Would you leave your drug addicted partner?

[Anonymous]

My children’s father has struggled with addiction for a long time, the damage it causes to me and children has been very difficult to live with at times, I feel by me staying I’ve almost been his kind of savior aside everything he’s put me through, I have been fighting so hard to be rehoused for seven months now & I am almost upon being offered a house, after I really terrible year previously I knew this in what I had to do, but I feel as though he’s getting in my head again that things will improve he said if is how him more affection and that I want him, his addictions wouldn’t be so bad. Last night when I was ready for bed, actually in bed he said to me, I need you to come and tell me what I need to hear so I can pick myself up off the floor, he says I’ve been acting like I don’t care about the relationship etc, I’ve been in this relationship for 14 years, and his addictions have been awful two years prior, I am getting older and tired and I feel the relationship is ok for a while then goes back to being chaotic again, he always finds ways to make me feel sorry for him like my feelings etc are irrelevant, I am tired & I am miserable. If you guys has a chance to make your lives better without a drug addicted partner weather he be your children’s father or not would you take it, or continue waiting in the hope of losing everything

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang sis, this is a really tough situation. Your dude has seriously messed up and put you through a lotta pain with his addiction issues. No one deserves to be treated that way, especially with kids involved.

It worries me that he's still using and putting it all on you to "save" him by showing more love and affection. That's not fair and will only drag you down too. You've gotta take care of yourself and your babies first here.

As much as it hurts, I don't think you can trust him or rely on him until he's really committed to long-term sobriety and recovery - and that has to come from within, not just to please you. You being with him isn't gonna cure his addiction.

I know leaving is gonna be hard, but staying in an unhealthy situation won't help anyone either in the long run. Focus on that new housing - your mental health and safety should be the priority right now. He needs to prove he can change for real without you, not just when you're around.

Stay strong - you've got this! Don't let him manipulate you. You did the right thing by calling his bluff before. You deserve so much better. Keep me posted if you need anything - I'm always here for you!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yes, you sniveling enabler, same as the other time you asked. When you ask next month it'll be the same answers from everyone. Stop acting like you care about your kids then keeping them in that environment. Give them to a real parent or get out of that trash you're mired in.

[Asker]

That’s why I’ve been trying to get me and the children rehoused because I don’t care about my kids ….

[BoopBoopBeep]

No you keep asking this question so you're debating what should be a pretty open and shut case of "get away from the junkie for your kids sake." JFC how shite of a mother are you to even need to ask that question?

[naartjie]

Stop asking these questions when everyone replies with …. LEAVE HIM. Girl he won’t change and it sound toxic as

[HelpfulWoman]

You had all the answers needed the last time you posted this. Screw off repeat posting already

[ChicoFromThe305]

If they choose to live with drugs and refuse to change for the better then yea, I've been in that position before and that shit ain't nice

[slatyb]

Yes, I would, to protect the children from all that drama and trauma.