Why don't men want me 😞?

[Anonymous]

They don't even want to try to make anything work with me..

In my life, I've been used for sex or used for an ego-stroke only. I've been rejected because of dumb things or things that I didn't have control over.

I don't get how some women are able to not only get a guy to like them (flaws and all), but they get married and have a family/babies, etc.

[McLlovin]

1st thing you need to do is set boundaries. No man will respect you if you don’t respect yourself. Only treat you based on what you allow people to get away with


2. You need to develop your confidence. Confidence is sexy to both genders. The best way to do that is to workout and get that beach body going. Dont do it for men do it for yourself, that is very important.


3. Work on yourself and focus on being a feminine lady. You want to attract men, men like feminine women. That is extremely lacking in todays women, at least in the west. Some if not most women are trying to be like men, some dont even know they are operating in a masculine energy because the media has made it normal. If you do this you will be ahead of 90% of women.


-Workout with the goal of bettering yourself and building confidence.


-Work on yourself on be a loving feminine woman.


-respect yourself and set boundaries with men


Do this and not a man alive will be able to resist you.

[Asker]

I've done all that but my last ex STILL left me 😞.

.. I feel like maybe this time it's got nothing to do with me (at least 100%). It's also got something to do with them (unfortunately). I'm only half the equation.

[McLlovin]

Not everyone you meet is actually for you. Sometimes that’s not the right person for you.

[Asker]

@mcllovin Why? Because I'm not the right race? The right age? The right body shape? ? ! I also wish God would've told me earlier then. Or never introduced me to him at all.

[Joshydavid25]

I don't think we can truly answer this because there are so many factors we don't know and would have to guess it at best based on very limited information.. We don't know how you look, your personality, the chooses you make in dates, the attitude you have towards them, if you make things too easy, or if you're clingy and desperate, or the opposite. Too many factors we don't know anything about to give you a solid answer..

[Asker]

"or if you're clingy and desperate" That wouldn't turn me off. It would make me feel wanted. At least matured people will think that way. I'm not talking about an extreme personality here but don't men like it/love it if I make them feel wanted/loved? ? !

[Joshydavid25]

Of course men love if you make them feel wanted and loved.. Clingy and desperate and cute in the beginning but eventually it'll start to be a bit too much..

[Joshydavid25]

Thank you for MHO.

[Joshydavid25]

I meant clingy and desperate with an insecure guy can be cute in the beginning.. But it'll get old fast.. Some emotional independence is very attractive in a men and women..

[PonyCar]

It's a blessing, honey. Trust me.

Men enter (both short & long-term) relationships with women to get their needs met, NOT to meet the needs of others. It's not the women themselves that they like. It's what the woman does for them that they like. This is evidenced by the fact that when a woman is no longer able to meet the man's needs due to life-threatening illness, he leaves her. I work at a hospital and the oncology nurses routinely have the "prepare for him to leave you" conversation with female patients (only) because it happens a vast, overwhelming majority of the time.

Men liking you has nothing to do with anything. You don't need them. The healthiest & happiest women are those who've never gotten married or had children anyway, so consider this a head start on that. If you really want kids in your life, consider adopting or helping other women raise their kids. Most of the ones I know would be elated (& some would gladly pay significant amount of money) for the assistance.

[Asker]

The only problem I have with that is that I won't be able to spread my genetic line like I had always dreamed of doing. But yeah, after everything I've been through, that may not be such a bad idea.

[Joshydavid25]

The study shows that it's 1 in 5 meaning majority of men stay and take care of their wives.. And there could be different reasons why they leave, like making sure their wife could get taken care by the government with Medicaid.. Especially if she has a long-term illness.. Or the relationship could have been sour already and on its last leg etc.. The summary is short and doesn't really give any solid conclusions..

Also happiness is subjective and there are plenty of unhappy, unmarried, childless single women, and plenty of fulfilled marriage women with children..

[Asker]

@PonyCar If I hadn't had very real personal experiences with what you were talking about, I would NOT have believed you.

[Anonymous]

That’s a very hard question to answer w out really knowing you. It could be your personality, it could you just let people run over you. Maybe you’re insecure. Maybe you’re too pushy. Maybe your standards are too high or the type of man you expect to lock down is above your pay grade. A lot of women expect to have these top tier of men when they don’t rate it. Whether you do or not I don’t know. Are you feminine? Do you cook, clean? Are you argumentative? There’s a lot of potential reasons why? Do you have children? What’s your mentality toward men? Are you or were you one of those I don’t need a man type of girl?

[Asker]

Well, I don't think my personality is THAT bad. Also, some women can be real bitches (especially to other women), and STILL they are married with children.

[Opinion Owner]

But they’re bitches to women, not to the men. We’re not taking about women dating women, it’s man dating a woman. It could possibly be your age as well. Again I wouldn’t really know nor would anyone else really know w out actually knowing you. Have you actually had a long lasting relationship in the past?

[Asker]

Gosh, even if I was old, I still need love? Lol. Like did I stop becoming a human being (albeit a desirable one) after 40 or 45? Even 50? Jesus lol. What about THEM? So I should accept someone that age, but they cannot do the same for me? Okay, talk about hypocritical!

But anyway thanks much.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not saying because you’re “old” you don’t need love. It’s just a lot of men prefer younger women. There’s still a chance to meet someone, maybe just not as big a chance as when you are younger. This is also why you probably can’t meet someone because you’re letting your emotions get in the way rather than having a conversation. Just like a lot of women you ask me , we tell, then you get offended rather than asking more questions to possibly figure out why.

[Asker]

What do you mean I am letting my emotions get in the way? I am just a human being and I come WITH emotions lol. Imagine if someone was trying to tell you the reason you're not good enough and it's not something within your control for example such as your age, height, health status, race, or just something you had no control over. Are people just supposed to ACCEPT that? I DO want to find out why and like someone said, it's not an easy question to answer because they don't know me. All I am saying is when you insult or offend someone, be prepared to have them defend themselves or insult/offend you back, that's all.

[strateguy632]

show a picture maybe you not pretty. but i see your age. really unlikely. get pets and hobbies instead of dating.

[Asker]

Hey that's mean. I've seen women A LOT older than me have "successful" marriages and relationships so what are you talking about? Lol. And I already have a dog and lots of hobbies and loving parents. My brother is married to a good woman. She's Chinese. Maybe that's what I should do. Marry a Chinese lol. They seem to be kinder and less entitled/arrogant!

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel.. I have only been used for money or to keep them from being lonely.. no one every truly wanted me..

[Asker]

I'm sorry about that.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you. Unfortunately there are mean selfish people out there.. I'm very unattractive so I guess they think it's easy to do it to me

[Charliefretz329]

A poor outlook tends to paint potential an improper hue.

[CoolCatMar1]

Like what control over?

[clampfan101]

You can PM me if you want.

[vj0090]

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