Is it right to keep continuing a relationship even though there's no future together?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together since a little over a year. We were attracted to each other from the start and had become very committed right from the beginning. After 6 months we started having a lot of fights, cause of misunderstandings and behaviour differences, but we always resolve them and go back to normal again.

What I'm worried about now is that even though it was clear that we couldn't marry each other (cause we come from different social classes) we have been still together. And we do love each a lot. But I don't know if it's right to keep continuing this, because we both know that it's not gonna happen.

Sometimes I feel like both of us are living in denial. What would you suggest me to do? Or what would you have done if you were in the same situation as me?

[TommyMountainFigure]

If you want, you can skip to the crucial part at the bottom and ignore the rest!

Let me give you a hypothetical scenario which is not as far fetched as you might hope.

You break up for good to please your respective peers. Now both single you are free to find someone that is befitting your social class. (to use your terminology)

Several useless relationships later, you realise something. Your relative social standing is not as important as you once believed, and you spend a good few years regretting your mistake, and wish you'd fought harder as a couple to overcome those boundaries.

Of course that is just one scenario. You might break up and feel a weight has been lifted, and never look back, but. and here's the point I tried to make at the beginning.. The fact you are both willing to go through the pain of knowing it can never be, yet are still fighting it? That committent to each other simply can't be brushed aside.

Just a thought, but would you perhaps consider you are asking the wrong question?

The way I see it. if two people deep down love each other, then they should fight their problems as a couple, rather than each other. That way, class, religion, family, peer pressure... None of that matters because you both make compromises to fight the world around you if you have to.

You just have to both be honest with yourselves and not treat each other as enemies on different sides both wanting your own way.

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Some of the above may or may not be useful to you, but I can summarize it in one sentence:-

If you are both prepared to make sacrifices for each other to make your relationship work, it will work. If not? Then end it!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for BA

[Billlewis]

If the relationship is in the best interests of the female, then yes.

[rosemilk]

continuing a relationship when there is no future is just a major waste of time. and also sounds like you're settling for some reason. another thing, the tons of fights. it's good that they're resolved. but what bothers me is the behavior differences. those are impossible to change. you two aren't compatible.