay away from me sometimes lol 😂 just not all the time.

Vevv123 · Answer

No, I think space kind of happens naturally though. Personal time is healthy and necessary and a harmonious relationship should involve open communication as well as understanding, so if either partner feels the need for more space they would feel comfortable talking about it. However, the line is drawn when there is possessiveness.

Anonymous · Answer

When I get home from work I go into out bedroom and relax for like an hour or two for me I need to settle my brain and need me time I get overwhelmed and stimulated and need down time where I don't think and me and my husband are going on 5 years couldn't be happier together

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lightbulb27 · Answer

It's a sign of some deeper conflict. Unless it is resolved then yes, you will be dealing with it later and may erode relationship to nothing.

Such issues can be resolved, someone or both have to listen, give. There may be deeper issues that need addressed but most people choose to ignore them until later in life. at your age, the priority is "make nest, make offspring".

MemeSupreme · Answer

no it just depends why i think if the relationship is the reason, then it definitely is

leahzrc · Answer

as an introvert I would kill myself if I could never be alone

Anonymous · Answer

No, I actually think needing a space is just some kind of temporary misunderstanding.

aceleon · Answer

Personality trait, not everyone likes merging their life together with another human

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yeah. Someone needing to draw a line like that is a direct manifestation of an incompatibility.

BCRanger10 · Answer

No, it's a sign that the relationship is over.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Not always, but usually yes.

Miah06 · Answer

No. I need space a lot.

Sluttt · Answer

Yes its departure

Dongie · Answer

Could be.

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