Are you compatible?

[Cali86]

Do you think it's possible for 2 people who are fundamentally different be compatible?

I'm starting to realize what we prioritize in life, how we approach life, our views may be different. In the long run can a relationship like this last? Or do you need to be the same kind of person?

[CallMeDave]

It's not necessary to be exactly the same kind of person, but I think you do need to be compatible in some key ways in order to have a long term happy relationship.

I think that you need to have some common interests in order to have something to do together that is fun for both of you or else someone will always be compromising and eventually that will get tiring and frustrating.

You also need to be compatible with love languages. They don't have to be the same (though that makes it easier), but someone that wants a lot of Quality Time will not work well with someone that wants a lot of time alone and someone that wants a lot of Physical Touch will not work well with someone who doesn't like to be touched.

Sexual compatibility is important too. If you don't have that, one or both people will be frustrated and that will damage the relationship.

And once you start living together, you need to be compatible on certain things related to the home. Someone that likes to have a very clean and organized home and someone that is very messy will not likely be happy together long term.

[Drew-1990]

For the most part, no if you're completely different and have completely different values, you are not going to mix. Sometimes some people make it work but that's extremely rare. You are always going to have that divide between each other. And if you have kids one day, how confusing is that for your children? When one parent says this and another parent says that.

[itsclearlynicholas]

If I wanted to actually have a girlfriend, I know how picky and fussy and choosy I can be. She'd have to be pretty darn similar to me, yet submissive. She doesn't have to have blue eyes, a dark brown or brownish eyes. That's a start. Left handed. Political views align, has to be left to centre left to progressive, yet not the way of pronouns. Just say it's more workers rights 😁😋😜

[Anonymous]

that's how divorces happen.