What have I lost interest in sex with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

We don't have sex often which frustrates him. After the pregnancy scare, we continued to have sex but I slowed it down. I lost interest in sex. The last time we had sex was days ago because he complained we weren't having enough. We hadn't had sex for several weeks. I was on my phone keeping track on days we had sex for my period and got a flash back of the pregnancy scare we had.

About a few months ago, I had my first pregnancy scare with him. It went on for several weeks. In the beginning, he was there for me and still continue to have sex with me during it. He would even lay on my stomach. In the middle of it... A few days out of nowhere, I stopped hearing from him. I texted him all week multiple times a day and he would barely answer and wouldn't answer his phone. In the middle of the week, I sent a text threatening to keep the baby and us breaking up. We both agreed to not keep it if I was pregnant. He finally texted back that he didn't want me to give it up anyway but that was the only text he sent. The last day of the week, he finally calls me and has a normal conversation with me. He mentioned he's been busy all week and had no time for me. So I mentioned me still feeling sick and it made him angry and told me that I needed to take another test cause it's scaring him then hangs up. I tried calling back several times but no answer. So I ended up getting my period. I didn't tell him tho. He finally called me a few days after the week but this time didn't say he was busy, he was stressed. He wouldn't give a full explanation but was texting me sexually things.

I let it go and just took it as he was stressed. Fast forward, months later we are still together but completely lost interest in sleeping with him. Ever since I got the flashback about the scare, it scares me. When we argue I hold this over his head and he tries to find something I did wrong to him (which I never did). What should I do?

[ohshee]

First of all you need a big fat fucking hug I feel so bad that you really do this if I was going through what you were going to I wouldn't want to have sex either if your boyfriend could not understand you have just gone through what you are going through can you need to walk away from him what you're doing is the hardest thing in this world anybody could do and you just need to be held this is why women are badass this is why women are tougher than men to go to everything that you are going to right now and then have to deal with this on top of it I wouldn't want sex either I would tell him to fuck off that's the last thing in this world that you want is for him to put his dick inside you and get you pregnant again you have to carry it for 9 months and then you have to give it up bulshit your boyfriend is a blink blink blink something else unreal I am so sorry that you have to go through this I hope you you can find the right answer for you and only you not for him my God that just pisses me off everything you have gone through and he doesn't give a fuck he's just thinking about himself again fuck him I'm sorry and I'm not sorry I'm sorry I feel bad for you but he he would have to go if I was you I'm sorry if he's that fucking selfish the only think of himself

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Seems like you and he don't want the same things it's obvious you don't want the baby and he does and he's tired of being manipulated and dangled on a string. Therefore since in some ways he's getting tired of stressing and dealing with games he'd rather entertain himself or focus on work and probably other things then deal with all of that not to mention if you just rationing out sex or you never in the mood for it and he is how was he supposed to interpret that and why should he have to go through the same things that you are mentally without no real explanation. My thinking is he's thinking it's unfair it feels very much cheaper but you got to be realistic and tell him that you have no interest in being pregnant or not that often for sex. It's just not within your design or desire

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

You've been fucking with his head and playing games. Kids are a serious consideration for the responsible father-to-be especially if its their first one. Society places high expectations on men and their role in raising children. I think he's an idiot for staying with you at all but you're fortunate he's still interested, so rather than focus on sexual desire being there or not I would say this: dig deep and rekindle or nurture genuine feelings for him instead or let him go. With genuine feelings comes sexual desire.

[Staximus]

It's not 1897 anymore. Maybe you should try those things called condoms or birth control pills, or both. If you're too dumb to use those, try an IUD, getting him to get a vasectomy, or get your tubes tied.

[IsoUser]

Just use common sense and birth control. Just my humble opinion

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the pregnancy scare isn't the cause of this?

[spartan55]

Ever heard of birth control?

[Luckycharms12]

Use condoms or birth control

[007kingifrit]

maybe you should get some... real birth control?

[SignedAutographs]

Pregnancy scare?