What is the ideal age gap in your opinion when it comes to a relationship?

[TadBehaya]

[Anonymous]

Before a little over a year ago I probably would have said 3-5 years older. However, since then I've gotten into a relationship with a guy 14 years younger. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I'd ever date someone that much younger. What's even crazier is that we're super compatible and have a fantastic relationship. It's not even despite the age gap per se. In fact, in a number of ways I think that the age gap helps the relationship (for example, I have a ton of energy and am pretty adventurous. A lot of guys my age can't keep up with me, but my boyfriend right now can).

I know that my case isn't universal. There's a lot of other instances where relationships with such a huge age gap wouldn't work out. However, it's also made me realize that there's also probably a lot of circumstances where great relationships were passed up because people were too caught up over an age difference (I almost passed up the relationship I'm in now because of the age gap, and that would have been a huge mistake)

Consequently, I just don't think that there's an 'ideal' age gap per se. What matters more is if you're compatible in terms of your maturity, lifestyle, goals in life, etc. Age can be an indicator of that, but not always. In fact, in some circumstances for certain people (such as myself) dating someone older or younger might actually help in terms of that compatibility.

[DizzyDesii]

Ideal is 0-3 years, preferably same age. In general, i want someone in their 20s until im no longer in my 20s

[Drew-1990]

I prefer 1-5 year younger, would go out with 6-9 though no problem. I MAY be willing 10-15 but I'll probably be super picky and the girl would have to ask me out, don't really want but if she is amazing maybe I would try. 16+ never too young and will always be too young. At that point I'm old enough to be your father and I don't like that

[Xia1994]

Dang Drew u no mess around fr!

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 because I'm honest? I'm seriously asking here.

[Xia1994]

I'm no judging you babe, i was juss sayin ✨

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 no I was not saying you were. I guess I'm just confused what you meant by that exactly, sorry I can be oblivious at times. 😅

[Xia1994]

ohhh no I was just hyping you up you seem to know exactly what you want so I was like Drew really isn't playing around!

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 oh I get you now. I appreciate the hype then. And you would be correct. Now stop saying my name and calling me babe, your making be start thinking you're one of the girls 10 years younger I would make an exception for lol just kidding

[Xia1994]

heheheeeee lol Drewww don't joke like that after valentines Cupid is still hovering around I hear his wings flapping be careful now, i say be careful now 😏

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 don't do this to me, I know you are just flirting and having fun with me but you still put ideas into my head 😳

[Xia1994]

lol it's cool i'm just joking 💯 I think you realized 15 years younger is too young and i made you nervous by saying you don't play around. An 18-19 year old is fresh from the womb babes you may wanna reconsider...

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 I figured you were but hard to tell online lol. Your bio says 23 that is only 10 years. It was on the edge to me. I was telling myself "she is 10 years younger and she is just joking around with you," which ok I don't mind that lol but I was also like "maybe, I said I would just that I would be picky"

[Drew-1990]

Oh and the 18-19 I completely agree, my 10-15 is more future than current really. But I don't have to worry about that no 18-19 would ask me out anyway, they don't want an inexperienced older man.

[Xia1994]

I saw there it says you're 33 and i did maths and it hit at 18-19 if your age range is 10-15 so I panicked a bit, motherly instincts kicked in and I just had to speak up for the baby chicks 🫢 even if they do ask you out tell them to go mess around with kids their own age literally.

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 lol I would and I appreciate someone with decent standards like that. I don't ever foresee that happening though. If by small chance one hit on me. I just tell them the truth I'm a 33 year old virgin waiting for marriage and they run for the hills.

[Xia1994]

Exactly they should run for the hills a 18-19 year old is a baby they must go be around other babies their age, you must go be around adults your age also, the 20 and older ones may you find the love you're seeking there's nothing wrong with being a virgin saving themselves for marriage no matter how old you are even if you were 60 there's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to love and form a soul tie with!. As long as they aren't a baby chick please.

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 lol I agree, I'm not ashamed of it and don't worry I'm not that guy at all. Heck you are not a baby and hypothetically if we lived in the same country and we're both single, I be hesitant to go with you for being 10 years younger. Like I said at the beginning you would have to ask me out with that.

PS on a side note I am like 80% Dutch and have always wanted to visit the Netherlands to see where my family comes from, just sharing that hope because I don't see a lot from the Netherlands online

[Xia1994]

then you'll most probably visit your motherland one-day and see everything live an action so it's all cool.

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 thanks, I will leave you alone now but thanks for flirting earlier with me. Girls don't flirt with me much so it makes me smile every time and blush 😳. I know it means nothing but I still enjoy it

[Xia1994]

i wasn't flirting😭 noooooo 😬i was trying to be funny i told you don't say things like that Cupid is flying around! 💀 when I flirt it leads to marriage and 6 kids with 2 dogs so I wasn't flirting okay? I don't play games with flirting, i was only trying to be funny!

[Drew-1990]

@Xia1994 oh sorry just sounded like flirting to me, hard to tell online sometimes. But I completely respect that completely by the way. joking or not I still enjoyed it lol

[Anonymous]

+/-5 years

[Apple1996]

I prefer being the older one by a year or two

[animalwithin]

5-15 years. I'm 34 and would not at all mind being with a girl in her early 20s. I'd even marry one if I could find an attractive, early-20s female who wanted to commit to raising children and hasn't hooked up with all the guys in high school and college.

[mstbooblover]

Good question, but not sure there is something as an ideal age gap. Things just happen, whatever the age difference. Sure that time passing by, consequences may appear in case of a big difference in age. My wife was 12 years older, and during the biggest part of our 38 years of living together, no one could tell there was such a difference, not till the last few years of her life.

[DJB72]

Generally it's half plus 8 years that seems to be about as big as works. So from 50 nobody under 33 but from 33 nobody under 25. As you get older a big gap is less of an issue if both are healthy.

My best example is Dick van Dyke whose wife is in her 40s and he's 98! It's about interests and compatibility. Over about 45 not many people take up something new so interests are more aligned.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s subjective. For the most part tho for me personally I think women at age 24 are 👌🏼




There have been some girls that were really mature and had the right mindset at an earlier age though. I think it has to do with their upbringing, since you become a product of your environment

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

No more than five years.

My wife is 30 and I am 26, as we get more older the age gap is almost unnoticeable.

[HawkPerception]

I don't think I have an ideal age gap. Any girl that's younger than me is fine. I would date older too if they're my type and have chemistry with me.

If I HAD to choose the age of the girl of my dreams though, maybe 25 at the moment?

[Zenpanda]

To me it's more about personality and mental maturity than age.
If they're legal it's fine.
They can be 18 or 60, 25 or 50.
I don't care as long as that click is there, I like who they are and I think they're attractive.

[sawno]

Girl a little younger but on the same maturity level. For my last relationship that was a 5 year gap, but she was very mature for her age so we aligned perfectly (Sometimes her personality felt like she was slightly older than me).

[RebelinSteel]

A lot comes down to compatibility, the further you are apart in age, usually the less compatible you are. That makes larger gaps much harder to make work.

[NathanDavis]

the biggest one I've been in... I was four years older

[Xia1994]

I go 5 years older than me, I can't date a guy younger than I am 🥲 no ways

[Xia1994]

so like max is 5 years older i might make an exception and go 6 years older max but not 7 thats too much now come on now 🫢

[Billlewis]

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[WhitneySnow]

Ideally no more than a couple years, but I’ll be more flexible when I get older if I really like the person

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm going to say 5 years older to 2 years younger. My ex was like 10 years older which was not the problem. My current boyfriend is like 6 months older.

[CozyCoffin]

I really don't care as long as those involved are of legal age. I wanted my genetic kids, so any woman of the age to have children would do in my case.

[magiusX26]

there is no "ideal" of thisevery person is different on what they want and what they will settle/deal with.

[ProbablyClueless]

Probably within 2 or 3 years would be ideal.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Ideal is the exact same age, but up to 10 years or so of a gap is negligible.

[talka20]

me being 2,3 years older... thats ideal but im fine with other options too

[clampfan101]

I think my limit is a 10 year difference. Preferably 5 or less. I don’t care if I’m the older one or not.

[msc545]

I don't think it matters one way or the other. There is no ideal age gap. This is an unimportant metric

[ThebestIndian]

If both of the parties are fine with it, I really don’t care. For me, 10 years is what I think.

[Date_a_Snob]

me and my fiance are 8 years apart

[Amur8711]

Who is older?

[rosemilk]

1 to 2 years. maybe even 3. but that's it

[FunkyMonkee]

It's whatever floats your boat!

[MikeTheBartender]

Divided by 2 plus 7. Always works for me.

[MikeTheBartender]

HBU?

[Zoi99]

I like 5-10 year older. Possibly go older.

[Kykiono1]

Prefer 5 plus years older

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

5 years apart.

[SunnyRS]

5 -5 of my age for me.

[Guido]

4 to 5 years sounds reasonable.

[FenixG45]

I prefer a woman in her 30s or 40s.

[QuietRunner]

4 years no more

[Bklynbadboy12]

5 years tops

[Anonymous]

30 years

[Opinion Owner]

As long as you’re an adult