Can you give some examples of manipulation in relationships? What causes it and what should be done?

[snowy]

[blunty]

Manipulation in relationships, that's a tricky and unfortunately pretty common issue. It's like walking through a maze where the walls keep shifting – you know something's off, but it's hard to pinpoint what exactly.

Examples of Manipulation:

Gaslighting: This is a classic. Say your partner denies things you know happened, or twists facts to make you doubt your memory or sanity. Like, “No, I never said I’d take out the trash. You must be imagining things.”

Guilt-tripping: They might use emotional blackmail to get their way, like, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t spend so much time with your friends.”

Isolation: Gradually cutting you off from friends and family under the guise of love or jealousy. “I just want us to spend all our time together because I love you so much.”

Passive-aggressiveness: Instead of open communication, they use indirect ways to express displeasure, like sulking or backhanded compliments.

Financial control: This is a big red flag. They might control all the money, even if you earn too, dictating how you can spend it.

Causes:

Manipulation often stems from a need for control or deep-seated insecurities. Sometimes, manipulators have a background of unstable relationships or a history of being controlled themselves. It's complex, and the reasons can vary a lot.

What to Do:

Recognize the Signs: The first step is seeing the behavior for what it is – manipulation.

Set Boundaries: Communicate clearly what is and isn’t acceptable to you.

Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a professional. Sometimes, we need an outside perspective to see things clearly.

Consider Couples Therapy: If both partners are willing, therapy can be a game-changer.

Be Prepared to Walk Away: In some cases, the healthiest option is to leave.

It's not about power plays. If you’re feeling manipulated, trust your instincts. You know your situation best, and taking care of your emotional well-being is priority number one..

[Saiesh30]

Chatgpt lol 😉

[laly520]

many forms of manipulations such as gaslighting, guilt trip, passive aggression, victimizing etc

what causes it is the person being problematic n harmful seeking to control u, destroy u n isolate u from the ones who really care about u so u can't reach out for anyone to help u save urself

what should be done is leaving for good, such category of people doesn't will to change

[Finchie40]

Basically a partner that gives you ultimatums , is manipulative behavior , basically if you do this for me , then I will do that for you , if not then you get nothing. Manipulation can happen in a lot of ways , usually selfish insecure people use manipulation to control someone, to have things their way. Most females I have dated had manipulative behavior , when she didn’t get her way. Like she owned me or something. Why boundaries are important when entering into a relationship with someone , Whatever boundaries were set between the both of you , it’s best to follow thpse boundaries if you want your relationship to last and for love to grow but sadly , most girls ‘ I was in a relationship with , didn’t know how to follow boundaries , basically it wasn’t ok for me to do something but ok for her to do , so it turns into double standards , once double standards are in play it’s best to walk away from that person because they never truly valued you to begin with , they just liked the convenience of you , Bottom line , never be an option to someone , be a priority , if you aren’t a priority to them , kick them to the curb where they belong. You deserve someone that will stand by you the same way you stand by them never settle for less or you will only be hurting yourself

[Saiesh30]

Exploring this topic could be very tiring as it's quite vast in my opinion. Manipulation can occur in various aspects of life. Consider a scenario where a person, deeply attached to their family, faces manipulation from their partner who desires a separate living space post-marriage. The partner employs tactics like creating issues, to influence the perception that the family dislikes the person, urging a move after marriage.

Similarly, another example could be how a person restricts their spouse from socializing with family or friends, asserting control over their interactions.
There could be a variety of examples for this. One must emphasize upon recognizing the red flags in a relationship. It's crucial to understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship, promoting individual independence as a mutual aspect rather than a selfish one.

[RavVid]

I think there is always going to be element of manipulation in relationships and it is the oil. We all want something out of a relationship and we act in a way that is likely to deliver it.

Even pets do it. My cat has never forgotten his time on the street. He is not hungry but he wants the act of care in being given food (which he doesn't eat because he is full). But then I manipulate him into doing the things I like such as head butts and rub ups.

There is petite manipulation such as this and grande manipulation. A girlfriend might be super nice to me because she wants me to buy her an inexpensive necklace and it is more me doing something to please her that she wants. An act of care. Or a girlfriend wants me to get a loan to buy her a very expensive car which is simply extracting a lot of money out of me and is bit more than act of care.

Typically a girl will imply you will get some good sex if you do what she wants.

[nawtee_me]

Your wife not wanting to have sex with her husband until he buys her a new car.