Is it absolutely essential to have sex in a relationship?

Question

I believe it is. But I want to see your opinions, is it essential for you too?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

It's not absolutely essential. There are cases where there are people that cannot have sex due to injuries or birth defects, but still want partners and they manage it. Those cases are extremely rare though.

However, sex is definitely an extremely important factor for most and usually is the main thing that separates friend from significant other. It also takes a relationship to one level of physical intimacy and comfort with each other to the next level.

I personally would not date someone who's not willing to have sex even before marriage. But if I am in a relationship for years and truly love that person and they get into an accident that prevents them from having sex at all in the future, I would not leave them and I wouldn't sleep with others. I'd ask them to at least give me head or use their hands, but if they can't even do that because of their injury, then I'd just jerk off for the rest of my life, content I have a partner I truly love that truly loves me back.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

For me it is.
I have a libido and I love women. For that reason, I wouldn't date a woman who I didn't find physically attractive, and I wouldn't continue dating one who didn't have a strong libido.

A partner's personality, intellect and values are very important, but sex is also important. I'm not interested in finding a platonic friend.

AmeriRiver096 · Accepted Answer

In discussions about relationships, it's often highlighted that the importance of sex can vary widely among individuals. This perspective emphasizes that for some, emotional connection takes precedence over physical intimacy, viewing the latter as an additional, albeit enjoyable, aspect of a relationship. The key takeaway is the need for open communication regarding individual needs and expectations in any relationship.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It isn’t for me to be honest, but would prefer to have it than not. You can fulfill intimacy and other needs in a relationship in other ways outside of just sex.

AviatorTom · Answer

No, it's not essential... but it sure is nice.

Sonorous · Answer

Nahh not for me at least.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

100% it is. To what degree, is between you and your partner but yes a good healthy relationship needs sex. It creates a whole different connection because you both share parts of each other (DNA) everytime and that is another reason why one should not have sex with everyone, you leave a little of yourself everytime.

SeymourBill420 · Answer

Well, for me it's a little more than just sex. It's more like intimacy romance and making love. And on that topic. It is absolutely essential to have a deep intimate interconnection with somebody regularly. It is definitely gratifying for both people involved. Sex is just squirt squirt shoot shoot. But making love is something totally different. And yes that is essential in a relationship.

godfatherfan · Answer

Could you have a lasting relationship without sex? mmm... yes

But, there would have to be very specific situations to have that happen. If you just have 2 healthy happy humans that are sexually active, then no, a relationship would not last if one of them... all of a sudden... said "no more sex". That would not fly.

Lionman95 · Answer

No if there are other forms of intimacy and if there are deeper reasons for not having sex I could live with a sexless relationships. Deeper reasons are for me like her having a dysfunction in her private parts that make her not enjoy sex or past experiences like rape. In those cases I could go long without sex under the condition I´m not played and she´s honest with me and not make things up.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, otherwise you might as well be just roommates.

Lara_Croft · Answer

Nope, modern world is at a high in terms of fornication and also at a high in depression, anxiety, divorce, lack of great relationships etc. Marry and enjoy sex under God with one person. Sex is a body inclusive thing, you have it with many peopl each time you make up and break up- you're going around carrying a lot of people. Chose today, God loves you Joshua 24 vs 15

Billlewis · Answer

It's absolutely essential that the woman I'm dating/serving is always utterly and completely satisfied and content at all times, but that doesn't necessarily require any penetrative sex to take place between the two of us. In fact, I'm much more fulfilled when she dates other guys regularly, and grants them the kind of privileges that I can only dream about.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. I mean, in a marriage good sex is obviously critically important to a healthy and loving relationship. The only question in my mind is when to start having sex. For me, the answer is not until our relationship has progressed to a point where we have a deep bond and I consider her potential marriage material. But, it should be before the proposal because I need to know the ex will be good. Sexual compatibility is super important in a marriage, and I'm not going to leave it to chance.

RingOfFire · Answer

It is one of the most important things in a relationship, but not the only important thing. But in terms of bonding it is pretty hard to do without it. I would not want to have a relationship without it, but if I loved someone enough, and she became unable to do it, I would find a way to make the sacrifice. But not going to lie, it would be very difficult.

douride2 · Answer

in my opinion if there is no sex in a relationship aren't you just friends.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

For me, it's a big part of intimacy. However, everyone is different. People have different ways to connect. To my understanding, the Amish have sex only to procreate, so they must rely on other forms of intimacy for romance.

serious · Answer

Essential? No, not at all. In my view sex is totally overrated all the time. I find that totally disgusting in every way.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is essential, you have to have sex to keep the bond alive, you have to satisfy each other.

Especially it is essential to fulfill all the partner's desires, or at least to compromise in order to avoid being betrayed.

In a couple one must be complicit otherwise betrayal arises.

EmmaMary · Answer

Within our marriage I personally consider it essential to be fully intimate.

Angelize17 · Answer

Yes. I’ve been with my husband for almost 14 years now. I have a very, very high sex drive but also my love language is physical touch. So for me, I need the closeness, the intimacy, the SEX! I think it is a very important part of a strong relationship.

Obdnthouseboy · Answer

Yes I have a trauma wound of the groin where I have nerves sethered when I was torcherd by 4 female solders when I was a soldier, as a result sometimes I can't please my girl and I won't deny her pleasures of life so I sourced her a guy lot younger than me as my girl is 24yo and I'm 62yo and she sometimes has sex with him but she always comes to me for love. Sex is important!!.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes you do, however at a certain age it is no longer necessary or wanted or capable. What applies to a 20 yr old couple in a relationship will not likely apply to that couple at 70.

exitseven · Answer

Yes. I was with somebody for 4 years and she was waiting for marriage. I would never do that again.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Sex and physical intimacy does play an important role in a relationship because it brings a couple closer to one another. Without sex, usually the relationship breaks down or more often than not one partner strays by getting nookie elsewhere.

Katebfun · Answer

Yes its my love language and it's something you experience with only a few special people.

jshm2 · Answer

No wonder your relationship with your parents, neighbours and former friends is atrocious, and they have a restraining out against you.  You want to have sex in every relationship.

ConfusedClarity · Answer

I think it is. Just thinking about a relationship without sex makes me feel old not exactly sure why. As I know older people are/can be still fully active in this department.

Simslover92 · Answer

I absolutely think it's essential.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

In serious relationships sure, but not everyone I date is permitted.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

its not. it's a great thing to have if you want it to, but there's more to life than sex.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yeah. Which is hard as currently in a 5 week dry spell with not end in sight ( probably at least 2 more weeks). For me sex is important

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

No, not at all. Sex is a want, not a need.

Unit1 · Answer

Yeah. A sexless relationship is called friendship.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

In a relationship? Yes, absolutely

systemsareyo · Answer

I couldn't handle a romantic relationship without it lol. Otherwise I'm happier single and more honestly single lol 😂

aceleon · Answer

if you are asexual, sure. if you are not hell no.

worldscolide · Answer

Its a big part of it.. Let me put it a different way, If i were forced to live with a dead bedroom, the marriage would be over.

jarkitor20 · Answer

I believe it's essential too It's okay if there's times where it happens less tho like if you're going through situations

Likes2drive · Answer

For me it is otherwise why be in a relationship because that’s just friends unless they’re asexual I don’t see why they wouldn’t. Unless there’s some type of medical problem going on later on.

Kelly6 · Answer

very essential otherwise your relationship will crumble

Anonymous · Answer

I personally need touch, words and love. If he doesn’t feel horny and doesn’t want sex himself that’s fine I don’t need “dick” per say but i will need him to touch me and love me and give meet my sexual needs in different ways.

Staximus · Answer

Might as well just be friends or go your separate ways if you're not attracted to each other

InspireGlow678 · Answer

It really depends on the couple. For me, it definitely is.

laly520 · Answer

it is important but both have to enjoy it n ask for it not one sided

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It may work without. I can compensate with someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Without sex its just a friendship.  Why would I be sexually monogomously faithful to someone I'm not having sex with?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Duh. Of course it is. Christians delay it. But they still want to have sex after they get married.

DextroShade · Answer

Yes, it most definitely is. These women who think they can keep a guy without putting out are insane.

abitcurious2022 · Answer

For me no. There are other things a couple can do that can still be intimate if there’s no sex. You can have sex and still be unhappy.

justabuddy · Answer

I say if she is not interested in sex with me it's a red flag. That said, the deed does not need to be done. Sometimes focusing on other things at first can be better for a relationship.

MrCharlie13 · Answer

Depends on the kind of relationship you want. For some is not that necessary, for some of us is a must

JohnK123 · Answer

I think it’s important because it connects two people closer. Just cover up unless u want kids hahs

admles · Answer

Yes. People who don't renew their intimacy trend to drift apart after time.

Jroe861 · Answer

For me it’s absolutely essential unless they are ok with me dealing it out elsewhere but that’s me.

Lowiu · Answer

I think not everone needs it but I do

ryanbas · Answer

I just cannot believe a relationship without sex! no way

IloveWinters · Answer

It's a human need just like food clothing shelter

Anonymous · Answer

No. The vast majority of my relationships have no sex involved.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I CAN LIVE WITH OUT IT

Being_a_good_Lesbian · Answer

Yes, even when he's away at work.

mandyfire98 · Answer

For me it definitely is

Crankor · Answer

It wouldn't really be a relationship otherwise

Notherndude84 · Answer

Yes, I would need to have sex

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