Would you date a former drug addict or alcoholic? Or would you be worried they would relapse and then you would be stuck helping them?

[coachTanthony]

I would give them a chance and risk the consequences

Nobody got time for all that

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think I might have an aversion to them. I kind of love things a lot through the idea that I can help them, fix them.

I got two pet cats as an example. They were both former strays and one was possible feral (born on the streets). Both suffered severe injuries and diseases before I rushed them to the vet and my wife and I decided to keep them in our house. One of them has destroyed almost all our furniture.

I have this way about this me. Only thing that restricts me now is that I'm married. So I think I will want to do for drug addict, e. g. And he could be guy. I will want to get him shower, job, let him stay in our bedroom. Become best buds over beers. It's not even a sexual thing.

I just think sometimes that I'm so worthless as a person that all I can do to make up for it is to help someone else. And this insecurity of mine blurs into every aspect of my life.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

[*] I think I might have an aversion to them [but...].

[exitseven]

Nope, drugs are a deal breaker for me. Besides , they never really give it up.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[blackeagle007]

So you know all addicts? That’s fair. I’m in recovery. 4 months clean

[beebella]

It depends on how long they've been sober for. Majority of the former addicts that I've known have been nothing but kind and they've worked really hard to maintain their sobriety. At the end of the day, everybody has a past and it would be unfair of me to not date someone just because of how they used to live their life before they met me. So, as long as they've been sober for a significant amount of time, then yeah, I'd give them a chance.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

This is mho answer here (in my opinion )

[beebella]

@Brainsbeforebeauty

[beebella]

Also, I think the proper term is "recovering addicts." This is where an edit feature is much needed @GirlsAskGuys. 🙃

[electromagnetic]

I can overlook people who smoke marijuana but hard drugs is a real deal breaker for me. Not because I’m afraid I’ll be stuck in their loops hole but because I know for a fact it’ll be a stain on our relationship. It always starts small when they relapse. They magically lose their job, stuff around the house starts to go missing, they start to go missing.. then stealing from family members and other houses, crippling debt.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

What @beebella said…(too lazy to type lol)

[NathanDavis]

chances are that I would not...

if they had relapsed multiple times, that's a no... I would not be the best fit for them

if they're heavily addicted, that's also a no.. I would not be the best fit for them at all

if they've been sober for years and years, and they're very confident about it there might be better chances, my worries and concerns would depend on their own, and not my assumed concerns

[Bricealan]

One of the most beautiful girlfriends, at 33, turned out to be an alcoholic, and having alcohol in my family soured me on that. I could not stay with her. Later wrecked her car and nearly killed her daughter

[coachTanthony]

That is terrible

[Miristheiss]

Nope. That was a permanent deal breaker. Too many options to settle for that and take that chance. Most women drug addicts were also prostitutes as well which was a deal breaker.

[loveslongnails]

Alcoholic yes, if I thought she were strong enough. Drug addict would depend on the drugs.

[coachTanthony]

I think an Alcoholic has a better chance for simple fact it's everywhere and easy to get.

[The_Sexpert]

Yes , especially if they never relapsed
I'm a former alcoholic myself but never relapsed

[nawtee_me]

Why would I have to help them if they relapsed? Wouldn’t it be of their own doing? Tuff love….

[coachTanthony]

If you are in a relationship with them the shit sooner or later will roll down hill unless you just break up with them hence the question why get involved in the first place

[nawtee_me]

You get involved not expecting them to relapse. They have to live life on life’s terms and stop making excuses for drinking/using.
As a former addict I know all too well the expectations of others. Relapses are not a part of recovery, or they don’t have to be.

[coachTanthony]

None of that answers my post question. So thanks I guess for the lecture.

[nawtee_me]

My answer was yes but I would not help them if the relapsed, that is on them. I did not say I would break up or divorce them, but I would not help them to continue or to stop again. That had to be their decision.

[coachTanthony]

okay thanks

[OtterMan68]

I'd have a hard time dating someone who cannot drink alcohol as I enjoy a glass of wine for dinner or a beer at a baseball game and I would feel guilty imbibing in front of them. I'm not an alcoholic by any means. I can go weeks without a drink, but I do enjoy the occasional drink

[laly520]

if the love is true I would try my chances helping em through it

[worldscolide]

No, I've been there, done that, written the book, and made the movie. It soured me on people with that kind of baggage.

[Wiredone]

No I would pass on that. There is always the chance that they may fall off the wagon. I've seen it so many times

[msc545]

I might depending upon a lot of other factors like what they had been addicted to and for how long and many other things to consider.

[handsomelad70]

I've lost relatives and friends to overdoses, so I'd have to think long and hard about it.

[TonyMetal___86]

To date her, i don't think so but to help her, ofc i will!

[DrPepper12]

I don't know. That's a tough one. A lot of other factors would have to be considered like if I had been hurt by the person before.

[blackeagle007]

Addicts are people too. It’s terrible to label them like a demon.

[coachTanthony]

Then don't do that lol

[blackeagle007]

Excuse me. No one asked for that disease. It’s incurable and fatal. You sound ignorant. Would you say this to a loved one? I bet you use substance

[coachTanthony]

lol what disease are you talking about?

[blackeagle007]

Addiction.

[coachTanthony]

I don’t recall saying it’s not I’m saying if you don’t want to label them as a demon then don’t label them as such. Me asking a question doesn’t mean I’m labeling anyone

[blackeagle007]

Trolls are sure out tonight

[LaurenM1997]

No I couldn’t … There would be no future

[CocacolaGirl1993]

Depends how long they been clean.