Long-Windedness: Which Type Are You?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Which type are you, generally speaking, on the verbosity scale?

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Fine, and you?

I'm doing all right. Had a busy day at work today but finally free! How's it going with you?

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[_Maya_]

I am the worst for reals. I am very long winded. I like to talk in real life and then also in texts. My friends hate it. I am constantly reminded of it and don’t do a damn thing to correct it. It is who I am. I like to get my entire thought out no matter how much I am going to punch those virtual keys. They still put up with me thankfully as do certain members here that can accept my lengthy opinions. I don’t think I wander much from what is asked tho. I at least address what is asked.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Yay, I actually enjoy that and was hoping to find some people in the D category (admittedly exaggerated)! My wife is one of the few people I ever met who have this quality in common with me, and it was actually a source of teasing among our mutual friends that we both had this writing tendency in common.

At least in the case of my wife and me, I think it's in part because we never adapted to the age of real-time text communication. We instead mostly developed our writing styles through handwritten letters and later e-mails which might take hours to deliver. Especially for handwritten letters, it would be painfully slow to simply write, "Fine, HBU?" only to take whole days to deliver.

I speak very differently from how I write (much more back-and-forth) although I do love to engage in very active conversations. Anyway, I'm happy to find another who has this quality in common!

[_Maya_]

Some don't find it a quality 😆. My girlfriend will eventually roll her eyes at me. Online, surprisingly, I'm less a mess of a talker. Irl I am way worse. I get warned at work to make more drinks and talk less with the patrons on a regular basis. Whoops.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think I'd enjoy the chattiness. I also worked part-time as a bartender long ago (just a small and cozy bar, so it wasn't so busy) and the conversations were the highlight for me, although some veered into strange directions when people had too much.

[_Maya_]

Oh yes. Too much liquid courage is not a good thing a lot of the time. I work in a bigger club/bar and the peak hours you don't really have time to chat as much as I want to.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That sounds considerably more stressful to me. The one I worked at was a bar my friend owned and the teeniest bar, and it wasn't uncommon that I'd just have one or two customers to talk to the whole time. I actually loved that job but the bar shut down permanently over the pandemic (not enough business).

One time I had a customer who drank way too much though and she bit me on the neck claiming she was a vampire. Had bloody teeth marks on my neck. 😂

[_Maya_]

Vampire? 😆 Now that is a crazy bar story. Mine or more akin to being hit on and the occasional but not so subtle brush against my boobs or ass if I'm out from behind the bar. Oh yeah and bending down to pick up a case of beer to stock a fridge, I get my eye roll ready for when I pop up.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That sounds like you'd need quite the thick skin and assertiveness. Are you allowed to drink on the job? I was allowed although it's the only time I very carefully moderated it since it'd be horrible if I got drunk while bartending, but I'd join a customer in a drink every now and then which helped to engage in some tipsy conversations.

The thing about Japanese drinkers is that most Japanese are fairly shy and reserved when they're sober. You've probably had some experience with the shy ones; they can turn into a wildly different character when drunk. The girl who bit me was one of those, extremely shy and modest when sober and then a complete monster when drunk. 😅

[_Maya_]

No we can't drink on the job. Not even if a customer wants to buy one for me. Total no no. As for shy ones I'm sure you are right but I hardly notice because it's so busy. If you want a drink from me you have to speak up and yell with the music going and all that. So hard to tell if someone is shy with that many people and all the noise.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Sounds very fun! Is it a night club with dancing? Also what sort of music if I may ask?

I used to love clubbing in my 20s so much (especially EDM clubs but my friends love hip-hop and reggae so I mostly went to hip-hop clubs). There's a kind of sexiness to nightlife in general in my opinion which I always found very alluring: neon lights, loud music, blurry nights. I tried to go with my wife several years back though and we both felt like we were too old for this now. 😅

[_Maya_]

It's basically whatever dj we have that night chooses to play but it is mostly new pop music or popular stuff within the past 5 years. It's not bad. Some djs are better than others. Being part time during school I am mostly weekends when the better ones are booked. Believe it or not I have some seniority because of the high turnover rate. So I get the best shifts that I want. Doesn't hurt being a girl either for obvious reasons.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Seems like being a woman might help with the tips as well! Here we lack that type of tipping culture. Very popular here though is ladies' nights where bars and clubs offer free drinks to women.

My wife loved this one in Roppongi when we started dating called 9-11 Black which gave unlimited free "champagne" (cheap sparkling wine, not real champagne) to women. But for us poor guys, even a draft beer cost ~$15 USD. 😢Sexism! 😂I wanted some of that free sparkling wine.

Music-wise, I'm so out of touch and don't know what's so popular these days. Shakira was very famous in the hip-hop clubs I went to in my 20s. I think I heard "Hips Don't Lie" over 100 times.

[_Maya_]

Tips are what I live off of. On a good night I can easily pull in $200+. Yeah being a girl helps with that. I get a line at my station towards the end of the night when people don't give a shit if they have to wait for a drink because they already had a lot. That is their "chance" to take a shot at flirting. Even in failure they tip well almost like it is a last chance.

Yeah if I rattled off a bunch of songs you prob won't recognize them. I barely do with some and I'm short of 25. I don't really hear it when busy. It is attention to mixing drinks or pouring shots.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That's such a superpower to me to be able to command that level of rockstar attention over the opposite sex. I never understood those types of guys though who literally form lines to try to get their chance at a woman. The level of ego required for that to think, "I'm the one," when surrounded by so many other guys always seemed obnoxious to me. I think what little appeal I had to women when I was single and clubbing is that I didn't want to get in the metaphorical or literal line which, itself, was motivated by a type of vanity of its own (too proud to sacrifice my sense of dignity).

[_Maya_]

The funniest thing is when my girlfriend comes in and gives me a peck and you see the hopes crash, burn and sink like the titanic. Aww... boo... is the mood. 😆

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I would have thought some of the bolder ones might want to get in between that action. 😂

[_Maya_]

Oh yes lol. Some think "hey they prob want a third" 😆 That's happened before. At least you can feel the intention.

[_Maya_]

Thank you for most helpful opinion!

[Zestyassmf1997]

Man, some of the posters on here really feel like [see image]. “Is my coworker looking at me a sign that he likes me?” They follow it up with a full length novel.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I might actually be one of those closer to the D side (just in terms of verbosity). Was mainly wondering if anyone else is like that. 😅

[Zestyassmf1997]

STOP DOING IT.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Everything seems so slow though, otherwise! Like communicating in slooowwww--mooootionnnn.

[ProbablyClueless]

I can certainly chatter a good bit once I feel comfortable opening up, but a lot of people would describe me as "laconic."

[aceleon]

fine and you but minus the ''and''

[NathanDavis]

yeah