Have you ever secretly regretted the way you treated a woman in the past but have just never apologized for it?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I can say beyond certainty I’ve had more women harm me then vice versa in my life.

I was raised to be chivalrous to women given in a very conservative household. Raised to kiss their asses (I really hated my parents for that especially my mother). This outdated “nice guy” bs led me like a lamb to the slaughterhouse when it comes to “modern” women treat men like that.

However I was not always the victim. Although I can count the times I’ve mistreated women in my life on one hand I know it did happen and I do deeply regret it. I wasn’t justified to burn them just because I was burned by someone else. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I own up to it.

However it is extremely weird to reach out to these women given how long it’s been to apologize. A few years ago I had a grade school bully DM me on Facebook about a past incident that I had all but forgotten (and I didn’t want to remember). He had very deep seated guilt complex about it. I was so taken back and caught off guard I gave him a very bizarre response. What I am getting at is I wouldn’t want to help someone remember a past incident they all but forgotten

However if one of these women contacted me I would own up to and make no excuses for my behavior. But that’s only if they contacted me.

Personally of the all women who mistreated there really is only one I yearn to hear from. It was because I really loved her and she gave me the deepest insult I’ve ever taken from a woman in my life years ago. She knew exactly what she was doing at the time too. It really screwed me up for a very long time.

But I have to come to grips that’s most likely never going to happen. That’s just how it is.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes I apologized to a few girls’ that I knew at the time i was being an asshole with , , when I was in my younger selfish years of life , I was young and became selfish after I had my heart shit on by my one ex girlfriend that cheated on me , I kind of went through a very selfish stage in life , not really caring about a girls’ feelings , and just assumed all girls ‘ were cheaters , So if things didn’t go my way, I basically went to the highway and did what I wanted to do , without considering their feelings, I eventually realized I was the selfish asshole and I had a change of heart , that’s when I called those girls’ i was stringing along and apologized to them for the way I treated them , They accepted my apology and we moved on. Ever since then I realized the only way a relationship Neil work is if both partners remove selfishness for each other , If you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you. It needs to go both ways or the relationship is just a waste of time.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Never. I treated all the girls I’ve been with like queens but they all cheated on me. I even treated the girl who eventually falsely accused me like a Queen until she served me an ex parte PPO. Now I don’t do relationships at all because I’m pretty sure if I did I would treat the next one like utter shit

JHAYES317 · Answer

I’ve never been in a position to reject a woman before, the most I’ve done is just come up with some excuse to leave if I got disinterested in talking someone…I’ve definitely yelled at my mom before, but generally she did something to make me that angry so I don’t really regret it…

Lliam · Answer

Yes. With several women. Once I became aware (years later), it was too late to apologize because we had lost contact. It was way pre-internet.

Subflics · Answer

As much as I hate to say it, yes I regret it. However there has always been a reason for it, ie leaving suddenly bc you know it wouldn't have worked out

slatyb · Answer

No, I've openly regretted it. But I haven't apologized, too long ago.

Tractorguy13 · Answer

I’ve regretted not pursuing certain women in the past, but never how I treated them

RebelinSteel · Answer

Not really no.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't think I've done anything that bad

lildkman1010 · Answer

Yes I do I wish I could appologize

BLP11520 · Answer

Not me it’s the other way around✅

riverrat3 · Answer

A couple of times yes

entrepreneur_ghosh · Answer

Never ever.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Nope.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

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