How would you ask for an open relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’m mostly curious

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What if your partner had no experience? Would you want one then to get your needs met?

[CuriousMufuxka]

I wouldn't because it's a dumb idea, yet a stupid thought to actually go through with. But I'll write a little story here since I'm bored. And kinda old. Also intoxicated.

Hey babe. I know our sex life has dropped off a bit after the cat died and the horrible brazillian wax incident. I seriously thought the strips would rip right off! But anyway I think we can get back to some hardcore fuckin once again! You wanna what? With who? How dare you ask me something like that! If you want to get dicked by other dudes than get the hell out of my house!

Hope this helped :)

[RavVid]

I wouldn't for a start. It would be best if done at the beginning of the relationship so both know and can decide whether to put effort into it. I think it would be difficult 7-8 years into a relationship.

Mistakes happen. What is expected if the wife gets pregnant or the side chick gets knocked up?

[Billlewis]

In my case, because my preference is to be in a one sided open relationship, in which she has the freedom to date other guys whenever she wants, while I remain 100% faithful and exclusive to her, it's generally easier than for most people.

[Berethor]

No real man would agree too adding other man, but he might agree add other woman.

[Asker]

Oh, he can add other women. I have no intentions in getting involved with other men.

[Asker]

Besides, I won’t be able to satisfy him anyway.

[Berethor]

I see, so you are asexual? you don't satisfy him at all or you can do on your own?

[Asker]

I’m not asexual. I’m just really inexperienced. I just don’t want him to wait on me or waste his time teaching me what he likes. It’ll just ruin the mood. I rather him just go to other women.

[Asker]

Attractive women, if I may add. I’m not all that to look at.

[Berethor]

Virgin? it not really take so much time to teach those things, you not jealous? you don't consider yourself attractive and that part of the reason you want him to be with other women?

[Whitewulf]

It doesn’t take much to satisfy a man. But that type of relationship is usually discussed in the beginning. Won’t you be jealous of him having other women but you not having other men? It sounds like you are wanting to give him hall passes because you already decided that you can’t satisfy him
I will say this, ANY man that is ok with sharing his woman with another man, truly truly does not love her.

[Berethor]

It make sense as women are not emasculated by sharing, but yea how she not jealous.

[Asker]

@Berethor Yes. Part because I’m inexperienced and part because I don’t see myself attractive
@Whitewulf It’s definitely not for everyone. I will bring it up in the beginning. If he says no, I’ll call off the relationship. I just want to make sure his needs are met.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 interesting reasons for wanting a open relationship, you even willing to call off the relationship for that, you want him to be with women he barely know or you okay with a polyamory? you seems to be pretty selfless about that, because you want to make sure his needs are met, I think that you can find a man who would agree to that kind of relationship.

www.idiva.com/.../18004892

[Asker]

He can be with random women. As long as he’s careful and wears protection.

[Berethor]

Yea protection is important, but what if he prefer polyamory? are you okay with that?

[Asker]

I honestly haven’t thought about that.

[Berethor]

I see, some women get jealous if there is emotional tie more than if there is sexual tie.

[Asker]

I rather it be just sexual.

[Berethor]

So you too? that it you line, so it have to be random women? if he able to find them.

[Berethor]

As for update, no real need for that, she can get my needs met even with no experience.

[serious]

According to me open relationships are cheap and disgusting. I will never ask for one. No way.

[Cody2004]

I wouldn't because I'm not sex crazed or wanting attention from multiple people

[JacobJordan]

I wouldn't. I would just end the relationship if I wanted to be a despicable human being.

[Asker]

What if your partner had no experience?

[Berethor]

Why you think that no experience is a bad thing, there is many men prefer that.

allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Asker]

@Berethor Because men are too impatient and get easily frustrated when a woman doesn’t know what she’s doing.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 not all men, and really what so hard about things like kissing and sex?

allthetropes.org/.../Lie_Back_and_Think_of_England

[Asker]

@Berethor If you don’t know what you’re doing, it could leave your partner unhappy and unsatisfied. They would want someone else.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 maybe as a man, but didn't women tend to be pretty passive anyway?

[Asker]

@Berethor I don’t know 🤷‍♀️

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 I see, anyway open relationship with only women added is not a bad offer.

[JacobJordan]

My wife was a virgin. We both were. I would only be with someone that has the same or less partners and I am a one and done anyways.

[Berethor]

You both were virgins? nice, sounds fitting, so you the first one and only of each other.

[JacobJordan]

@Berethor yeah. Makes for a healthier relationship because there is no emotional, physical or mental baggage from either of us. I was willing to wait my entire life so I didn't end up with someone who had a lot of past partners I didn't want to deal with what comes with that. Only ended up waiting until around 26

[Berethor]

@JacobJordan yea no emotional, physical or mental baggage, and the most loyalty.

[JacobJordan]

@Berethor just a win win if both are virgins. Especially in today's society where men are absolutely dragged through the ringer in divorce.

[aceleon]

would never ask one i'm not a cuck.

also a girl who ask this is an worst kind of whore.

[aceleon]

but now i just read your replies and if you don't want another guy then just go ask and say i don't want you to bother with meifit is your concern.

[Berethor]

I'm the one who was able to figure out that it not a bad kind of open relationship. :)

[aceleon]

@Berethor yeah you in a way saved me from an argument that born from a misunderstanding.

[TonyMetal___86]

Look who's here again 🤣

What happened to you're old account?

Anyways, don't forget to block me on this account too 😂

[Berethor]

Maybe she want to start a new page after blocking many people, who know.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Berethor maybe who knows 😄 i hope that the feminazis poison which ruined her brain is clear by now...

[Berethor]

@TonyMetal___86 she into one sided open relationship so who knows, it's not feminist.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Berethor man, she looks like she went out from a psychiatric ward in her photo, the reason why she have no problem for a man to do anything he wants while he's with her is because no one will ever be with her and i bet that if someone dares to be with her and does such things, he won'r be able to close his eyes at night while she's around him 🔨🤡

[Berethor]

@TonyMetal___86 ouch, anyway the place is less active nowadays and blocking don't help.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Berethor 😄👍🏻

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 To be honest, that really hurt what you just said. You have no idea what I went through in life when it came to men and not fucking once have you ever asked me. All you do is assume and insult me. Congratulations. You achieved your goal on hurting me.

[Asker]

And you bullying me like that makes you a fucking coward. But, I guess you rather be a coward.

[Asker]

Here I thought we could have an adult conversation but you rather be childish. Not a single person here has ever said nasty things to me. You’re the only one. My confidence is low enough. You think I like thinking these things about myself? I don’t! And men like you aren’t helping. You rather just go straight being a bully and not bother asking why I think these things about myself.

[Asker]

I’ve already been bullied by men throughout my life. And it fucking sucks. I don’t know why y’all hate my existence so much. It’s why I’m so fucking scared of ever approaching men. You know it? Fuck being in a relationship. I rather just fucking die alone than have a guy hate me for existing.

[Asker]

All I ask to be loved. But, I guess I’m not worthy of love because I’m not good enough.

[Asker]

*ask is to be loved

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 I for one don't hate your existence, and you sounds more mature now.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 you're cussing words and you're wholeself and all the people who supports you from feminists and others won't reach the lace of my shoe and you know it well...

About being a coward, you do know for a fact that this word does not exist in my book, you damn well know if i have ever stepped back from any discussion, brawl or fight...

Don'r throw you're sh*tty behavior on others, last time i recall, you have blocked me while i didn't, you were that coward chicken who got strenght when you saw a pack of feminazis wolves attacking me but when you realized that they were torn apart by me, you blocked me!

[TonyMetal___86]

I was never the bad guy with you, i treated you the best and you know it, i made you feel better and i'm the only one who gave you some self esteem and made you realize that you worth something, you felt better and for the 1st time in your life you have started to feel like you're an ordinary girl who deserves good things, without mentioning that i managed to turn a lot from your mind negativity into positivity, you have added me as you're friend and became my follower until one day i was just answering someone giving my own opinion when a pack of feminazis attacked me, instead of standing by my side like a spear, you started to attack me the way they did and invented some stories about me which aren't true, also you made the wrong assumptions about me while i was still the same good person, you haven't let me even reply to you, blocked me out of nowhere after picking you up from hell and take you to heaven!

Where's the pack whom you have supported against me, where are they now? Did they dump you (oh sure!) You returned worst than you 1st came up here in the past...

So you felt hurt now eyyy 🤣🤣 you forgot what you did, i was just refreshing your brain a little!

My lesson for you is to never stab person who was good with you all the time, stood up for you and treated you nicely, also helped to become a better positive person, instead of thanking me, you chose to stab me behind my back and block me, and now telling me that i'm a coward and that i'm hurting you and bla bla bla, seems you forgot all this eyyy, forgot everything you did with me 😂😂

If i have ever hated you're existence, i wouldn't treated you the way i did in the past, wouldn't have followed you back and even when you blocked me, i haven't done the same with you, leaving a door for you in case you snapped, realized what have you done and wanted to say sorry, it never happened and today you're back here with a new account telling me that i hate you're existence!

[Berethor]

@TonyMetal___86 you two seems to have quite a history, more than I had thought.

[Asker]

@TonyMetal__86 Only because you said something I didn’t like, and that made me feel uneasy about you. Which lead me to block you. And no, this is one of my active accounts. My most active one I couldn’t get back for some reason.
@Berethor Well, we’re over now. Him and I are just enemies now.

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 If you want to pretend I don’t exist, do it. We’re never going to get along.

[TonyMetal___86]

@berethor i have a long history with many members on this site, some are still active, some have left and some are new, well that's the norm after being around this for 12 years if not more, since the site was created 😄

You have a master level which means that you have been active on this site for years too, you're aware of much people have passed by here, all the changes, all the cultures and mentality, this ain't something new...

[Berethor]

@TonyMetal___86 yea I been here for long time too, used to be more active here.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 common, you couldn't face my words by anything relative, you became lost and didn't even knew what to say to justify yourself, it ain't about power, it's all about the truth and you know the truth and no matter what you try to say or act in front of others, deep inside of you, you're aware of the truth and knew how i treated you, don't lie to yourself because it's childish and you know it 😄

I'm not you're enemy, if you want to be my enemy so be it, idc actually because you're just a person who needs SELF help before being an enemy to anyone...

I have never pretended that you don't exist, if so, than why did i made a comment on your thread, i was just trying to refresh your memory about me and the things that you have done!

By the way, don't be angry but wasn't your 1st question on your old account about "why everyone acts like i don't exist?" Also "why everyone wants me to be dead and why that everyone hates you? 🤔

You're just rewinding the tape and acting the same as you did in the past just so that the people have some sort of sympathy with you and when they do, you sh*t on them right? 🤣🤣

You're 31 right? Time to grow up, mature and stop acting like a 5 year old toddler...

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 I never denied how you treated me. But, once I get a bad feeling about someone, that’s when I block them. And I did get a bad feeling about you.
I deleted all my questions. But, I didn’t say everyone.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 bad feeling is when someone say something that you don't like?

[Asker]

@Berethor If someone says something that doesn’t seem right, I get a bad vibe about them. It says a lot about their character.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 what is right? many things are not scientific, they how someone feels.

[Asker]

@Berethor It truly depends on the topic. Some I can let slide but some I don’t.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 I see, so you don't let slide if it about politics, about feminism, right? :)

[Asker]

@Berethor For starters, I don’t do politics. For feminism? I don’t know what to say about that. Or where to begin.

[Asker]

I got along with a whole bunch of people on here until they showed me why I shouldn’t have. Thing is, I don’t really trust people on this app.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 you are highly unlikely to find people who agree with you on everything.

[Asker]

@Berethor Which I totally get.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 good, but it not a reason to end up alone, there is no 100% in life.

[Asker]

@Berethor Better than getting hurt

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 it's better to not take risks? it's better to know when a risk worth it.

[Asker]

@Berethor Honestly, I don’t think I can do it. Nor do I want to.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 your choice, I am not going to try to convince you otherwise. :)

[Asker]

@Berethor Besides, according to @TonyMetal___86, I’m so ugly and hideous men will have nightmares after touching me.

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 you confident enough to have a picture, not only models have boyfriend.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 i suggest that you listen to @berethor because he's speaking logic and if you can understand what he's saying than you won't have difficulties dealing with other members here...

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 you're feelings about me are totally wrong, haven't you thought for once about what if this man wasn't like how i felt at all?

This is a site of opinions, everyone is different, if i said something that you don't like, it doesn't means that i'm bad or good, also you can't erase all the good things that someone have done with you JUST because you felt something wrong about him because of his opinion on a specific topic! 😏

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 No, not really. Like I said, I trust no one here.

[Asker]

To be honest, I don’t know why I came back to this app.

[Asker]

I don’t block people for the hell of it. You can have an opinion but, if it involves on hurting someone, that’s where I cross the line and block you. I don’t tolerate that shit. There’s a lot of sickos on here.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 i can't tell you to trust anyone on the net or even in real life if you can't trust them on your own, i'm someone who can be trusted blindly but i'm not waiting or offering someone to trust me if they don't want to...

How should i know why you came back here if you don't know why? 😄

Anyways be sure that i don't hate your existence nor do i hate you...

You just need to feel more comfortable around people and do not feel scared that something bad is going to happen as long as there is no proof that it's going to happen, try to relax, live your life and be happy!

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 Let me be the first to say sorry to you.

[Asker]

And out of curiosity, do you really think I’m hideous?

[Asker]

I just get up my guard so fast because I’ve been down this road so many times.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Peridot25 no worries, just know that you were never my enemy, imagine someone accusing you of something wrong while you know that you aren't and they didn't even let you explain a thing, they just attacked you and blocked you after being good to them all the time, it ain't easy and you know it but in the end it's the internet, i can't blame why some people acts like this...

I want you to know that you're a girl who have value like any other girl, don't lower yourself or accept things that are humiliating or things that you shouldn't accept!

In my opinion you're an ordinary girl who deserves to have a beautiful life like anyone else, be happy and be loved, i don't like seeing you under estimating yourself!

I'm also sorry because i hurt you with my words today...

[Asker]

@TonyMetal___86 I followed you. Also, I do know that feeling. Happens all the time to me.

[Asker]

Not just here but in real life.

[Berethor]

Looks like you two has made peace, I didn't expected that, but it's not to see. :)

[TonyMetal___86]

@Berethor a person have to expect the unexpected! 😄

[Berethor]

@TonyMetal___86 I mean it's nice to see, yea we should be ready for anything. :)

[CozyCoffin]

I would immediately break up for the shear mention of it.

[QuietRunner]

Do you want one?

I've had a friends with benefits , but it moved to a more exclusive relationship now

it was open before

[Asker]

Yeah I do.

[QuietRunner]

ours was about sex

[Berethor]

Friends with benefits and open relationship is sure a similar thing, it was open to all?

[QuietRunner]

@Peridot25
what's your decision

[Berethor]

@QuietRunner I think that she is sleeping, she might answer you when she wake up.

[QuietRunner]

@Berethor that is helpful

thank you

[Asker]

@QuietRunner I think I’ll do the open relationship

[Berethor]

@Peridot25 good to see that you don't given up on relationship as you said at one point.

[Wiredone]

I would never ask for an open relationship. I wouldn't like sharing my wife

[Berethor]

You right, but what if it one sided open relationship, where only women are allowed?

[Wiredone]

@Berethor nope. Still wouldn't do it

[Anonymous]

I don't, I am a structured polygynist. So, I don't date other women without the approval of my current wife/wives. Nor do I do it without informing the new woman.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. Because I have respect for myself.

[guyinterested]

I wouldn't. Never works out. One partner is ok but the other is trapped and miserable.

[KrakenAttackin]

Just say you want to break up. Same thing.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t mind one, to be honest.

[Berethor]

@KrakenAttackin she actually offer it for him, not herself, so he might accept it.

[Anonymous]

It is a pretty simple question to ask.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't. I'm emotionally healthy

[dudeinohio]

Don't. It will be an emotional nightmare.

[Anonymous]

I just outright said it.

[sirderpsalot123]

I wouldn't

[OtterMan68]

I would not

[BarryLiverstone]

Homing pigeon

[Adogdog]

Just ask.