For example, if you had a colleague that you were close to. If you were in a relationship, and they were married, but you told each other you liked each other romantically.
Obviously you can’t be with that person because they were married. How would you interact with them at work? Would you distance yourself from them because you knew that you couldn’t be together? Would you struggle to interact with them?
Well, I am somewhat in that position right now.
Since the person I am attracted to turned out to be in a relationship.
We tried to be friends, at least, that was my intention, since we were seeing one another twice a week.
However, he would nevertheless make comments about me loving him, telling me he loves me, joke about having sex, always touch me one way or another, and suddenly after a misunderstanding he seemed to have disappeared from earth.
In all honesty, I wouldn't be surprised if I didn't see him again.
In fact, I have a feeling he even transferred to a different location in order to avoid me, because the last time he showed up was 10 days ago, which was when he got upset with me.
The last time before that was when he told me he loved me twice, and since he is in a relationship, I didn't know how to take it and kind of let it slip.
As far as I'm concerned, he's currently doing a damn good job avoiding me, even though I never had any intention of hurting or causing any uproar.
Nevertheless, if this is his way of communicating and he doesn't speak his mind, then I doubt we would have lasted if he hadn't been with his current partner anyway.
Time will tell. Maybe he comes around, maybe he won't.
I would be fine, I did like one guy like that before. He had a girlfriend but I would never do that to someone so I could still be his friend. We were always having fun and hanging out at work but he never pushed it and neither did I.
I'd go find another woman who is just like her, or better.
By that I mean another woman who checks all the boxes, not a literal clone.
I wouldn't get to the point of telling the first one I liked her though, as it actually takes me a while to fall for someone, and with her being married, I'd never mentally get to that point as I'd not be in the mindset of evaluating her as wife material. So distancing wouldn't be needed, instead I'd spend even more time with her to try to get to know any female friends she has that might be a match for me, as people tend to be friends with similar minded people.
I also work from home though, so I'd not be having that interaction situation to begin with.
Self control is an important life skill. To me as a man this is obvious because society holds men 100% responsible for every choice we make. Not only that, men are even punished for things their wife/ girlfriend chose to do as if she is a child. Smart guys don't even talk to women they don't know unless it's absolutely necessary because the risk of false accusations is too high.
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u Avoid temptation and look for someone else.
If I had a crush on them? I would honestly try not to talk to her actually. I mean I don't want to ruin a good friendship but if feelings are involved you risk doing something you both will regret even if you are both good people who would never cheat. The temptation will be there no matter how much you don't want to.
Unfortunately in my experience, those are plenty of ladies. This may sound cold, but I just don't bother talking to them, interacting with them, nothing. Even if I haven't spoken to them at all, nor got their names or just exchange a few words,... towards the end, it's just not going to work out, so there's just no point.
Now every time I see women that I'm attracted to,... at first I was like "I wouldn't mind talking to her and just say 'Hey, how are ya?'", but with my repeated, disappointing and depressing results every single time,... now I'm like "I see her, I know I'm attracted to her, but I know how this bullshit is going to be repeated and going down. Forget it, there's no point. I hope I don't talk to her nor see her again".
What, again?
Fuck... Not again...
I'm becoming a monk...
In isolation...
On an island...
Treat that person as I always had... No different than before. I have been there and done that.
Oh yeah. He was one of them.
Keep it light, fun. No deep conversations.
Stay in my lane and be emontionally crushed for the rest of my life. Sucks but that's an honest answer
Try to steal him from her lmao.
Im not gonna sit around and look stupid.
There's not much you can do besides move on.
I just wouldn’t do anything. Wouldn’t even bother talking to that person. I’d just forget about them. No need to have someone like that in my life
Nothing. This has happened loads. I just ignore it.
That’s sad, try not to think about that person.
I would leave them alone, move on and be attracted to someone else who I can have.
Men are used to this. What do we do? We suck it up, quash it down, and keep moving.
Been there long story! Going on 20 years!🤔😮
That wax pretty much every attra tion I've ever had. So I learned to not be attracted to anyone anymore
I’d give up because most likely I’d never stand a chance
I believe that I could keep it totally professional.
I'd not waste my time. There are other people out there who would find me attractive vice versa
think of him as a dog. you just pet him and pass by if he has a owner
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