Lost interest in my boyfriend?

[Lilibet]

I have no idea what happened but we are in relationship for almost 4 months so it’s just a beginning, but for the past like 2 weeks I kinda feel nothing towards him. I used to be so excited to see him, to call him, text him but now I just don’t care. It just changed in a moment. He came to my house like 2 days ago and I couldn’t wait for him to leave, today I suppose to go to his house and when I think about it I’m just getting tired and upset. I always waited for Friday so I could see him but I just feel now empty. He wanted to kiss me last time and I just didn’t feel like kissing him back, and we used to have lots of sex but now if I think about it, I just want to stay home. I don’t know what the hell happened, Because I used to enjoy spending time with him and now it feels like punishment. And is just a beginning of the relationship so we still should be in this honeymoon phase but I’m already burnt out. Did anyone experienced something similar before?

[sage2021]

Having so much sex with him in the beginning and acting like you were married when you clearly weren't confused sex with love.
Now you wake up from being sexed to death and are taking time to get to know each other. Instead, you did the opposite. You should have taken time to get to know each other for who you are. In real life. Not just bumping bellies and calling THAT Love. Don't make that mistake again.
Look, now that you've stopped love bombing each other you see him for who he is. You need to tell him he's just not the man you thought he was and let him go. If he doesn't understand why, tell him we had sex, not love.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way and my boyfriend acts just like yours. He's not a man and that's why you lost that spark

[Lilibet]

Tbh it happened after my birthday, he didn’t get me any gift, we went to a restaurant but he didn’t even made a reservation, he was playing games while I was just sitting. That was my birthday. I feel like since then I got distant towards him. Plus he just talk about plans etc but doesn’t do shit, and is pissing me off slowly, he complains all the time about anything, that his life is horrible, so I always say that he has his fam, his healthy, he has roof on top of his head, car, etc etc, he still complains. Well if you want more then get to work…
Are you still with your boyfriend? Did you tell him how you are feeling about him?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm still with him and still not really happy. I actually was just about to make a post until I saw yours. He never gifts me on My bday either. I've told him everything and he just complains how all his money goes to bills. He tried to say taking me out to fishing was a date. He can't even be creative on his own to do anything out of his way to make me feel special. I ended up staying and having his kid... the moment I was leaving I found out I was pregnant. But I'd leave if I were you. He's not the one for you. I knew the same and still stayed eventho he pays my bills I'd like it more if he took me out on a nice date and talked. Not him on his fucking phone...

[Lilibet]

Mine is also always on the phone or he plays games… most of the time if we go out or we order then I’m paying for it, same for groceries. We don’t live together so he pays his bills and I pay mine but he always complains that he doesn’t have and then instead him doing something his turning on his Xbox, like that would change anything… one time when I brought up something he told me that I’m only complaining about him…

[Opinion Owner]

He's a loser. No direction in life. If get out while you can

[KrakenAttackin]

WHICH IS EXACTLY WHY NO MAN SHOULD GET MARRIED. If you two were married you would cite "boredom" as a reason to steal his children, house, half+ assets, alimony, child support, while destroying him to his core... why? Because you are bored with him.

[LiamJHayden]

Any relationship based purely upon "feelings" is likely to go through massive ups and downs.

[Lilibet]

But everything was great, just one day and all my feelings switched towards him. I dated guys before and some were assholes and I didn’t had this lack of feelings even towards them but I have this problem with my current boyfriend and tbh I don’t know what to do. Should I bring this up when I see him today, should I just go with it and wait if my feelings come back

[Summeroflove]

If this is the same boyfriend from your last question then it seems like this relationship should have ended a long time ago. Neither of you even seem attracted to each other. You lost the spark long before he did so maybe if you strung him along all this time for whatever reason it may have been. Maybe you deserve one another.

If it is a different dude then again…. I don’t know. Some people seem great at first and change

[Lilibet]

It is. We meet last September. I went back home for 16 days in November and he lied to me that his at his friend playing games but he was in a club. I lost trust to him that day. I told him this, and I said that he needs to build it up. Then was my birthday, Christmas and new year, he put 0 effort, didn’t even get me a gift. I got that he had no money but he could write me a letter or whatever. On new years I had pneumonia and he came to my house, but he was rushing to his friend party. And I just lost it after. I was sick not my fault, but I think he should stay with me. On my birthday he was on the phone because he was looking for a job. I was trying to be always considered. But our relationship was really wonderful or horrible, always things were white or black, never grey

[Summeroflove]

I feel like if he was sick you would have stayed with him. He’s probably just putting a front on so he doesn’t loose you. You’re not obligated to stay with him. But if you do things for him then…. Yeah he’s going to want to keep you around. That’s what people who use people do.

Then they act all good again buying things. Giving attention. Erc

[chilldude33]

yeah until he shows a crumb of assertiveness your feelings for him won't come back

[Lilibet]

Well he is assertive but he just talks but no actions, I have a career and I like people that they want something from their life too… but in his situation, he wants something more but beside talking he doesn’t do anything about it. He keeps complaining about his life but again, doesn’t do anything about it, it’s like his waiting for me to fix things for him or he things it will fix by itself, I don’t know. He’s not very responsible and many people is telling him that, last time I told him, that I must agree with that statement, and he just gets upset about it, but seriously, if you don’t have money then do something, don’t just play games al the time

[Anonymous]

dont you like talking with him?

[Lilibet]

I used to love it, but lately his talking only about the same things over and over again, so that he misses back home, that he has money issue, work problems, that he doesn’t like to work for someone, he wants to work for himself, and I keep telling him that soon his gonna see his fam, that if he wants to open something for himself he needs to do something about it not just talk, things like that.
We used to talk about everything but I also noticed that he doesn’t remember anything that is important to me so I just stop sharing you know. It’s just him and his problems. And I always listen and try to help out but he just talk over and over again and doesn’t do anything about it…

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe your relationship is long term relationship. Because of that you bored. If you marry with him. Things can change

[Lilibet]

But we are dating just 4 months, so there still should be excitement etc, but it feels like all the emotions and feelings came out of me in a moment. He was acting very weird on my birthday and I feel like since then something changed

[Opinion Owner]

I dont know for more recommendiations. I should see your relationship a lot closer