My male friends fiancé doesn’t like that I share my relationship problems with him?

[Anonymous]

My male friend has told me that he doesn’t mind when I sometimes share relationship issues with him but his fiancé is uncomfortable with it. Am I wrong to do this? Should I stop to make his fiancé happy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tricky situation. I can see both sides for sure.

On one hand, your friend said he doesn't mind listening when you need to vent about relationship stuff sometimes. That's what good friends do, help each other out when going through things.

But at the same time, I can understand why his fiancé might feel weird or jealous about you bringing up that kind of personal stuff with her man. Even if it's totally innocent, hearing about another girl's relationship problems could make her question things or feel insecure.

My advice would be to respect his fiancé's feelings and back off from sharing those intimate details with him, at least for now. Maybe just keep things more surface level like how your days are going or hobbies/fun stuff. You don't want her thinking you're overstepping boundaries or anything.

At the same time, your friend should be better about reassuring his fiancé there's nothing to worry about between you two. If he doesn't make her feel secure in their relationship, that could cause way more issues down the line.

For now I'd just find another friend to vent to about relationship stuff or maybe journal it instead. That way both you AND his fiancé feel comfortable and there's no awkwardness between any of you guys. Hope that helps - communication is key here!

[Lara_Croft]

How would you feel if you were the fiancee in this situation. It is well, act wisely and considerately