Why does everyone crave for a relationship these days? Anyone content with self-love?

[Altheavas]

Do people realize their true love is actually within theirselves. They are spending a lifetime with theirselves. No can actually bring them true happiness, they have to find it within themselves first.

Realizing that self-love and personal fulfillment are essential is a significant insight. Relationships and connections with others are meaningful, but finding happiness within oneself is crucial. Understanding, appreciating, and caring for oneself can lay the foundation for healthier, more fulfilling relationships with others.

[dynamicyandere]

I’ve was voluntarily celibate for an entire year when I was about 19.


It was once the happiest times of my life.


I was just focused on getting into shape, getting good grades, and making lots of friends.


Professors were interested in meeting me outside of class to dive deeper into topics.


And, ironically, I had more girls wanting to date me during my pledge of celibacy than before.


Everything in my life during my freshman year of attending university was great.


Yet…


There was still a void in my heart.


Something felt missing.


Despite everything else being in order, there was this piece of my that felt missing.


And, I’ve come to realize that I am a being that needs to express and experience love with another person to fully feel fulfilled.


It’s sort of like, having an unfulfilled dream.


Imagine someone who has always wanted to sail the ocean, but never did so before they died.


It’s not like they wouldn’t be able to function without fulfilling that dream. But, without fulfilling that dream, they will always feel this unrest in their heart until their dream is realized.


I believe that it’s normal and healthy to desire to love and be loved.


A life of celibacy is not for everyone, and probably not for most.


But, as many users have pointed out, self-love is an important prerequisite to loving others.


If you don’t know how to be self-sufficient and if you don’t know how to take care of your emotional needs on your own, you will end up taking more than you give in a relationship — you’ll be running on empty with little to spare.


However, if you are self-sufficient, and you know how to love yourself, you now have the energy to give to others — you’ll be overflowing abundantly with love and energy and a desire to share that with someone.


Self-love is a prerequisite to loving others in a healthy way.


But, loving someone else other than you is a fulfilling next step, to feel fulfilled.


Just like food and water will always be immediate needs. But, as a next step, a sense of belonging will definitely give someone a fuller and more fulfilling life.

[dynamicyandere]

One of the happiest times*

[Altheavas]

Agreed, if you don’t love yourself, you’ll probably become more of a problem to another person than a partner.

[dynamicyandere]

100% It’s difficult to take care of the emotional needs of another when your own emotional needs are not met.

But, if you know how to be self sufficient with at least the majority of your emotional needs, then you’ll have more energy to spare on loving your partner.

A significant other should ADD to your happiness but they should never be solely responsible for your happiness.

Our happiness is our own responsibility and it’s an impossible burden to hold our partner responsible for our own happiness. Not only does that put enormous pressure on them, but it’s also outside of their control.

If one can not control their emotions, it’s not their partner’s responsibility to control them on their behalf. Self-love, like self-mastery, is something we must learn to do for ourselves.

Just like self-respect isn’t something that others can just give to us. Self-respect is something that one must build from within.

The more developed someone is as a person, the better they can be as a partner.

Many people jump the gun and try to get into relationships without developing themselves, and it just leads to dysfunctional relationships.

[Altheavas]

Beautifully stated according to me. A few of you get the point, they don’t understand loneliness and owing self-love and being content.

[dynamicyandere]

Thanks! 🙂

[WhiteSteve]

I definitely hear and agree with most of what you’re saying, I guess I just would stop short of saying it should make the need for relationships with others inherently unnecessary.

I think the issue is more about people not having self-love, and depending on someone else to love them. Without them they’re unloved, so they feel tethered to someone who may show them some love, but also may not be good for them in other ways. That’s where you don’t want to be.

If you love yourself AND someone else loves you…. now you’re cookin’.

But you want that self-love to be the constant baseline, so you can let in people who love you not out of necessity, but because you want to let them in and they will bring positive value to your life without accompanying toxicity.

[Altheavas]

YES, EXACTLY!
If you don’t know how to love yourself, how will you teach others on how to love you… !

[Lliam]

I agree completely, WhiteSteve. Well said.

[WhiteSteve]

@Lliam cheers👊

[Finchie40]

Because most people are scared to be lonely, they want to feel wanted and accepted and Loved , and most of all sex with someone that stays loyal to them and each other

[Daniela1982]

Want to be wanted? You mean like this?
https://youtu.be/gMbZaU2kDk4?si=tlRu_rG6MTf7yfFV
https://youtu.be/ByTNWvmTGdM?si=eA8mVJlE12VWmziZ

[Finchie40]

Exactly lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think it’s something exclusive for our times, If people didn’t crave love and companionship, civilization would die out.

[Avicenna]

There are plenty of people who probably agree with you given the relative lack of interest in relationships these days.

[systemsareyo]

Or the pressures that exist/societal changes

[SeymourBill420]

In my opinion and what I've seen in the past 2 years of attempting to date online, LOL which is a joke. To me it seems like more women want to lie on their backs in their bedrooms at night shoving dildos inside of them and have thousands of guys tuned to their only fans page so that they can get out of having a real job and make a tremendously good income from this. And then obviously if you're doing this in a lot of situations depending on the outview of your partner you may not be able to do this type of behavior if you're in a relationship. Because it definitely is and could be looked at as a form of cheating. But, in the two years I've been single I've had done nearly 5,000 conversations with women on various dating apps. And a lot of them are harassing me trying to get me to want to buy what they call content. And I have to remind them that porn is free in hundreds of places all over the internet. And this free porn is a lot better than this paid for content as human desires for porn change depending on the day or sometimes more frequent than that when you're watching porn. So there's definitely a lot more genres to choose from with free porn then just watching a girl dildo herself in her bedroom at night. And they call that shit hot, they call that shit fun. So, that's why I think women want to remain single, is then they would have to give up their cushy coo lazy lifestyle

[systemsareyo]

I find it easier just not to engage and enjoy a quiet merry single lifestyle with good friends, family and good hobbies and a clean relaxing brain 🧠 at the end of each day, unwind on a walk or a TV viewing

[SeymourBill420]

The only people that would agree with that is selfish self-exorbed people. People that do not know how to give in a relationship. People that want everything their way for themselves. Mainly we call those only Childs. This is why I will never date and only child anymore. But, this is the main reason why relationships fail is because a lot of people nowadays are self-exorbed, and when you're self-exorbed you're not suitable for a relationship. Both parties in the relationship need to be giving. If you enjoy giving, then it's no problem for you. If you'd rather receive then give, then the relationship would probably fail. Believe me, I've met a lot of selfish women over the years.

[systemsareyo]

Okay then Seymour or Bill. Anyways, be cool and have a relaxed attitude to life and you'll be fine. Anyways, please don't mind me. I have some Television to enjoy 📺📺📺👀

[TheSpaceGnome]

Your logic goes out the window when you realize that finding a big tiddy gaming buddy who likes all the same stuff is part of self love. Or more generally, finding what you want is part of caring for yourself.

Happiness is about having everything you want in life. I want lots of things, one of those is a wife I can relate to and spend all my time with.

Thats not going to "come from within", I'm not a waifu cloning machine.

In fact nothing I want comes from within (aside from skills/talents, but even then i'm focused on the task, not my competency). I'm very outwardly focused, I don't need to "love myself", thats for insecure people with no life who actually spend time worrying about their own value (as if it wasn't completely subjective and pointless to think about). I'm far too busy thinking about monsters and robots and space and boobies and figuring out how everything works to be that boring and mopey.

I crave touch, sex, cuddles, intelligent conversation, silly conversation, couch co-op, creativity expression and collaboration, shiny collectables, amazing technology, fancy clothes, a fancy house, etc.

These are all environmentally driven. They are things I look for and obtain. No amount of self reassuring talk is going to make those things appear, people have to find them and make the effort to add them to their lives.

[Altheavas]

You’re pointing at loneliness, while you have already find what self-love is like for you! Everything that you need and want that make you happy, since you know what they are, you set those bar to someone similar to yours to be a great match.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its actually mostly boredom.

Being alone is boring, interactions ease boredom and bring excitement, joy, pleasure, and comfort.

Love is merely the promise of continuing said interactions for life. A sort of contract if you will, but one made on mutual enjoyment and security instead of profit.

But yes a similar minded wife is the bar I've set for myself to find.

[SeymourBill420]

True love is definitely not within yourself. If you are the type that need the presence of somebody else in order to love yourself or appreciate yourself more or be happy you're more. Then you are not into self love because if somebody's difference in your life makes you a better person, and then if since you don't have somebody in your life makes you a more miserable person, how can you love that? So self-love might exist with selfish people.
But that's why they're called selfish people for a reason. Because they only think of them self. That's why they're called selfish people. But some of us are not selfish. And, this doesn't have anything to do with gender. This just has to do with being self-exorbed or not. And it's not good to be self-exorbed. They call that conceitedness also.
And, I don't see anyone that is craving no relationship nowadays. Because, if they were craving a relationship, then I would have at least had one date and two years and then see if a relationship was possible. And I've been looking for a relationship for the past 2 years. And been unable to find it. So, I think you're outtake on reality is quite a bit off.
And I definitely think there's more people out there that want somebody else in their life so they don't end up old dried up and bitter as what women usually do when they're single for so long and haven't had what they need. I've seen this all the time they're called karen's. They're all over facebook. Those are the self-absorbed people that are so self-exorbed that when you push everybody away in your life, that's what you become miserable. I think the self-exorbed is only in the younger people. Because they think that they can do it alone, but those are the same people that are asking complete strangers for money.

[lightbulb27]

That's all true and first most important. The Bible covers this topic and in some ways says... stay single and serve God... e. g. it's easier to do that when you don't have so many other responsibilities. You can make your own decisions. I was single into 50yrs old... I lived that.

However, there are reasons to be in a relationship... the Bible covers this as well. "Two are better than one...", companionship, etc... Together with my wife, we accomplish more and I work less... that's good right? I used to work myself all day, I can rest more now. No doubt when two are working together, they can be more productive. Granted, it can take negotiation and tradeoffs at times... that's relationship... that's not bad, in some ways, it leads to new adventures you'd never thought of.

Everything is easier when you are younger and you don't think about "down times"... you don't need any help. As you get older or when mis fortune happens, you are going to want "family" for they should be first contact to provide support, followed by community. We lost our community in this modern world and in many ways... are sticks dangling in the wind when something goes wrong. That's left a lot of people in a bad and desperate place... need to watch some videos for evidence?

So the other part of your question is... it's an excuse and avoidance... deflection. Why, because most people want closeness, trust, intimacy, etc.. but due to life's wounds... they avoid it... the very thing they want. We then find ways to justify our feelings. That be my case as I was an expert at avoiding my own issues and difficulties. It took many sufferings and working through with my wife's support to get to the other side of the issues that were holding me back. By that time I lost my chance to have kids of my own.

It's your life and you do what you want with it, but examine your thinking and motives.

[HawkPerception]

I'm sick of this "self love" movement in society that is pushing people to not seek relationships, especially women. And when they're old and grey they'll regret it because they'll see others with families and loved ones around them while they're cold and alone.

Our biological desire is to mate. We are social creatures. People go insane from being alone for long periods of time. Happiness comes from experiencing things with loved ones. Companionship, physical intimacy, someone to lean on when you're feeling down... these are all important aspects that help with mental stability.

Finding someone to sail with together in life should always be the goal. Don't just give up because of past trauma and lack of trust in people in general.

[HawkPerception]

I would also add that you don't absolutely need to love yourself and be purely positive energy before getting into a relationship like what the movement is suggesting.

Normal people have ups and downs and insecurities. A partner is meant to be there, support them and get through it all together with them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@HawkPerception
I don't have any insecurities, and I still agree with everything you said, also happiness comes from freedom and fun activities/hobbies as well, which are always better with a mate.

[mstbooblover]

Let it be clear that a relationship can't be reduced to only sex ! It's a complex whole of elements where partners can help and complete each other in different ways.

Self love on the other hand does not exist, at least narcissism set aside (a form of idolatry), and has certainly no connection with masturbation. Pleasing oneself is a natural, amusing and healthy way to relieve stress, which can be done alone or with a partner. This being said while keeping in mind that making love always involves some form of masturbation.

[Altheavas]

Uh! Thank you for your comment, you went quite far 😂😂😅! I was talking about sex, making love. But yes you are right to that extent too!

[Altheavas]

I wasn’t talking about… I meant

[Miristheiss]

It is hard wired into our being. All creatures long for this. To reproduce and mate. Humans take over a decade to become mature and survive on their own. They NEED parental involvement for many years... hence humans pair bond for long term verses just one brief mating session and bang, the offspring are mature within one season.

No, humans need a family unit for a long time. We are also hard wired for a deep connection, intimacy, being loved and accepted. Our faculties are WAAAAY above just basic animal impulses.

[Altheavas]

I agree!

[rgii55447]

Because just as no one else can replace yourself, you can't replace anybody else. Nobody can experience anybody but themself, and when you find a special other who will always be themself and will always experience existence as themself, and you love them for it, no amount of self love could ever replace that, just like no amount of loving them can replace your need for self love, bit goes both ways, because you know you aren't the only one who is, but you are still as important as a one as any other one.

[1ash-Silver]

There are a lot of people that can go without a relationship but the thing is this is circumstantial. I believe that when someone has self-love its great as long as they are loved by people as well not specifically a partner but friends and family because everyone deserves love. I mean when I look at bad people even they want love.

We can do with love from others but without it we can still be happy as long as nothing major hits us we will be fine until we feel like we really need it.

It's best to be alone until you meet your kinda perfect. We were designed to be with someone by God so it's natural . Have you ever watched From Scratch where Lino is dealing with the fact that he is going to die but he says to Amy she must share the love she has with someone as it is too beautiful to not share it. That scene was powerful for me , I had realized right there that my love is absolutely beautiful and it would be a shame to let it go to waste.

[Lliam]

I agree with what you said 100%. A relationship can't be healthy unless you first have regard and respect for yourself. If you don't like yourself, you won't be able to understand why anyone would like you. You won't trust them. You may even treat them with the same disrespect that you have for yourself.

A person who doesn't feel complete because they aren't happy with their self, will not find completeness with another person. If anything, they will be needy and wind up sabotaging a relationship.

That isn't to say that being in a relationship isn't wonderful. But it only works well if both people love themselves as well as each other. Then it's bliss. I mean, I don't know how someone could claim to love their self but not love anyone else. And going through life alone would suck.

[SeymourBill420]

This is not exactly true. Because some people that are alone and lonely for a long period of time they sit there and they wonder why they're alone and lonely especially when you are a person that almost all women desire in multiple ways. So, when you're sitting there wasting hours of your life on dating apps or trying to get somebody to pay attention to you, or respond to your message when you send one versus ignore you and not even engage in conversation with you. And then you sit there and you wonder are you ever going to find somebody or are you going to die before that? You are unable to be happy with yourself when you are not able to engage in the things that make you happy.
I mean, for instance. If you're an alcoholic, and you lived in the 1920s, and prohibition happened. And you love drinking. The government just told you right to drink, you can't do it, are you really happy being forced not to do what you love to do?

So, this is why in some cases, or most cases, if there's nothing fun or happy that happens in your life, then you can't be happy. It's impossible. So, that's when you need to start getting what makes you happy in order to start making you happy.

For instance, I used to be this fun happy-go-lucky guy that used to crack jokes at the rim of an opportunity freestyle just to get somebody to laugh or smile or giggle or what have you. I used to be upbeat. Then when my wife abandoned me and my family. That guy that used to be jovial left. And then now he's this miserable creature because he doesn't have what could make him happy. So, take my own life as an example to prove what you're saying is not exactly true about happiness and relationships. Because it's very obvious when you don't get to do what you love to do, you can't be happy

[MasseurDeMojo]

We all are wired to crave being with someone. The first thing that has to happen before one can get into a relationship, is know yourself!! If you do not know who you are, then you are not able to be with another person.

I know who I am, I know myself. I also know that there is a desire to be with another person. Because I know myself, and how to care for myself, it makes it easier to meet someone and learn about them. I also open them up, by showing that I do know myself.

Learn your self-care first, then once you know yourself; seek out your one.

[LivingExample]

Everything you said is True, but God Designed us to become One with another person. Sometimes that does not happen, but there is still something on the inside Craving a relationship. Please be careful Not to try to fill that “crave” with drugs or other bad things!

[Altheavas]

Okay! I agree Biblically/spiritually you’re right we’re designed to communicate, pair and procreate.
Jumping to an important subjects you brought up.
I didn’t know that crave influence others to seek to fill it with drugs…!
I learn something new, I am not that aware about drug abused, and how they feel. I don’t understand their pain fully, I even stigmatized it, but deep down these people seem to be in pain and wanted to quit. I thought that could be just an addiction.

Wow, that’s deep. I feel bad, but I can’t bring myself to sympathize and close with anyone who ever had a history with drugs.
I don’t know how to feel about this.

I don’t like to discriminate but here I am…! 😣

[tfan1]

I’m happily married to a beautiful Chinese wife and we have a wonderful 11 year old son together. She’s on menopause and sex doesn’t even enter her mind but that’s ok. I won’t cheat on her and I give myself self love all the time. It’s called Masturbation 😉👍🙂

[Altheavas]

Yes sir! 😂

[Nikki1989]

Because it is a natural desire. Anyone who claims they are happy being alone are delusional, and it always catches up with them eventually. There are reasons why most single people on this website are so bitter and twisted?

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Happy memories of loneliness is hardly something to aspire to. We are social creatures and at the end of the day, no one wants to wither and die alone with only blood relations and the rare friend who hasn't died yet to mourn us or even remember us fondly.

[Joshydavid25]

Humans are born with self-love which is basically just selfishness or putting yourself first.. It's apart of our nature.. To crave relationships means to crave companionship and someone to share your life with.. Someone to be selfless for..

You see humans maybe selfish by nature but there's something within us that wants to be selfless for somebody.. To think about someone besides ourselves.. To love somebody besides ourselves..

[DextroShade]

Let's be real here, the only people celebrating loneliness are feminist women who don't realize that dying alone and the preceding decades of loneliness won't be as fun as they think. The most miserable class of human being is single childless women in their forties.

[PeachyPie93]

Because love is like an addiction, the beginning is always fun and exciting. Self love is fine and all but it is boring being alone. On that point though, it's not so easy to find a partner in this day and age because people don't actually want to commit or be loyal. Either because they don't have to since they have plenty of options or they are just broken inside.

[Somoneelse]

I believe because that's how the recent world promotes/conditions it. Being single = being lonely and unsuccessfull. Being in relationship = success.

Loads of people crave to be loved, but the only thing they can't do is to love themselves first.

[Account]

I dont crave a relationship. The only times I recall being at my calmest were the ones I was on my own.

[Altheavas]

Man… I know that feelings!

[Account]

@Altheavas 🤗

[Altheavas]

❤️😂@Account

[systemsareyo]

Because let's just say it's a heck of a lot nicer to have a fellow adult woman warm body rather than just always being about self-love as much emotional as much physical. The same reason why woment don't just settle for toys and single lifestyle lol 😆😉

[systemsareyo]

Typo, hahaha, women. Not woment. Lol

[Cutegirl06]

Everyone is afraid of being alone. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for the wrong reasons 💯

[Altheavas]

Agreed

[Daniela1982]

Hey, a lot of guys are great at self-love. Give them a break.

[Lliam]

🤣🤣🤣

[Djaay]

What exactly do you really mean by that?

[Kelly6]

@altheavas

i understand what you are saying, but some have started to do this already.

but most want a physical interaction from others to see their love

[Altheavas]

Physical interaction is must to some 😜, but we shouldn’t only be with someone just for that.
If that’s what we agreed on, friends with benefits then we’re fine.

[Kelly6]

@altheavas
that does make sense too. but some of us also need a partner to encourage us and etc

[Anonymous]

Because many of men are only taught to how to treat others and not themselves.
And they can't learn because they are afraid of losing there close friends if they choose themselves.(Which is true)

Even if they choose themselves they won't be happy, as noone around them makes them miserable.

It's different for women (I don't have much idea about it) as they have constantly support for everyone around them, and if they change they aren't bashed to do that
Everyone mostly accepted it and moves on.

[wiltingrosepetal]

There's no 'these days' about it. Society has always been obsessed with dating

[Altheavas]

True

[NathanDavis]

whether or not in a relationship... I do have self-love

[Altheavas]

Sure, but some think that life ends without the other partner. Not being in a relationship is indispensable for them, and created trauma over trauma instead of healing.

[NathanDavis]

I never had something like that... does not sound healthy at all

[Altheavas]

Yup! Unfortunately, I’ve seen, and heard it more than I can count. It’s ridiculous..!

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm done with men and relationships for some time. Maybe longer. I'm content with myself.

[Altheavas]

I get tired of it too sometimes. It’s definitely not a must for me!

[FenixG45]

Pity

[Djaay]

BC it's Gods will for our intended design to be compatible with each other , not dwell into a selfish self gratifying self love single hop around to others type of lifestyle.

[Altheavas]

If we’re getting to Bible stories, here’s mine, lol:
Jesus was a man/son of God on earth, this man was all about self-love content with himself and loving others. He had no doubts about who he was, and satan even dared tempted him to transform rock to bread during his 40 days in the desert. So, he could have tried to please satan with his sarcastic abatements, and get along. No he set his bars high in his objective, and his disciples that wanted that type of positivity, faith, self contentment in their life followed home. His circle were made of people that were willing to walk with him, not a hater like Judas who betrayed him, and later condemned himself of his mistakes.
I don’t know of what I said makes sense.

[Djaay]

Yes that's a different love for ones self. Being born -again in the lords spirit we love ourself , but we love the love our spirit expresses to ourselves as well as sharing the love we experience. Quite different from choosing to be single just to play around with others most your life

[molonski2]

What can I say? I just completely agree 100% with the statement , finding internal love and being at peace with ones self , is the most vital love of all , as all else will stem from here.

[Paul09]

I myself have been single most of my life. Would be nice to have that right person to enter my life finally. Hard after a long time when you see everyone with someone and happy. We all want that happiness and share it with someone till the end. As much as I love my free time. Would be way better to be with that special person.

[Altheavas]

It sounds like you’re lonely. You can be content, and lonely too. Hope you find that special someone and you’re able to share that happiness and love them as well, as you’re loving yourself too.
Don’t be an emotional burden for them.

[Paul09]

I am content. I don't even mention it till someone asks about it.. I'm happy for others. What's wrong with wanting that happiness? But there are days I think about it. Anyways harder for a female to understand. You don't have the stress of asking people out.

[Charliefretz329]

It’s a combination of self love to be stable, and the inherent need for companionship. No one is an island

[Heolurt]

I don't even know what love is, I'm sure I'll never know it, I also stopped believing it was real. I'm ok dying alone.

[Altheavas]

True love, is loving yourself. That’s how I describe it

[Heolurt]

See that doesn't help, people only give answers like that when I ask what love is or if I say I don't know what it is, not one person has ever told me how it's supposed to feel, what it is to be loved, what it's like to love. I don't know love, I've never been shown it, I don't know what it is I am supposed to feel. How can I love myself when I don't know and have never known it? An no I don't hate myself, I just can't love myself.

[Altheavas]

If can’t love yourself, you can’t teach others the right way to love you!
It starts from there 1st.

[Heolurt]

So since I was born I had to love myself in order to teach my parents to love me and that's why they didn't? That makes absolutely no sense at all. Thanks for proving my point and only reading the last sentence of my reply.

[robhazelnut]

Love does indeed come from within. There is no such thing as "self love" because one cannot include oneself in onself.

[Bricealan]

I believe I share your basic POV, and even though I miss some female companionship for the last year, I feel good with myself.

[Monalisa77]

I need affection and to experience it for the firstt time!

[Djaay]

First time? What...

[Monalisa77]

yes im a late bloomer, I've had a lot of issues im working thro

[Djaay]

I'm mean like at 35 I would suppose your onl

[Djaay]

Only dealing with social issues? Is that maybe what it may be?

[Monalisa77]

no i havea lot of health issues aswell, goingfor an mri scan to findout whats wrong with me lol

[Monalisa77]

no i havea lot of health issues aswell, goingfor an mri scan to findout whats wrong with me lol if u wanna help me with situations with potentials u can have a look at my qs lol

[Djaay]

Well... generally speaking , flirtationships never turn into a relationships. One contradicts the other and sends an bad taste in others mouth about commitment.

[Monalisa77]

is that not how they start out to gauge if someones interested?

[Djaay]

Body language and speaking for questions about the moment are not flirting. Flirting says one thing in today's anomaly... not interested in commitments.

[Monalisa77]

dont really understand what u mean, did u read my qs? u dont think a guy stroking a girls hand isn't flirting?

[Djaay]

Maybe your desperation is showing... try and relax alittle and hold back alittle on your emotions

[Monalisa77]

how? he started it, if anythin he was acting desperate constantly staring n flirting despite me ignoring him

[Monalisa77]

also i find it cheeky to pass judgement on me for not experiencing it before then calling me desperate.

[Monalisa77]

Also, i came off the app because i was fed up of people obviously only wanting a shag and there was one really interested in me but he smoked.

[Djaay]

Soon as you stop putting your emotional needs before others and convert to a more compationate companion , you might be satisfied of your dating experience.

[Monalisa77]

Nah u can't axcuse me of not being nice when u judge me for lack of dating.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I'm very much content being with my own self. And it's way too better. Far from emotional dramas, stress, toxicity n negativities. I'm just in the zone of finding my own internal peace.

[Likes2drive]

I have already since I’ve been single more times in my life than with someone so I already know myself very well. I would like to spend time with someone else now that also loves me.

[serious]

Well your question is only in your title but your subject is more like a mini " my take". It is a good one though.

Yes the points you have mentioned are correct.

[Sirenboobzilla]

This isn't anything new. Self love is important, definitely. But wanting companionship is a normal thing

[azgınteke]

He who does not love himself cannot love anyone else

[Altheavas]

Uhm ❤️, I’m loving this sample quote!

[azgınteke]

thank you you can use

[SeymourBill420]

100% false for some of the things that I've stated up in this thread someplace. There's two sides every short here

[azgınteke]

@SeymourBill420 Whatever you want to say, go tell it in your own comment, don't write in mine.

[SeymourBill420]

And that is exactly what I did. I did give my opinion which was different from yours. I didn't give your opinion. Yours in my opinion different from one another. So how can I give your opinion? If mine and yours different? That is what we are out here for. Is getting somebody else's opinion. And that possibly could be different than your own because what happens in your lifestyle doesn't happen in my lifestyle or somebody else's lifestyle. What happens in my lifestyle or somebody else's lifestyle may or may not happen in your lifestyle. So, I'm not giving you your opinion I cannot give you your opinion.

[SeymourBill420]

And thank you so much, I appreciate you giving me the permission to think how I want to think.

[azgınteke]

@SeymourBill420 You don't need to answer me, I think your perception is closed, you can comment on the question, commenting against my comment is against the rules, so get out of this and make your own comment.

[Dargil]

In the end, we need intimacy, but self-love buys time.

[jahaims]

"These days". It is more common and socially acceptable to be single " these days" than a ever before.

[sticksstonesbtch]

For me, I don't want a relationship anymore simply because of the crazy men I attract. Since I can't get a decent guy to like me, it turns me off from wanting to date.

[Dreamclouds]

When you get too lost in yourself you forget to appreciate others... so I think somewhere in between is the answer

[Anonymous]

I was just thinking

Seriously, why am i so needy

I have one relationship

I'm looking for another

And i have this online stuff too

[glennos89]

Getting love and attention from someone else you genuinely like is the best feeling in the world.

[sheikalana]

These days? People been dating since forever is not something knew.

[Miah04]

These days? This something that goes back to ancient times and probably further

[FenixG45]

Self-love ain't gonna hold your hand!

[Altheavas]

It will, if you can’t love yourself, how you gonna love someone else? Is it okay to be that emotionally unstable, and cannot share your love with someone else, your insecurities, self negativities, the feelings of being worthless just at the validation of someone else.
Loneliness and self-love aren’t the same thing if that’s what you’re referring at. Nobody wants to be around negative people for too long. It’s depressing, even around people pleaser, people get tired to be around them too, so …

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's so crazy cause I see the opposite of that. Nobody wants a relationship we live in a hookup culture and everybody now a days just wants to hook up

[Danny_dan92]

I been single for 75% of my life. I’m used too it.

[Slapmynuts]

These days I'm all about self-love! 😉

[Hotboy_booblover]

Ya but I can't fuck urself.. u need another body