Why do men only want me for sex?

[Anonymous]

Are they embarrassed of dating me?

[Finchie40]

Cuz sadly most men today are scared of relationships,, scared of being cheated on or lied to and backstabbed , I blame social media for playing a big part on damaging the foundations of relationships. , most people today are selfish and only care about themselves, and most people today have a hard time trusting each other, To truly know someone’s true intentions sadly takes time , We never truly know what someone’s true intentions are , we can assume good or bad but we never truly know. Someone can tell you they love you every day but secretly behind your back they are screwing someone else and stringing your heart along , Why I no longer give my heart fully to a girl until I feel she is giving back to me the same I am giving her , Girls can be players as well , so it goes both ways , what most girls don’t realize about men is most men express their feelings to a girl through sex , Sex is important to most of us men , if we aren’t receiving sex from a girl we give our heart to , we feel unwanted and unappreciated , and feel she truly doesn’t value us or love us we feel she is just using us until something better comes along , or we assume she is already screwing someone else and yes Girls deal with the same shit from guys as well. so the truth is , it’s always going to be a 50/50 chance on whoever we meet. All we can do is find someone that prioritizes is the same way we
Prioritize them , if you are not a priority., kick them to the curb where they belong

[Asker]

Very helpful insight thanks. But what if they want it only on the first date. Surely that screams fuck boy.

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s something that is still a 50/50 chance , cuz I am not going to lie , their have been times I went on a date with a girl and we ended up in bed that same night , so it comes down to chemistry and connection with each other , I am not saying just have sex with anyone but if you feel a positive connection with someone then why wait and contemplate just Go for it , If it’s with someone you are completely unsure of then take the time and get to know each other. There really isn’t any right or wrong way when you meet someone that you really like and want to be closer to , so again that comes down to your own decision on what you want not anyone else’s decision , Most people are judge mental based off of their own personal experiences, it doesn’t mean you are going to have the same experiences that they had. When I meet a beautiful girl my intentions is to bring her closer to me I don’t give a Dick what anyone else thinks or says , if her and I have a great connection that’s all that matters , if she chooses to walk away from me after we had sex then so be it , at least I tried , and basically thank you for a good time but not a long time

[Asker]

Ok makes sense and good perspective thanks

[Finchie40]

Relationships only work when both people are giving to each other , and are on the same page as things , we truly don’t know what someone’s true intentions are? It’s a game of chance we take if we really like someone and want them to be closer to us , it’s best to go for it , instead of contemplating what the outcome is going to be , we don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow , so it’s best to go for it when you meet someone you are attracted to and have good chemistry and connection with , More than likely they are going to give back the same to you , if they don’t then walk away from them and take more tome if need be. I use to be the type of person that contemplated , until I realized what is the point of doing that? We are always going to assume things when we meet someone new , Most people assume negative over positive and that’s stupid to do , why push away someone that makes you smile and makes you feel good about yourself that compliments you and wants to be closer to you? We live one time on this planet , make the best of it, Contemplating will not get you anywhere , Most people sit at home and contemplate thinking someone is just going to show up on their door step and sweep them off their feet , Good luck waiting for that shit to happen lol I just learned to just Go for it , if I really like a girl and she is beautiful not my eyes and sweet and caring to me , my intentions is to give her back the same , that’s all we can do

[Finchie40]

Being honest is the best route to go , if you have to lie to someone then you will suffer the consequences of your actions by being a liar , when you choose to be honest , it opens up so many more doors , most people don’t realize that , cuz when you lie to someone you are only lying to yourself , if you are honest with someone you are being honest to yourself , Girls that are honest with me have a better chance of getting me in bed period

[Asker]

Being honest about intentions very important. Hard to figure out the ones that will sleep with you and run

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s the chance we all take , we never truly know what the other person’’s intentions truly are , they can tell us what we want to hear and we hope they are being honest but if not , oh well that’s their loss not yours , if they choose
To walk away from you , after they had sex with you , let them go , Yes it sucks to be lied to and it sucks to feel used , but if the sex was amazing , what did you really lose? We can’t force someone to love us , we can only give to someone , what we hope to receive in return Sadly we live in a world where a lot of people are selfish and only think about what is best for them , that will lie and manipulate to get their way , I been with girls that told me everything i wanted to hear , making me feel like her and I were meant for each other , we ended up in bed together and had sex all night long , we then make plans to see each other again and pretty much rip each others clothes off again , thinking everything is amazing between her and I and then all of a sudden I get a knock on my door from her husband. So again it’s the chance we take, I have been played by girls’ and I know girls have been played by guys’ but hopefully you eventually find one that wants your heart the same way you want theirs. Most of us go through bad seeds to eventually find a good seed. When you find a good seed it’s best to keep watering it and keeping it by your side as much as possible cuz good seeds are hard to come by especially these days.

[Asker]

If the guy doesn’t wear a condom! Great advice though thanks

[Finchie40]

Make sure he wears a condom

[jshm2]

They want to "try before they buy" to see if you're worth dating or marriage.

Good on you for knowing your worth and not just giving in.

[inhua]

or maybe she already gave in and men know she already gave in thus are trying their luck also but with certain intentions only

[Asker]

@inhua they definitely don’t know

[Asker]

Thank you yes I stood my ground

[inhua]

because no man wants to commit to a woman, no other men want to commit to

once you allow a man to use you for sex, you lose all leverage and the rest follow suit

which is why body count matters

[lightbulb27]

have to know a lot more. in some cases, that may be your environment. It may be what you are projecting... e. g. some girls don't get those offers so they project and carry themselves differently so they don't get such requests.

[KrakenAttackin]

Do you dress and act like a ho? Men don't want a ho raising their children.

[Asker]

The opposite actually

[TheorionMage]

They're at that age for 'here after' hook-ups; not a lifetime's commitment search----

[richardcory]

Why might they be embarrassed? Where / how are you meeting men. Do they want sex along with other things, or just want sex?

[MementoMori777]

Why would they date you if one of the best physical privileges a woman can give a man is being given by you for free with no commitment required

[Dkc123]

Sex is a two way thing. You also get sex from him. And besides that you're the one who wants more..

[Asker]

I don’t do casual sex

[In_Trance]

Do you present yourself with anything else to offer them or do you simply meet them and take your clothes off?

[Asker]

It just seems they lie to get into bed with me and don’t want to have a relationship
With me

[In_Trance]

See my first response

[Anonymous]

Are you only giving them sex? It’s possible the guys are just garbage but what type of guy are you trying to attract?

[jahaims]

Because that's all you offer

[Asker]

Maybe to their shallow minds

[vj0090]

Why u think that way?

[Asker]

I can’t help it seems they’re creating a facade to lead me into bed saying what I want to hear kind of thing

[vj0090]

Can we connect in private?

[azgınteke]

maybe you sexy girl

[Asker]

I shouldn’t have laughed at that

[azgınteke]

değilmisin?

[cali6190]

How do you look