How to manage a crush when you are in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I am in a 4 year relationship with the perfect guy. I do love him.

A couple of months ago I started a new job and I’ve met this guy. I don’t develop crushes easily, I last had one 4 years ago on my partner. However, I am obsessed with this other guy. I also think he likes me back as he makes extra effort with me. We get on so well and he’s so sweet. He’s also single. I like him so much it hurts me. We are also doing some over night work trips just me and him.

I don’t want to mess things up with my boyfriend, I still like and love him and it’s just so perfect with him and we mesh well. But this crush is too much I want him so bad.

[bobalife]

If you are truly in love, I don’t think you’ll be obsessed with someone else. Which one do you feel more with or is it just the excitement? Either you cut your feelings and be both emotionally&physically loyal. Or break up with your boyfriend before you start an affair. If you know you want the other man that “badly” why risk an overnight trip where you could potentially cross boundaries and yknow he likes you🙄

[Asker]

The over night trip is compulsory I can’t not do it.

[Anonymous]

You quit your job. It’s only a matter of time before you cheat w this other dude. If I was your man there’s no way I’d let you go back to that job. You’d either quit or we’d be done.

[Zestyassmf1997]

There’s nothing to manage. This is a relationship, not a juggling act or a buffet.

[meh51]

You better stop it