Why do men only want me for fun but never want to commit to me?

[Anonymous]

Im that kind of woman guys want for a little moment but nothing serious….

Initially they tell me I’m very pretty or sexy, they want a piece of me but as soon as they see I don't give it up easily they don't bother they just leave... they don't even bother trying to get to know me

some tell me they respect me,

And it sucks because I’m a good woman with values I’m wifey material yet no man wants to wife me….

& it makes me wonder what is wrong with me? Am i not pretty enough to wife or at least Love? is my personality not good enough? Why do men always take me for granted?

What is wrong with me?

Why don't men ever love me or want me for anything serious?

Why don’t they fight for me?

Like I will never understand …I see all these females who cheat and do wrong by their men or women who spread themselves around through the village find love … and I can’t get any guy to commit to me and If I do get a guy to stay with me he doesn’t touch me…

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I meet these men in regular settings like at work or people who knew me in highschool who see me again after many years

[_Maya_]

It is not you, it is them. You are just not meeting the right guys. Where are you meeting guys anyhow? That might be a big part of the problem or maybe not. You are seemingly meeting guys that are just looking for hookups or one night stands. Once they figure out that you aren't going to put out and that you are not that type of girl they move on to find "that type of girl". So it isn't so much of an issue with you as much as it is the guys that you are meeting. Again... where you are meeting them might be playing a larger role than you think. I am sure there is nothing wrong with you and that you are a lovely person. You just need to find the right man. That is the hard part.

[ManOnFire]

So something is weird here. You say all these guys want you for sex and just see you as physically attractive, but then if they do stay with you they don't touch you. Can't understand what's going on there.

What I can say is that a lot of men have a "madonna-whore" complex where they are sexually attracted to a woman but aren't interested in marrying her because a sexually attractive woman is a slut in their minds, so better to use her for sex. Women who are very pretty and seem nice are the types that men look at as trophy wives they would marry, but then in the marriage they're not sexually attracted to her.

I think men are seeing you as the slut type and nothing more, which is not your fault.

[Nirmroth]

Seems like you only met those so far that wanted a hookup? Place matters a lot too, if you met a man at a bar/festival etc its very likely they seek something short too. At least I as guy would never pick up a girl at a club when I want something long term simply bec the type of girls that let themselves get picked up at clubs dont want longterm haha.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Describe your personality please, from your standpoint. And from the standpoint of others, if you have this information

[spartan55]

Assuming your real age is on your profile, you are going to put off many guys by not putting out.

[LiamJHayden]

They are users. That is their issue, and their loss. Without knowing you specific circumstances, all I can say is if possible change the types of places you frequent.

[noohair]

It is not you. Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex. That was courtship and marriage. Women wanted equality and freedom. This is what equality and freedom looks like.

[Anonymous]

Because you only seek out these types of men. Good men typically are not the most exciting men. Sorry, hate to break it to you.

[msss98]

You might be giving them that impression

[BarryLiverstone]

Lack of boundaries

[Asker]

I have boundaries… and those are what push them away