I never call it falling out of love because I believe true love never dies but perhaps I was strongly infatuated with my boyfriend at one point and it has faded.
I have known him over seven years, officially been together for six years. At first I was obsessed. I was scared of losing him, I saw him almost everyday and I looked forward to seeing him. That continued for about two and a half years. However we had a lot of problems too. Although the attraction was electric we also clashed quite a bit and had big arguments - some even involving family members. We have had a few periods of not speaking to each other at all for a between a week to a month over the years. He was controlling and it suffocated me as I am free spirited and I learned to ignore his manipulative tactics.
Now since the last couple of years I find I don’t think about him anymore. I care about him because I have known him since I was a kid and we have grown together but I find myself doubting if I want to marry him. I was once so sure of it but now I don’t know about my security (he’s in his late 20s and not employed). I want my children to have a good life. It’s a chore to talk to him when once upon a time I’d get excited when his name would flash on my phone and I’d wait for his call or I’d call him. I forget to call him now and I prefer it when I don’t speak to him. He’s become a nuisance and I would prefer to get on with other things and be left alone. He has noticed this shift in behaviour and always mentions it but I don’t understand what I’m feeling and don’t know what to say.
I have known him over seven years, officially been together for six years. At first I was obsessed. I was scared of losing him, I saw him almost everyday and I looked forward to seeing him. That continued for about two and a half years. However we had a lot of problems too. Although the attraction was electric we also clashed quite a bit and had big arguments - some even involving family members. We have had a few periods of not speaking to each other at all for a between a week to a month over the years. He was controlling and it suffocated me as I am free spirited and I learned to ignore his manipulative tactics.
Now since the last couple of years I find I don’t think about him anymore. I care about him because I have known him since I was a kid and we have grown together but I find myself doubting if I want to marry him. I was once so sure of it but now I don’t know about my security (he’s in his late 20s and not employed). I want my children to have a good life. It’s a chore to talk to him when once upon a time I’d get excited when his name would flash on my phone and I’d wait for his call or I’d call him. I forget to call him now and I prefer it when I don’t speak to him. He’s become a nuisance and I would prefer to get on with other things and be left alone. He has noticed this shift in behaviour and always mentions it but I don’t understand what I’m feeling and don’t know what to say.
