Have you ever accused your partner of cheating and you were totally wrong? Did the relationship recover or was it over?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

I have when I was younger , it was something I had to learn the hard way , It happens sadly to a lot of us. I am laughing at some of the answers down below , the people that said they don’t have insecurities? , the truth is everyone has insecurities inside themselves , some people just know how to bury it better than others’ do , so i am sorry to say , they are clearly talking out their asses. Cheating occurs more than we like to think it does, we can give someone our heart and hope they give it back the same , but sadly, that isn’t always the case , Cheating isn’t just physical , cheating can be emotional as well , if your partner starts investing more time into the opposite sex or their friends over you all of a sudden when they never did that before? they are more than likely cheating on you , only if you feel a huge distance between you and your partner , and your gut instincts are telling you something is off , it’s best to trust your gut and it’s also best to back yourself off of them , and let it unravel,, we can’t stop someone from cheating on us , if they want to cheat , they will cheat , so it’s best to just watch it unravel right before your eyes , if you clearly know something is off , in your relationship , don’t just assume things are off , and don’t immediately accuse your partner of cheating , if you clearly don’t have any evidence or proof that they are, it’s best to still treat them the way that you always treated them , not letting them know that you are on to them , start distancing yourself from them , the same way they been distancing themselves from you , you don’t need to explain yourself , their actions are clearly speaking louder than words , and you will see their actions. unfold right before your eyes , because once a cheater knows that you are on to them? they will cover their tracks even more. Most cheaters are great liars , and think they are great at being sneaky as well , so if things aren’t matching up with things that they been telling you? And their actions have been different around you , it’s best to start distancing yourself from them as well and start treating them the way they have been treating you all of a sudden , start doing the things they have been doing to you , start hanging out with your friends, more , start excluding them from going places with you the same way they been doing to you , when they never did that before , start excluding them from those things and act like everything is fine play their game the same way they are all of a sudden playing you , , if they don’t care about the distance you now have been giving to them? If they don’t start asking you questions about where ya been? , or what you been up to , or why you didn’t call them ? then that’s your answer to walk away from them period and understand you don’t really mean shit to them and they are more than likely cheating on you , whether they are or not , they don’t value the relationship they are in with you , so you are best to and end it with them right then and there , but if they do chase you and start asking you what’s wrong , how come you are no longer wanting to spend time with me. And go places with me , and not begging for you to be by their side , just say I just been treating you the same way you been treating me lately. Never let a cheater know you are on to them , because the second you do they will cover their tracks even more , And even if they weren’t cheating on you? Do you want to stay in a relationship with someone that doesn’t make you their top priority? Definitely reconsider that relationship and Value your self worth and realize you deserve better than that shit , I have dumped girls’ that were inseparable with me in the beginning , then after awhile they started distancing themselves from me , whether they got bored of me or they met a new group of friends etc. they started choosing those friends over me and started excluding me from going places with her , I was no longer her priority , like I was before , everyone else was her priority over me , that was my answer to walk away , you should never be treated like a convenience , or an option to someone that says they love you Someone that honestly loves you ,, wants you by their side as much as possible , I am not saying you can’t have friends , but your friends should never come before your partner period. A partner that loves you wants to see you and hear from you , they don’t exclude you from things , they make sure you are always a part of their lives , they never put their friends over you. They will consider your feelings before considering their own, it won’t always be perfect , but you will always be their top priority. If you are not a top priority to your partner , then you are best to really reconsider that relationship period , because you are just wasting your time thinking they really love you when really they don’t , they just like the connivence of you. Someone that truly loves you , will not walk away from you period

[Cody2004]

That hasn't even crossed my mind then again it is my best friend so no I wouldn't even question it at that point like if I find out that I'm being cheated on then I'm being cheated on and then I'll just cut contact though it will hurt if it happens cuz it is my best friend im with just hope to God that does not happen because that will probably destroy me considering I swore to never date until after I'm done school and I made an exception for her I think I'll be okay though considering it's been a day and she's told all of our friends in school. 🤣

[Anonymous]

i know nobody asked but the one time i caught my partner cheating i was looking through his phone. not defensive at all, i was looking through his photos of when he was younger.


found a pic he had sent to somebody else, not me, and he made excuses but he had sent the photo DURING the time we were dating.


honestly, i cheated too lol and i confessed on the spot. we tried dating for a few weeks but i had checked out emotionally, so it didn't end up working.

[electromagnetic]

I’ve never accused any of my partners of cheating. I’ve never had many but I didn’t have a reason to accuse to begin with. And in all honesty if I have concrete proof, I probably would just pack my shit and go. There’s no point in confronting them considering I’d never take a cheater back.

[Summeroflove]

Never had this happen. But I think it depends. Once trust is broken it can take time to heal, if it ever does.

[Summeroflove]

Not all cases. But many cases irs projection. If someone is overly concerned and accusatory. It could be that they’re doing it

[Anonymous]

Funny there was one ex who I am 99% sure cheated on me the week before she broke up with me. We were on the rocks and I knew the end. However my 6th sense picked up on something else. I deduced she “mentally” broke up with me (which is bs) and banged her coworker to get back at me.

I wanted to call her out on it. But I didn’t because if I was wrong that might destroy any small chance of us ever reconciling.

Hindsight is 20/20 but I wish I could go back in time and ask her one simple question: “I was loyal to you the entire time we dated. Can you say the same?”

[SolitarySolace]

Every woman I’ve accused of cheating was actually cheating. First would have other men over to “watch movies.” Another was seeing a woman on the side. The third was seeing a guy for sex in one of her senior high classes. Those are just a few. Never accused someone of cheating who wasn’t. I’ve even saw some girl who worked at a Meijer who cheated on her boyfriend with me when I was single. Didn't feel right when I found out so I decided to call it off.

[admles]

No, but I was accused once.

Broke up with her on the spot, a few weeks later she came back begging for another chance because she found out the person who told her I was cheating lied.

No, didn't give her another chance, she believed her friend over me, won't have that.

[whistlingwh0res]

yes and it recovers. but then the feelings don't go deep anymore. you break the trust. but then there is deeper problems that is a root. men love themselves only. They pretend that they love you. it's a total lie in the first place when they love someone. They love themselves more than anyone. just remember that so that you don't become a toy for the beast game.

[IslaTheWitch]

No. I trust. Until he breaks my trust. And then there is no need to accuse because it's obvious.

[boggboss]

I dont see how it does survive as the accusation shows the breakdown of trust

[Asker]

Well we all know relationships that continue and the guy or girl has ACTUALLY cheated multiple times, so literally anything is possible.

[boggboss]

OK fair point what I mean is I don't see how a relationship survives in a healthy manner with no negative damage done

[Asker]

If it were truly a mishap or misunderstanding, or perhaps a friend had told them FOR SURE they saw so and so, and you believe your friend because they've never lied to you and wouldn't make crap up. I guess it would depend how far you took the accusation at that point, like were you at least willing to hear them out and you guys sorted it all out, or were you throwing their clothes off the balcony into the dumpster without letting them at least try and defend their innocence first.

[boggboss]

For me if I was accused thats the breaking point if they asked me look my friend said this I need to to straighten this out for me but to that I would say its the same if my partner asked me to show my phones or email thinking I cheated would also end the relationship for me

[WhitneySnow]

No. This has never happened to me. The one time I accused my ex of cheating he totally did it.

[Yannae]

No I'm quite picky about who I commit too. By the time I say yes, she has already been screened through and through. I trust her. She's always been clear on where what when.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah, and then I found out she did actually cheat. The games women play.

[rosemilk]

no. also, don't accuse without proof, or else it ends up terrible.

[laly520]

nope
I won't start anything if I dont have a proof

[nawtee_me]

It would only happen once and we would not be together anymore. Relationships are built on trust and if you don’t trust me then we don’t need to be together.

[JacobJordan]

No and if it happens relationship is over. A relationship with trust is an acquaintance.

[Zoi99]

No but was being accused when I wasn’t. Calling a W without saying it. I dump her.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’ve never been wrong and neither have my dreams… every time I’ve been cheated on I saw it in my dreams first.

[worldscolide]

No thank God, I'm not that insecure. If my wife accused me, I'd divorce immediately.

[Anonymous]

I'm not the suspicious type, so I've never been in that position. I probbaly should be more though. When I found out my ex was cheating on me it caught me completely offguard.

[KrakenAttackin]

Any woman who falsely accuses her man of cheating is almost certainly cheating on him.

[12karen]

Nope, I always gather proof and viable evidence before confronting

[justabuddy]

Emotional intelligence... best to get the facts first.

[Lyndsielee666]

Never been wrong about my accusations 🥱

[DreamLife7]

Stop being in denial. He's cheating on u