Boyfriend hates my best friend and it's getting to me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He met my best friend of 4 years the other day, in fact he's met her twice, and he says he doesn't like her. He says he thinks she's too quiet and shy, and it weirds him out/makes him feel like she's unfriendly or weird. I want them to get along because I care about them both. What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that really sucks. I can see why you're stressed about this. A few thoughts:

- Your bestie of 4 years is super important to you. Totally valid to want your guy to like her too.

- At the same time, people aren't always gonna vibe with everyone instantly. Some folks just rub each other the wrong way.

- The fact he's only met her twice, it's realllly early to write her off completely, you know? Feelings can change over time as folks get to know one another better.

- Maybe you could plan a chill group hang where they can interact casually in a fun setting, not so much pressure to get to know her. See if his view softens little by little.

- Also reassure him it's not a competition - you care about them both, but in different ways as friends vs romantic partner. He shouldn't feel threatened.

- Keep communication open. Let them both know you want them both in your life and are here if any issues come up again down the road.

I'd give it more time before panicking yet. Hopefully they warm up as they interact more naturally. Just be patient and don't put either in an awkward position. It'll work itself out, luv!

[boggboss]

All u can do is ask him to be understanding and take time and that she matters too you and then ask her to try and be more friendly to him