How to get over insecurities and jealousy?

[Anonymous]

I'm very insecure and I've realized that, I over think so much and the smallest thing sets it off and I go right to he must be cheating or is losing interest and I bring it up and it starts an argument, I need a lot of reassurance. how do I stop any of that? Help?

[RavenBear0]

I understand this completely and it's a very hard thing to get through, before talking to them about it try to calm yourself down a bit so you can calmly sit down and talk to them about it and explain to them why you're like that and try staying very calm throughout the conversation so they don't think you're accusing them of anything and just talk to them and let them know what exactly it is that makes you feel like that and just explain how you need that reassurance because you do love them and you're trying your best and after that it just takes time to get past it, but everytime something happens that makes you feel like that instead of bottling it up just try and relax and just talk to them about it each time, but remember if you start getting mad and upset about it they're gonna start to get the same way because in their head you're now accusing them of something

[Asker]

Yeah true thank you so much

[RavenBear0]

I hope it helps, I know it's not easy to do tho but honestly I have been working on doing this with my partner and he has been very understanding since I talked to him about why I get like that and he's always willing to talk to me about what's going on and he always reassures me so I really hope it can be the same with you and your partner 🖤

[Asker]

I really appreciate it , thank you 😊

[Asker]

Goodluck 🌸

[Nikki1989]

Most men will cheat, so you have to let those feelings go before it drives you crazy.

[spoole]

People don't feel this way unless they have been mistreated in the past, or worse, have a serious neurological disorder, which I doubt is the case. The truth is, abused people are often the last to admit they are or have been abused. Seek out a professional that can assist you with healing relationship trauma so you can move forward without the traumatic relationship stress disorder. Otherwise, such a disorder will destroy any relationship you have in favor of protecting your psyche against additional wounding.

[SolitarySolace]

I’m an incredibly jealous individual but I don’tsee that to be a bad thing. I mean, if I weren’t jealous at all I’d end up in an open relationship where love has no special meaning. I’d want to feel wanted. But in todays world, the only ones who feel wanted are women. Remember, men are only loved for What they can provide. Women, children and pets are the only ones loved unconditionally

[Anonymous]

Insecurities or jealousy? Because they are not the same thing.

Insecurities you get over by realizing EVERYONE has them. Some just hide them better than others.

And jealousy is a conscious choice. I choose not to be jealous. And I would never be with anyone who made me feel jealous. I'm not naturally a jealous person. I'm not shy about articulating my issues with someone I care about. And if they don't care about what I feel or if I have to keep repeating something and it doesn't change or get better, clearly we're not a match for eachother.

[RHK36]

You need to learn that there's only one opinion that should ever really matter. Your own. Stop listening and paying attention to other people's perceptions. We're all different in good and bad ways. If you find yourself thinking too much then find something productive to do. Tbh you don't sound like you should be in a relationship. Feel like you should solo dolo and spend that time on growing. Otherwise you'll just keep stressing yourself out with overthinking because of your insecurities.

[ProbablyClueless]

Security comes from a feeling of completeness within yourself. You have to figure out how to be comfortable with yourself. After that, your insecurities will vanish.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I hear ya. Sometimes it's a little hurtful when there's a fair few GAG ghosters, they chat, then they go silent it's a little sad and confusing I ain't gonna lie. Lol 😳😋🫠🫠🫠

[itsclearlynicholas]

Sighs 🫠

[lildkman1010]

You have to accept what is

[Anonymous]

What are you insecure about?

[Asker]

Well lots of stuff, he'd mention his ex sexually and something she did was exciting and I couldn't do that specific thing without thinking if his thinking of his ex or if I'm doing it wrong and she's better or he'd start going to later to work or start going to the gym randomly after not going for months and that being at night on weekends I'd assume someone else is involved or he doesn't say I love you anymore and I think he doesn't or he'd stay up until 2am and text people when I sleep and his last seen is 2am but he says he slept early, yet when I stay up with him he can't make it past 12 and I'll start over thinking everything and ask him if he still wants me and that causes an argument cause I'm keep asking that and then when I say I just want effort he says he has to work, stuff like that and I become jealous and insecure

[Asker]

Like same with petnames , it just stopped, no more wifey or anything like that it's literally my name now, no more compliments like he used to , it's one worded and done and then the insecurities just start up again

[laly520]

seeking therapy