My boyfriend (now ex) told me he lost interest in me because I said blacks in America steal more?

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So I was discussing with my boyfriend (now ex) one day that I would work long hours in retail stores and that most often blacks would be the ones stealing, and stats show that black AMERICANS steal more. I’m not racist and don’t think anyone is superior than other based on the color of their skin. But he argued over it and said he lost interest because of this.

he now said thats one main reason he ended it with me? Is this a good reason?

bbbrat · Accepted Answer

Yeah, bro you are racist...

Like you seem awfully interested in the statistics of Black theft, okay, but how about Black poverty? Why are Blacks such a large group of systemic poverty, HS dropouts, unemployed and other discriminatory statistics that show that they’re being forced to bear the sufferings of society? You’re willing to investigate that Blacks steal, but not why they steal. And your experience in retail probably lends that you’re going to be more suspicious of Black people, as racial profiling contributes to the high crime statistics. And as to why so many white people can get away with their crimes. So maybe research that.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

Yes, if racism is something that is a big turn-off or pet peeve for him and you appeared to have that trait, I understand why he would lose interest in you because of it. Even if you aren't actually a racist, if he got that idea about you, than in his mind, that's what's most important. He is judging by what he heard you say, regardless of what the meaning was behind it.

Liam_Hayden · Accepted Answer

Any reason is a good enough reason. But statistics are statistics. If we hear about a drive by in Chicago, most people will assume it is a young black man. If we hear about a school shooting, most will assume a young white man. There is nothing racist about it, because it is based upon statistical analysis. It becomes racist if people broad brush or prejudge a specific individual based upon those statistics.

In other words, if I hear about a school shooting and assume it was a white guy, that is normal. If I look at a random white kid and assume he's a school shooter, that is prejudice. Same dynamic with a black kid.

David92506 · Accepted Answer

STEREOTYPING: "A stereotype is a mistaken idea or belief many people have about a thing or group that is based upon how they look on the outside, which may be untrue or only partly true. Stereotyping people is a type of prejudice because what is on the outside is a small part of who a person is."

It's one thing to say, "I've noticed that quite a few Blacks believe that they are living in a systematic racist society. However, since there are over 30 million Blacks in the USA, there must be millions and millions who don't see it that way. But it's another thing to say, "Blacks say they live in a systematic society."

doe9de · Answer

No his reasoning was poor what you say is true. I'm not a racist by any means but blacks do tend to steal and commit other crimes more often as specially in the city's. There not bad people but blacks tend to have lower income and are the majority of the homeless in the world and thus tend to break the law to get by so they can get food and so on. As a result of this they get cought up with drug dealers and the drugs themselves.

chriscdi · Answer

not really, people are allowed to have their own opinions, if he can't live with it then he is going to have trouble finding someone that will be willing to accept him

_SOARER · Answer

That's a bullshit reason tbh  Especially if he isn't black  On of my ex-girlfriends worked at a mall, she said the same thing  I broke up with her, but that had nothing to do with it

Dinklex3 · Answer

Stats don't show that they steal more. Just shows that they get "caught" more.
He doesn't need a "good" reason to end it with you. He just wasn't feeling you anymore. Move on and find someone you vibe with.

Anonymous · Answer

Criminals are more often black (true statement). Black people are more often criminals (true statement). People are criminals because they are black (racist lie/ false statement). People from poor single mother households are likely to grow up to be criminals (true statement). A lot of black Americans are in poor single mother households (true statement). There are factors at play independent of skin color, but unfortunately that is what people choose to look at.

itsjustlew · Answer

uhh is your boyfriend black because that could make it even worse... but it’s pretty not okay to say that especially in front of a partner whether you agree with it or not it’s really negative and doesn’t need to be said

Simplismilez · Answer

I dont think you're racist but I dont think that was something that needed to be said or pointed out.

abc3643 · Answer

Yep, you blew it. Your racism came through. Move on. Try KKKdating. com.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

If that's a fact then apparently he doesn't like facts. I would say it was never going to last anyway if that's the case.

Paul09 · Answer

Poor and lazy people are usually the criminals. Maybe in your area it's more blacks, very possible. But not really a good reason. His loss, time to move on.

Feelaa · Answer

Doesn’t matter what reason he gave you , it was on his head for quiet sometime to break things up with you... you should say “ok” and never ask the reason for break up. That would hand him the power over the break up situation

AcidT0y · Answer

If that's something he feels strongly enough about to break up with someone over it then your relationship was never going to work so breaking up was probably better for both of you.

Anonymous · Answer

My guess is that you two would have argued about other things and if he is so sensitive then you're better off split up

Anonymous · Answer

Its your opinion. he's not working your job so he shouldn't be ignorant about your experience. In certain states yes. Some others are equal. Its a dumb reason to break up but then again men are stupid at times. He just happen to be stupid this time.

jmf909 · Answer

Who cares you have adked why he split he told you answer deal with it its over move on

Anonymous · Answer

Did he get mad when you said the sky is blue or 2 2 = 4? No, it's not a good reason. He's an emotionally inclined young man who can't handle facts because feelings are more important.

TeddyGotT · Answer

Obviously the guy is very sensitive but you should count your blessings that he did ditch you

Jess1812 · Answer

No, it isn't.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have left ya too

COMMODOREII · Answer

For being racist? Yeah.

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