Why does my guy best friend hate me?

[chloeeflynn]

So I have this friend and we were really close. I was going through stages that he didn't even know about it but he always knew how to make me feel better. He was one of they few people in my life who would actually listen to what I had to say. We messaged, and then talked at school. But them, something happened, I don't know what and I feel like a mistake. He makes me feel terrible! I message him, he barely replies, I talk to him at school, he cuts me off. I messaged him and asked him if he hated me, and then wrote this big long message about how I felt and asking what I did. He replied, but asking me to take him out of a group conversation I put him in. He's ignored me since then. He was one of the few people I had in my life who made me truly happy and now I don't know what to do. It hurts, it hurts a lot. I'm just so confused, why does he not wanna talk all of a sudden. He told me that day he hated getting messages, but it didn't feel like he ever used to :'( What do I do? Someone please help.

[Anonymous]

I actually had the same thing happened, from the guys side obviously.

I had a lady friend who I was best friends with in high school, like the best of friends. We always talked between classes, saw ewch other outside of school, texted until really late at night, etc. I started to develop feelings for her and told her but she just wanted to just stay friends. I was "friendzoned" before I even really knew what that was. Since we were still best friends she would tell me about the dates she had gone on and if she hooked up with guys, some of whom I had legit beef with. I started to get really, really mad at her for no reason other than jealousy and let it build up inside of me until I couldn't take it anymore and I ended up completely cutting her off and ended the friendship outright.

That's just my personal experience. I've matured a lot since then and if I could've done it different I would've. If you really wanna try and keep your friendship alive then you gotta put forth the effort and really try to talk to him and sort things out.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

did anything happen in that timeframe between him liking you and "hating" you?

[chloeeflynn]

No, nothing.

[TrainwreckAdvice]

Talk with him face to face. Don't cry. Make sure you listen to what he says. Ask If something happened in a group message or if he just didn't like others involved in his business. Then ask how you can fix it. Then ask if he wants you to fix it. Be ready for all possible outcomes and move on from there.

[chloeeflynn]

I'm just worried he won't listen to me or anything, I've kinda tried before and he just cuts me off...