What is your opinion is the best age gap in relationships?

[Cubus]

Of course there is no perfect age gap. That's not the purpose of this question. No one is perfect but what is the best?

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Age isn't really a factor for me when it comes to relationships. Their life experience, values, and maturity are the most important things to consider. I've only been in 4 relationships and all were serious. One was my age, one was older (4 years older) and the other two were younger than me (3 years younger and 5 years younger).

Funny enough, the most mature person is the woman I'm with right now (5 years younger) and the most immature/disagreeable/inexperienced one was the older woman (4 years older). So, age doesn't always play a huge role.

[Leopard23]

Older guy younger girl 10-15 years

[Apple1996]

Closer in age the better if you wanna be in the same phase of life as your partner.

Me and my husband are only 5 months apart with me being older and it works out pretty great since we've always related to each other at every stage that we've grown into. I couldn't even imagine being with someone that isn't in the same age group as me like within a year or two or else things would be awkward.

[monorprise]

@Apple1996 Is it not possible that the "phase of life " for men necessarily happens at different ages than women?

There is indeed a biological reason for this in that a woman MUST be in the child rearing phase of life in her 20s and 30s.

Where as to support said woman and family in today's high cost of living environment a man generally needs to put that off until his 30s or 40s.
Therefore for their practical "phase of life " to line up they really need to have a significant age gap.

Otherwise the woman would be trying to act like a man in delaying or the man act like a woman in not providing.

[Apple1996]

@monorprise biological clocks are the same ages for men and women...
And nah it's better to find a man that has his life together early then have kids at a younger age like in their 20s so that the kids have healthy parents. A man that can't get his shit together until 30s-40s is just a loser in my opinion like what did these guys waste their 20s on? Cuz it obviously wasn't doing anything to productive

[monorprise]

@Apple1996 Then most all women will either have to marry losers or become a cat lady doing everything by herself.

Your setting yourself and most all women up for failure with that attitude because most all boys today do NOT have their lives together by their 20s.

For most boys to have their lives together with the security required in their 20s would have taken significant investment in their education by the prior generation.

That investment having been deemed popularly as "unfair" in the late 20th century shifted rather heavily towards girls. As such it is girls not boys who ended up with most all of the collage degrees and education.
All the while even for most such highly educated and paid girls the decades of regulation to corner the housing market for existing owners in most areas have made the cost of living many times higher than they were 40 years ago taking them far longer to reach that stability.

Put simply in our "modern society" it simply is not financially realistic for most people, particularly the post-90s poorly educated and thus now vastly underachieving boys to have it together before their 30s.

[Apple1996]

@monorprise college education isn't the key to getting a good providing job. Most big families have where the mom stays home and dad works a blue collar job. College educated parents have 1-2 kids max cuz they wasted to much time on college and not their families. They also value money much differently/ended up in debt.

And i have 4 kiddos so i see parents all the time due to school functions/neighborhood play/sleep overs etc. None of the dads are old. Literally almost all 35 and under. The few older ones are seen as weird/out of place.
My husband, along with all the other dads I see had their shit together enough to have families before 40. Literally my husband was together at 18 so anyone that needs double that time is just crazy to me.

[monorprise]

@Apple1996 I agree collage is very much a Darwinian experiment where the supposed "best and brightest" are weeding themselfs out of the population particularly for women who can't so well make up the time with more resources.

When most women refer to a man as having his act together they are holding much higher standards than you. That is perhaps the main problem we are very ignorant of what the real standards of life are in this country.

As such we are setting bars that few if anyone can meet.

[Apple1996]

@monorprise maybe some women are setting unrealistic standards for men but those types never end up finding a man/having kids. The ones out there acutally having kids and are in happy marriages aren't gonna have some unrealistic standards for men to met.

I'd say most women want to build a life with a man. Not just find a man that has everything in life and just hop into his existing situation. This what I'm meaning by being in the same phases cuz you'd want to build up together

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Men dont have biological clocks a man can reproduce until the day he dies Also very few men are going to have their lives together in their 20's as a man's peak earning years are typically around 45- 50. I think that's why so many young women struggle w/ relationships because they don't understand the big difference between male and female struggles.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner they definitely do have a clock. They peak at 25 and after that their sperm quality and count start going down. It also becomes risky for their kids cuz older dads pass down a lot of issues.

Every single guy I've ever met in his 40s-50s is in mid life crisis mode and is not being responsible with their money so sure they might have money but they are responsible with it? Not really compared to the younger men that have acutal families and goals they are saving/spending money on

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Lol, I see why you're confused. Woman peak at about 25, as a woman is valued for her beauty men peak somewhere I'm their 40's as they are valued for their resources. Think about it like this, I hire 20 somethings every day and cam usually get away w/ paying them a minimum wage, under no circumstances is that considered peaking for a man. That's more a reflection of you and the men you've chosen to be around, but proves my point as even those guys have a higher net worth than the 20 something that are still depending on family support. Think about it, would a woman rather spend her day w/ the guy whose still living w/ his parents or in the 4 bedroom 3500 sq foot home w/ the Den Pool and movie theater?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner I'm not confused. Literally been told this by a fertility doc. They had to test my placenta during my last birth and said it was purely cuz my husband was older. That mf was 24 at the time I gave birth 😂 can't even imagine what they'd say about a 40 year old father lol

And personally I'd rather be with someone that makes me happy regardless of where he lived. But like I said my husband provided me a house at 18. Guys that can't figure out how to do that until 40 aren't worth it if they are that behind in life

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 That's unfortunate and I understand that affordable health care can be challenging for some, perhaps you should think about getting a better Dr, because that's obviously false. Men through the history of the world have produced healthy children at every age. Your husband bought you a house when you were 18? How did he finance it?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner nah I have good doctors. They actually did it for science purposes to help educate more people about that.
And he graduated high school early and got a job by then we already had a kid. For awhile I lived with his parents to save up money so could have got a place sooner if we really wanted to since we were just chilling there with a bunch of money

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 I'm not sure lying to you would be considered "good" but they may have figured out that u can't handle uncomfortable truths and just decided to lie to you. I asked how he financed the house at 18?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner they weren't lying. I had to sign consent forms for it to be studied.
And I already told you my husband got a job. That house is long gone and sold tho. Currently renting cuz it's in a safer area/ better schools but are gonna be buying again if the next place we live is safer

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 TY for sharing as this is a good example to use to highlight how women attempt to be deceptive. You went from making a false medical claim to now claiming that you had to sign a consent form to study male reproductive health? Why? I asked how your husband financed a house at 18, having "a job" is certainly not the answer and now you're admitting that you guys don't even own a home, which only validates wjy men shouldn't be settling down in their teen years, because they aren't ready to understand financial decisions. You're claiming it's a negative that a guy can't figure out how to buy a house till he's 40 while actively being married to a man that doesn't even own a house?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner it's cuz it came from my body so had to sign consent but the dad's DNA is responsible for building the placenta. Thus how it's dangerous for older men to have childern cuz they can literally kill the woman and unborn baby if their DNA is in them.

And nah we chose to live in a rental to live in a safe neighborhood with good schools. It's doing the responsible thing for our kids. I'm really not saying that buying a house means you have your shit together. Paying for where you live is enough to be considered having your shit together

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner and there are plenty of jobs for 18 year olds to get so they can afford a family. It's not rocket science just some people are dumbasses and go waste their time on college/getting in debt then can't afford a family

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 You do realize that doesn't explain why you would have to sign a consent form to be part of a male study. Unfortunately if your doctor told u have a terrible doctor as the risk are exponentially greater for women to have children the older they get while there's literally 70 year old men that procreate every day. In fact half of all pregnancies in women over 45 end in miscarriages. So if your Dr is not providing you w/ these facts you may be in more danger than you think.
So the house his parents gave him was in a bad neighborhood?

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 I asked how did he finance the house, but since you've never actually purchased a home I understand why you're confused.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner miscarriages are usually caused from older men too/mens dna. I see you know nothing about fertility 😂 Sperm cells tend to carry the faulty chromosomes that cause miscarriages. It's rarely ever the woman's fault on that unless she is doing drugs/drinking etc

And nah I understand how home loans work. Just not sure exactly what your asking here? Like about how a 18 year old would get one or what? Only issues is for those that don't have good credit but that wasn't a problem for my husband since he already had credit built up

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Not according to medical studies. That stat is regardless of the male age, meaning no matter what age the man is a 40 year women only has a 50/50 chance of bringing a child to term. Conversely a 70 year old man has a 76% chance.
It takes money to by a home, your making the claim that at 18 your boyfriend bought a home, I'm asking how. Credit is only relevant if you are financing, and in most states lenders are prohibited from financing teenagers, so how could he "but a house at 18" B4 you get caught in another lie, understand you're speaking to someone who has done over $50,000,000 in real estate transactions. The fact that you're willing to lie about this makes me doubt youe Dr said any of those things to you as it's a proven fact that old women have an exponentially higher risk during pregnancy then men of the same age. Who is the last 60 year old women to give birth?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner there is a reason that they don't accept sperm from men past 35-40 at most sperm banks. It's cuz they are no longer considered healthy to have a child. It's just the facts. Also my mom is almost 60 and still getting periods so could potentially have a child if she tried (not that she wants to but it could happen)

And nah I know a lot of teens that bought a house and in multiple states and never heard of a rule saying teens can't finance. Maybe that is just where you've lived but still like I said I've lived in 5 states where I've know teenagers to buy houses and also buy land with no issues

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Wow you're factually incorrect about a lot. For starters most Sperm banks accept male superm up to 45, some all the way up to 50
www.semovo.co.uk/blog/who-can-be-sperm-donor-a
Your mom didn't have a kid so u still failed to name one 60 year old woman that gave birth. It's not a "rule" it's a law, a lender doesn't give money to someone w/ out a consistent history of generating revenue and over 62% of teenagers in America are financially illiterate. You're proving my point u keep claiming you know teenagers that buy houses yet don't understand the difference between finance and cash purchases. What lender did your alleged husband use,? and remember b4 you lie, I work w/ almost every boutique lender in America, and home purchases recordings are Public to licensed RE agents meaning it would take me less than 5 minutes to find any lender that provided a loan to a teenager in that year. Sounds like you've got caught in a lie and need a creative way to get out.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner most don't accept up to 50 years. Very few do past 35. Depends on the place.

And why would I give you info to look up me and my husband? That a little odd. It's weird you don't know that 18 year olds can get loans. They just have to prove a steady stream of income to not have a cosigner. Even under 18 can buy a house but they have to have a cosigner.

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 I didn't, I ask you to provide the name of the financial institution that supposedly provided a loan to a teenager, you can't provide it because it didn't happen. It's weirder that you are attempting to perpetuate a lie. For starters it would be impossible for an 18 year old to show "steady stream of income" as mosy lenders require minimum of two years of employee history, and do not accept your work history as a minor. Secondly a "co-signer " isn't applicable, as both parties would have to qualify for the loan independently. Think about it, if what you were saying was accurate who would receive the loan funds? I suspect your real estate knowledge is more based on television and hearsay then actual experience. In fact you sound like so many people that have come to me w/ ridiculous theories on how to buy a property, but zero practical evidence. In fact the only thing you've proved is that you yourself have never bought a home.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner you should really come around a military base. They hand out loans (all types) to teenagers like it's free candy. Having a contract is enough to be considered a steady stream of income.
And no shit I'm not gonna ever buy a home. That's why I have a husband to do that stuff for me 😂

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Lol, this is part of women not being able to take an L. What You're referring to is called a VA loan, and military personnel aren't eligible for it until they receive what is called a DD14, which they can't receive until after discharge, which would be impossible to get as a teenager. Sounds like you're confusing Millitary housing w/ buying a home. Which makes sense as you've never bought a home, and it sounds like your husband has done a good job shielding u from the process perhaps because he wants to avoid your emotional response to what can be an extremely complicated process.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner va loans can be used while active... its not just for vets. and no we've owned a house off base and also rented on base. I'm very aware of all this since I usually get dumped with the responsibility of choosing when we pcs. I've never actually been able to choose while with my husband cuz of deployments. During the time he bought the house was cuz there was no rentals available. If there was I would have much rather choosen to live on base

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Not w/out your DD14. Only the Vet and immediately family including spouse is eligible for a VA Loan this is not debatable, it is a legal statute that every RE professional and lender must know in order to maintain their license w/ the states they serve. You're attempting to argue w/ a licensed professional about something you have at best limited knowledge and no exprience in. According to your own words u personally have never bought a home.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner if you are really a professional you should seriously look into this cuz active duty 100% can get a VA loan. I've known literally 1000s of active duty that use it. It's something the finance office takes care of so not like many soldiers actually care about certain paperwork like that

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Again you speaking about something you heard of to someone who has done. I have personally closed over 50 VA deals in my lifetime. I don't need to "look into it" I would be the resource that people use. And there's no such thing a "finance office to take care of it" As the individual still needs to qualify for the loan just like any other loan.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner you are honestly giving me the giggles with this. 😂
Like no my husband did this fresh out of basic. Which is usually what ends up happening since most of these guys can't get on 1-2 year waiting list to get on base housing. They get stuck buying a house. Which is often handled by someone in finance. Like sure we all can go do it by ourselves but the guys out of basic tend not to have the time.
The va loan is specifically made for this so that active duty can get houses easily

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 That makes sense because you're making yourself into a joke. For starters you're confusing buying a home w/ financing a home, and receiving housing. Hypothetically your husband could buy a home fresh out of Basic training however he wouldn't be able receive a VA Loan for it, and the fact that he's in Basic Training at 18 means he doesn't have employment history or cash to qualify for conventional or FHA. Lenders are 3rd party financial institutions so they wouldn't finance someone based on an individuals hardships. The US military doesn't finance home loans, so the "financial" department your referring to is equivalent to a university finance department that will help direct or collect funds from individuals. The other part that makes your statement silly is that the seller has the ultimate say in accepting an offer. So realistically why would a seller accept an offer from a teenager that is putting 0 money down? Your finance department could only help guys find rental homes or temporary housing, as there's no way they could control the housing market. Based on how u were wrong about the sperm bank and the fact that u already admitted that you've never bought a home and can't afford one now, sounds like you're taking the typical female stance of you're right because your emotions say your right. VA stand for "Veterans Loan" How could anyone that was active military be a veteran? Please hold this L.

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner it's honestly gross and offensive that you don't know active duty members are considered veterans too. We are allowed to use va loans. Stop spreading wrong information like that

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 Great example of female delusion, you're offended because something you thought was true is wrong. They may be considered veterans to you but not by financial institutions which is who provides VA loans but u wouldn't know that because you've never applied for one. Everything you're saying is based off something someone else has told you. Even more bizarre, if what you were saying was remotely true that would mean that all anyone would have to do is Join the military, get a loan buy a home and leave the military. So you essentially believe the US government is so dumb that the provide benifits w/ no requirements?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner I'm offended cuz your spreading wrong info. It would literally take you a one minute google search to see that active duty can get a va loan.

www.va.gov/.../
90 days or 180 days in is the main requirement. Which most basic training/ATI/schooling is longer then that so by the time someone pcs they are able to qualify.

Yes some people do join purely for the benefits and just get out a few years later. Mostly for college/medical benefits but also some do it for housing as well

[Vegasrunner]

@Apple1996 So you just skip the last part or that. I see why you've never bought a home. "Need to meet your lenders requirements" One of which is receiving your DD214. You're not the 1st person that's walked into my office thinking this. Its silly that I have ti explain this but The US Government does not issue home loans. COE is just the first part of home qualification. Do the math, if you're doing basic training how would a teenager earn enough money to qualify for a home loan?

[Apple1996]

@Vegasrunner reason why the financial offices handles this is because they search out for the places that will accept you. It's not that they hand out loans themselves. They just find the civilian places that will.

Also in basic they get paid housing allowance unless they are single and low ranking. My husband was married, had kids and came in with rank. Also had a sign on bonus. If you are not aware basic boys are loaded by the time they graduate.

[Lucy68]

For me at least 4-5 years

[Cubus]

In what side?

[Lucy68]

Older and younger

[Cubus]

The question was - with who being the older one?

[Lucy68]

The guy can be either older than me or younger than me it really doesn't matter 🙄. 4-5 years

[jennifer_bloom]

I would prefer a guy 3 years older or less than 2 years younger than me but I’m flexible if I find an unusually good or compatible match.

[OlderAndWiser]

I prefer being 3-5 years older than my companion. But it is not a deal breaker.

[AviatorTom]

My SO and I are one month apart, actually 41 days. She's older.

[Guy13]

7 to 10 years with Accomplishments

[sexy_julia]

I prefer older men, and so I married my husband. He was 54, and I was 19 when we married. He was married before and had three grownup kids, and I was a college student ready to become a sophomore. I love him so much. We’ve been married for 14 years and have six kids. I’m now pregnant with our seventh child. Our life together has been great.

[Bricealan]

Real success story. Good for you guys ! 👍👍👍👍👍

[Cubus]

Congratulations :) Praying for you and your baby. We safe.

[CateM]

Congrats! How far in are you?

[sexy_julia]

@CateM I’m three weeks pregnant.

[Cubus]

Must have learned it recently, right? :)

[sexy_julia]

I sure did.

[CateM]

I wish you a safe pregnancy and healthy baby 🙂

[Screenwriter]

A lot of it has to do with preference. Some people want a more mature partner, so the age gap is wider. Some don't. It appears that most couples are within 5-7 years of each other in age. Man could be older or younger, or woman.

It's what you're comfortable with and it has to do with the match of the person to you. If it's a great match, unless it's more than 25 years difference, it doesn't matter much.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't know man... it's so highly dependent on what the people desire. A dude like me that just wants to fuck and not hear her talk will go much younger. Other dudes can't stand a younger woman because they sound stupid when they talk. They're looking for that mental connection where as I'm just looking to connect my penis to a vagina. It really depends on the preferences.

[xxmacky]

Literally go fuck yourself

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky What part of it did you hate hearing the most? Why did it personally affect you?

[xxmacky]

U speak as if a young bitch would ever let ur old ass shriveled shrimp dick inside her pussy. Gtfo u deserved to be used for ur money weirdo ass old man

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky Ha! OMG you'd be jealous of how easy women are for me. The next 18 year old I bang, I'm going to lay my cock across her face and tell her some girl on the internet said this shit is little and shriveled. Don't worry though... I won't poke her eye.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Young + dumb... that was what triggered. Be triggered. It's still the truth.

[xxmacky]

Okay old man 😂😂 no 18 year olds r fucking u stop lying. Yeah u won’t poke her eye cuz it’s not even reaching her nose. No what triggered me is ur audacity, old + disgusting 🥰🥰

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky Whatever little girl *flobs giant dick off one leg to the other* The veins in my cock are bigger than your outrage.

[xxmacky]

I’m sure of it 😂 whatever helps you sleep at night

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky 😂

[xxmacky]

It’s ok if u ever wanna put ur dick on my face u can 😁

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky Hey... I have seen your profile picture, and not going to lie, I wouldn't turn you down for a second. Pretty much what I consider ideal.

[xxmacky]

Perfect 😁😁😁 I’ll shut the fuck up while you fuck me

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky Awe damn... you got my dick all pulsating hard and pre-cumming on myself. I'm going to have to jerk off to you just to be able to sleep tonight. You win whatever we were talking about. You win... I give up.

[xxmacky]

Hehe that’s so fucking hot, going to touch my pussy to that later 😚

[D_Bone_Steak]

@xxmacky Damn I'd make sure you cum so fucking hard in my mouth and kiss on every inch of your body. STOP MAKING ME SO FUCKING HORNY GIRL! You win. I don't like eating ass but I'd do that for you. 😂

[D_Bone_Steak]

Seriously though... I am actually pre-cumming on myself. My boxers are wet now. ... you know how to win an argument. That's for sure.

[xxmacky]

Oop next time rub ur precum all over my fucking face I wanna test if it can really poke my eyes

[ZackBan]

It's less about age and more about generational gap.
Meaning an early millennial can date a GenX while a late millennial would be better suited for a GenZ (of course it applies to boomers and all the other generations)

But the idea is: if you've eaten the same treats and watched the same shows growing up and had similar ringtones then you're good to go

[Alessa13]

It doesn't matter to me, I like great guys, regardless of their age. Those in the early 20's though are not super great around here, they have one thing stuck on their minds.

I like talking to older men too, some are very sweat and I'd be happy to hang out with them, not sure that I would want a relationship with them but could be fun to hang out and go from there.

I'd say no more than 6 or 8 years older.

[PimpDaddyBones]

Well im 50 and im dating a 19 year old. She doesn't have to but she chose me. Makes me feel good and I get to appreciate a nice young adult girl the way I should have when I was her age instead of rolling off her and going back to buddies to start drinking or whatever it was that was more important than a hot naked 19 year old who wants you.

[ShellyB]

Obviously whatever works for any two people, but I think the best would be a small age gap, like less than 3 years because that way you will always be in the same phase of life. My fiance is 2 years older than me and I like our age gap. I would be willing to date an older guy if I was single, because I think older guys on average are more ready for relationships. I might date a younger guy but it would depend a lot on the guy. JMO!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'd say when the guy is about 5-7 years older. Men mature slower than women, that's just a fact. So by the time he's ready to settle down and get married, she will be to.
Plus women age faster than men, so it's good for the guy to have a younger woman.

(Of course there are outliers and exceptions to every rule, so if your age gap is different, don't get all offended. That's just my opinion based on a few general facts)

[Razp_Sorbet]

There isn't a "best" as in if you have this much of a gap your relationship will be perfect or will definitely work.

I think that a gap should be no more than 3 years if you are under the age of 30. Mostly because life experiences differ so greatly above that.

[Bricealan]

In my early 30's I had a woman friend at work, that was in her late 50's or maybe early 60's. She suggested that we have sex one day at work, and I, like the moron I was at the time, backed out at the last minute. It may have been a great relationship, but I was too shallow at the time to go ahead with the sexual part. Surprising to me at that stage that a woman of her age would initiate sex with a younger man. Sadly for me I have regretted that decision to this day.

[ChillaxingLove]

It all depends on the ones involved. Only certain type of people can make it work, it’s definitely not for everyone. They will have everyone and society against them, because it’s not accepted and considered weird. At a certain age the gap doesn’t even matter anymore

[Jamie05rhs]

No one should be intentionally looking for an age gap relationship. The only reason should get into an age gap relationship is if you meet someone who is simply wonderful and you are very strongly drawn to them but they just happen to be a different age.

[RockyHammock]

The best age gap is subjective. For instance not every guy is independent at 25, yet some guys can be independent at 20. Personally I use the formula below for age limits.

X = your age
Y = her age

Minimum
X * 0.5 7 = Y

Maximum
X * 1.5 - 7 = Y

[Anonymous]

It depends upon the individuals and their circumstances.

In general for the west a 8-10 year gap is probably ideal in that it gives a man enough time to build up enough of an advantage to support the childish woman & family and retain her 'admiration' in place of respect.

[LiamJHayden]

My parents were older (mom nearly 45, dad 54) when I was born so, other than my friends from school, I was around the children of my parents' friends. They tended to be older and a large part of my peer group growing up, so I have tended to date older. My normal range is 5 to 14 older, although I have gone outside these bounds on both sides.

[HaveNoName]

When i was young,. I read an equation for age gap in marriage "at time of marriage". Of course it does not make any sense but I just thought I mentions it. Well, may be it made SOME sense to whoever came up with it.

Bride to be 7 years more than half the Groom's age.

Incidentally, it fit perfectly in my case.

[Babygirl_S]

2-6 years older is my preference but currently I like this hot younger guy who is 25 years old. I wish age was just a number. It bothers some people too much. He expressed interest in me when I was 25 and is now acting distant. He is still being polite but I don't think he wants me anymore 🥺.

[Slay256]

That’s crazy

[NostalgiaSenpi]

That ultimately depends upon the people involved. I've known a thirty seven year relationship, where they were married for thirty four years, and were fifteen years apart. I've known others that were the same length and didn't last nearly as long.

[silvermoon84]

For me, the oldest I’ll date is around 50-ish, the youngest would be about 33/34-ish. I generally prefer men my own age though, but as long as both parties are compatible, of legal age and happy together then the age gap is irrelevant.

[Hal2002]

From personal experience looking at the long term couples I know, and I am talking about couples that have been together 20 or more years. A man with a 10 to 15 year age gap, between him and his female partner seem to be the most successful.

[xoxosilentgirl]

i prefer 14-20 years my senior. But tbh depends on personality and preference, just read the article that said 2-3 years men being older are the perfect age gap for couple.

[CubsterShura]

I feel like as I'm getting older I'm becoming more lenient with age, before I was into older men. I still don't have a preference. Older men can also be very bratty.

[MidnightOwl57]

4-5 years, although there always exceptions. Having chemistry/connection with someone is also important.

[HighValue]

From what I have seen in real life, couples with 7 to 15 years of age gap seem to last the longest. 40 + years together.

[WellGreetingsISay]

I genuinely always used the 'half your age +7' rule. I've only ever been with 1 woman older than me and it was just 2 years older.

[TrueConfection]

I think the closer in age the better. Possibly him 1 year older than her.

[padreflint]

Relationship wise I think no more than 4-5 years, that way you are most likely at the same stage in life I guess you'd say. There are always exceptions though, I've seen very successful relationships that have around a 10-12 year gap.

[Lynnfriend]

Male 3 to 4 years older, woman mature faster.

[Nikki1989]

I always dated older, but I have no real age limit.

[Anemone978]

I personally rather not have an age gap... but I guess 1 or 2 years is the best...

[AdithyaR]

For me personally it should ideally be zero, or at max a one year age difference.

[AngelLily]

I say If someone is old enough to Be your Parent or Kid it went to Far.

[bamesjond0069]

10 or more years. I've noticed 10 or more years has been awesome but it's a little more complex than that. But generally more the better as long as it's the man who is older.

[notwoke]

A man should get a new 18 yr old girlfriend every 3 years throughout his life. Unfortunately the make up of the population doesn't support this on a widespread level.

[Drumlin2001]

Beyond 30 it dosent really matter. In early adulthood, the guy 2 years older (e. g. him 20, her 18)

[Mayo503]

Everyone is different some people can do it ….
But me personally I couldn’t maybe 10 years both ways…

[Vegasrunner]

The answer to that question is going to be based on your age the younger you are the smaller your gap. The older you are the wider your gap.

[TacosRAwesome]

I don't think there's a best age gap, but I prefer someone that's in my generation.

[Iron_Man]

It doesn’t matter. It depends on you and the girl how compatible you are.

[PatriceONeal]

When the girls younger than the guy. I say date younger all you want guys. These women didn't have the time of day in our 20s. It's our turn.

[Onedayprobably]

I dont care at all about that. If both of them are ok with it, they can be 80 and 20 I wouldn't even mind

[Preeti161101]

Don't know the best age gap but i know the couple they have 12 years age gap and their life is going well

[ERB62]

Fantasy wise you can pick any legal age of consent but in reality within a few years of your own birthday is best

[SpokenTruth]

I don't want a relationship regardless age or no age gap period nothing to do with it.

[AngryCarl2]

Maybe the ideal is the guy is a couple of years older? Or maybe it's different for everyone.

[Likes2drive]

Probably 3 to 7 years depending how old the youngest one is

[Jerre]

I don’t have an age gap. I fuck women from 18 to 65.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Older man with cash, younger woman that will get the cash.

[karl219]

My personal preference is 21 and above. So I’m 27, and the max for me would be 30 & the minimum would be 21.

[karl219]

Maturity also plays a major role in it also regardless of age. I’ve met childish 25-28 year olds and met mature 21-23 year olds.

[dolemite89]

5 years is a good gap, you can still relate to each other pretty well

[A_Nihilist]

My personal preference for age gap is one year younger or five years older.

[postaldudePL123]

Same age is best but I think upto 7 years is ok.

[bvaupel]

Older men tend to be more thoughtful and understand what a woman wants. They have matured.

[Cheerfull009]

There is perfect age gap, I have seen 50 years married 20 years but I prefer 10 years gap

[SEL195]

8 or 10 older than me.

[SEL195]

Years gosh forgot to say that

[CateM]

I say the closer to 0, the better