Like an ex or a current partner, or some other woman you were very close to. Did they ever apologize for doing something shitty? Did it seem sincere? Did they ever want to make things right with you?
Yes, I have received apologies many times for different reasons. The one I will never forget is when I was in college. I was planning a surprise party for my girlfriend Kathy, and I met up with her best friend a couple of times to help do this. We were talking about it one day in the library. Another of my girlfriends' female acquaintances happened to be sitting behind our table, but I didn't know who she was.
As the best friend and I finished and got up to leave, I hugged her and said " I couldn't do this without you". The acquaintance heard that and took it to mean that I was planning a break-up with Kathy and was dumping her for the best friend. The busy body goes and tells a falsely embellished story to Kathy, including how we were all over each other in the library.
Kathy confronts me AND her bestie, with both anger and tears, wanting to know how we could betray both the relationship and the friendship, telling us what the acquaintance said. So, at that point we had no choice to explain what we were planning, and blow the whole surprise. That only made Kathy cry even more once we told her.
The party went off great anyway. I got a huge, genuinely heartfelt apology from my girlfriend for about a month! LOL (and great "make-up sex"!). The acquaintance was uninvited to the party and never apologized, claiming she was only trying to protect Kathy. All that bullshit and hurt for nothing because some bitch jumped to conclusions and couldn't mind her own business.
I have only been been “apologized to” when the woman still had vested interest to be in my good graces. She was either still attracted in me, still wanted attention, still wanted money, still wanted me around to make someone else jealous or didn’t want look bad in front of other people (she was worried about her reputation and could care less how I felt). However if she apologized it was virtually always self serving.
However once a woman decides that she no longer has any use for man then he quickly becomes expendable. I have more often encountered women who REFUSE to apologize to me when they should and ironically apologize for things when they don’t need to if they are still interested. What only matters where you stand with them emotionally. Period.
However as a man I can apologize to a woman for the sake of principle regardless if she is valuable to me or not (if i recognize or she points out I legitimately did wrong).
Anyway I theorize that Mother Nature has made women generally more selfish because there was a time in history it was necessary for survival. Now in the age of “equality” it just gets abused and women don’t even realize it most of the time.
Also women also tend to think that admitting fault means admitting failure. They argue for the sake of BEING right vs. figuring out WHAT is right. There is a difference.
You said it yourself a while ago. To women like-ability IS respect. Only men understand the difference.
We just have a better objective sense of fairness.
Personally I can accept the fact that women are wired differently psychologically. Sure it’s not fair but a cat will be cat and there is nothing you can do about it.
However what I can NOT accept is influential feminism radically changing our culture while ignoring the glaring fact that women have enjoyed this double standard for all of humanity.
From what I’ve seen modern feminism keeps on trying to JUSTIFY women who have no sense of accountability in relationships.
If a man is able to open up and communicate to allow me to understand him, I apologize and ask him how I could help avoid hurting him in the future.
I pick up on people's emotions quickly through body language, facial expressions, and general talking even if they try to hide it.
So I do ask if there's something wrong and if they'd like to talk about it.
If I am aware of what I did wrong or see that something I did affected a person I bring it up to resolve the issue and apologize.
I don't believe its that uncommon for women to apologize I just think it's less spoken of through men who do have a partner that is empathetic towards them.
It's sad that women can't swallow their pride and admit when they've done wrong.
Noone is really 💯 %, good and it dowlesnt take much to say I'm sorry for treating you like shit. Men aren't always the bad ones
to ar, see my reply for a sociology theory.
Yes sis
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No but some should on the daily lol
Not really, honestly. Like I actually took some time to think about this. And honestly not really. I got a lot of sorry, but not sorry type of apologies.
Like I am sorry I hurt your feelings, but it was only because of this or that. So sorry not sorry then... the fact that you hurt my feelings makes you feel bad (I guess), but then you can justify that by saying it's not really your fault that I got my feelings hurt. And then you jump right into talking about your feelings again. So do my feelings matter, or do you just want me to respect your feelings... even though I disagree with you?
So yeah, no. It never seems like I have gotten a true apology from a woman. Where she was hey, I am sorry for my actions. I am sorry it hurt your feelings, and I would like to really work it out and apologize.
That has never happened to me or for me, from a woman.
Everything you described is exactly what happened with a female friend I had, especially with "the fact that you hurt my feelings makes you feel bad (I guess), but then you can justify that by saying it's not really your fault that I got my feelings hurt." It was just sick, man.
Now that you mention it, no. I don't really have a lot of people around IRL because the temperature in the room is too high for New York snowflakes most of the time. My mother is incapable of being wrong and oddly enough so as my wife. The same with exes and coworkers. I never put a whole lot of thought into it because I assumed that was just part of the female experience that didn't need intentional consideration. Fake catty avoidance of personal responsibility for women in the modern west seems to be a consequence of being socialized as adult children who can do no wrong and have no responsibilities to check their great power. This seems profoundly disrespectful and shitty to do to women who are competent legal adults and who are just as capable as men in many things and should thus be held just as responsible for shitty actions.
The best girlfriend I ever had apologized to me. We lived together for over a year. She's the only woman I ever loved with my heart and soul and she loved me. We separated because of a misunderstanding. I didn't realize until later that I was the one who misunderstood and left her.
She called later and apologized, but I still thought she had broken up with me and I couldn't hear her. I was really, really stupid. I should have fought for that girl.
My wife has apologized many times for hurting my feelings, too, even when I was sometimes the one who was at fault.
In my healthy relationships, yes, women have apologized to me.
When dating self-centered and narcissistic women, no.
It’s a red flag if they never apologize for anything and never take responsibility for anything they may have done wrong.
When one doesn’t take responsibility for their mistakes and apologize when they’ve clearly wronged somebody, all that proves is a lack of maturity.
It means their ego and pride supersedes their concern for others.
And that goes for both men AND women.
Yes I have. The only women I've been with who will admit that they were wrong were east Asian women. Unfortunately, American. . . well. . . American women are so fucking perfect and angelic that they do absolutely no wrong. In fact American women fart rainbows and shit puppies out.
everytime my ex get mad once he gets mad it is extremely hard for him to be fine again... it's like his day is destroyed and since it's me who made him mad i keep apologizing but still it is so hard for him to be ok. exact polar opposite of me i easily forgive and i easily go back to normal. it's hard also for me to go on with my day when he is mad but eventually he become ok. i would then have a mental note not to trigger him because of that.
when i get mad it's really bad but i think i'm a very patient person. my ex would keep apologizing because he thinks he treated me bad but the thing is i'm not affected. he is hot-tempered and i'm the one who is the receiver of hiw hot head but i'm not affected 😂😂😂 so i just tell him he will know if i get maf or affected if i clap back if i'm just smilinh and in the good mood that means i'm all fine no need to apologize
I have apologized, specially when I know I’m in the wrong and I can FEEL that I’m offending or putting someone down. Either intentionally or unintentionally.
Sometimes I can even bee too apologetic. Apologizing for not responding fast enough. If my actions were too F-ED up. I’ll even apologize with a gift or food. I’ve done this for family members whom I misbehaved with, and I admitted I felt stressed and aggravated during the outburst. I’ve apologized for the way I broke up with some Exes. Admitting that I was in my feelings.
I’ve apologized with tears in my eyes because I fell regret and remorse
Im self-aware and I’m no fool. As someone who’s been bullied greatly in childhood and all the way to HighSchool. I know when I’m the bad guy. I know.
Yes... but it was like trying to pull teeth. Accountability, in my humble opinion, is really hard for women in general to take.
I can start making an argument and she'll start the deflections before I even finish my sentence.
That reminds me of the same traits that a lot of narcissists have. Crazy because I made a comment somewhere else about how dealing with a narcissist is like killing them to take the blame/accountability for anything.
Here is my theory on it. Maybe this sudden super high sexual market value on women is generating a lot of narcissistic women... something I never saw as much of when I lived in Japan was some 3 out of 10 women claiming she was God's gift to men and definitely a solid 10 despite looking unhealthy as fuck.
Like, some behaviors are definitely women's behaviors, but I think this society and what it's become is making the worse behaviors they could have, just even that much worse and noticeable.
Never received an apology from any female in my life, except when I was forcing one, so I'm not sure that really counts. Also not sure what I had to gain from demanding an apology, but I guess my dumb ass pride got in the way of logic. Every time I've ever told a female that they did something bad to me, they just flip out and yell about it. So I just learned to treat them like shit for a couple weeks to teach a lesson. Works great.
Only my current girlfriend has apologized. I can usually tell when she means it because she will never repeat the reason for apologizing again.
In the past it was easy because they would continue doing the same shit they were supposedly sorry for.
But overall, women, more than anything they HATE apologizing and taking accountability. They hate admitting they were wrong because they don't like to be responsible or to blame when shit is their fault.
Yes, a girl dumped me in a very cruel way and a few months later I ran into her at a party. She came over to me and tried to hug me like everything was okay. I just put up my arm and said "Don't". I was still really upset.
u Yes, my high school girlfriend apologized to me a few years after we broke up. She regretted how she acted during our relationship and how it ended.
I apologize when I know I am in the wrong. I’m a big girl who knows my faults and I will say sorry wholeheartedly especially if I hurt someone very dear to me.
My ex apologized for a few fucked up things that happened and various other women throughout my life have made apologies. But I can see where you're getting at, a lot of women who behave by certain stereotypes are certainly never going to admit fault.
no 😦
how dare you put this in my head 😂😂
those feminine little creatures god made are so abusive sometimes 😂
I can say I do it, and it is completely honest, I am an idiot, and got a pretty Combustioning moods so if pepole got a nickle for all my apoligies... they have enguth for gum... infleation is pretty bad
Any way I also know I had apoligy from outhers and stuff when they calm down
Got some from man as well, over all humans are a very sorry race
After break up, my ex fiancé told me
“Promise me, to never say sorry to a man ever again. You are amazing, you are guilty in nothing, don’t be sorry, that must be me, who should be sorry and any other man who will make you feel that way. Please, remember never say sorry to a man again. We don’t deserve that.”
These words stuck with me.
Glad I'm not having contact with you then! If you would use your damn brains and think logically and clear about the things your ex said to you, it would make no sense to you what he said. The problem with a lot of woman ( not all ) is that they lack the skill of self reflecting about the things they do wrong themselves. Blaming others is easy but everyone makes mistakes in life and you should self reflect about your your own actions, understand your own mistakes and apologize for making those mistakes. Only then you can become the best version of yourself and be called a descent human being.
Your ex is just a idiot who screwed up a lot of things but that's not how the rest of the men really are! Yes there are a lot of stupid selfish men like your ex but there are also lots of great men who are the exact opposite of men so with all respect...
Get rid of these dumb words your ex said to you because it doesn't help you to find a better one in the future!
@glennos89 I think the reason is that I never blamed him. I don’t like blaming others, I blamed myself for break up at that time, I look for the reasons in myself most of the time and I ask a lot from myself.
So, I took that advice as “Don’t always feel guilty and blame yourself.”
I don’t think I’d ever do something to purposefully hurt my partner but if I did, I would take a responsibility for it.
As for my previous relationship, he told me that probably because he was the guilty one, not me. He thought he fucked up not me, I thought that there was my part as well probably since there’s never only one person to blame.
@ LaFemmeFatale_1
Thanks for the explanation!
Can I marry you? Lol 🫣😋
I really like what you said and you sound like a woman that's actually worth investing time and effort in! You sound like wife material to me if I'm honest 😇
Keep being you then because a womans beauty isn't defined by her good looks!! Having a nice personality is what really makes a woman beautiful 💪🤗
@glennos89 Thank you 😇
Don't feel like apologizing even when unintentional is bad. Simply the action we take can be harmful to those we love without realizing it and its always good to simply apologize for being unaware and reflect that with growth.
Women are always having to say sorry for the most trivial of things, but I am guessing this post is just clickbait for more misogynistic rants.
Whether of not it's bait depends on who is posting. There are people here who do nothing BUT that. Please check out my response. :)
@loveslongnails She knows me better than to think that.
Guys I always apologise to men when I've done something wrong.
Haha
Not really, no.
I haven't gotten too many "Pleases", "Thank Yous", or "You're Welcomes" from them, either.
What? Lmao
Of course. Women are just like anyone else, so you have the good and ugly. All of mine would apologize most of the time if I brought up what they did or if they recognized it already. Sometimes they were sincere, but other times I think they just wanted to make amends, so we could move past it.
It doesn't mean all of my exes would always apologize for their mistakes, but for the most part they did. It's normal.
as harry potter said "not there to be noticed" anything that i pointed out to hers this annoyed me, some change some argue but never apology... except one of the 3 trans i dated... a new lady with "old habits" oh and one lady "nontransgender" in newspeak, replied "saying sorry does not help". which might be a common idea among gals and explain why they do not bother.
In a relationship? It's happened once, not lying, it was the first time I seriously considered marrying that girl.
I'm surprised I didn't save the date on my calendar tbh.
They don't and even if they come anywhere close it is to explain why you were at fault. Sometimes they try to make you feel better and that just pisses me off.
I’ve had 3 women apologize to me. All three women were significant to me at one point
I dealt w/ a lot of women in my life. Off the top of my head I can't think of a time where they ever came out and just apologized. Women rarely take accountability as my interaction w/ @yazu-chan has proven.
No, there was only one time that would have applied to me. Even if she would have tried to, I probably would not listen. Simply because an apology that isn’t sincere is meaningless.
Well first for a woman to apologize she must first have done something that she thought was wrong in some way. And, since women are never wrong, how could that be? lol. J/k yes I have had women apologize for different things.
Yes. I know someone high integrity women who are not afraid of apologizing
yeah. but basically only after i was "fuck it, if you're not sorry for that, i'll leave".
Yes in a friendship context not in relationship context.
Yes, my wife did about something important many years ago
Never. Not without a long victimhood statement about why they did it and it was justified
My wife, her ability to so unprovoked is one of the reasons I married her. Most women wouldn't apologize for anything even if they had a gun to their head.
Once when an ex tried to make me feel guilty for wanting to stay out rather than go back early to have sex. Didn't apologise right away because the reality of what she tried to do didn't sink in straight away but when it did I confronted her about it
Of course not, women never apologise for doing something wrong. When they do wrong they just try and blame the guy.
No, hell will freeze over before any of the women in my life admit when they're wrong
Except for my girlfriend
Hence why she’s your girlfriend. 🙂
Not really. If you get mad enough they might throw you a resigned "apology", but they don't really mean it. If they did, they'd stop doing the thing that made you angry to begin with.
Yes, and i know they actually meant it.
Some people (not just woman) however will never say sorry, or if they say it they don't really mean it.
Sure. Sometimes, they seemed sincere. Other times, not.
Yes. Multiple times actually (from the same person. No one else ever has). But somethings don't get fixed with apologies.
If you discount my Mother, then never has a woman ever apologised to me.
They have. But it's never felt sincere. Plus, they just do the same shit again anyway.
yes but it took them like 3-6 months to say it after not speaking. stubborn creatures lol
Probably but it's been years. I don't fully remember.
Most of the time it's if when want something. But I know a few have for honest mistakes. Saying sorry is a rare thing these days.
Eww my exes did my current no and he breaks promises
I see my mom doing the same mistake I did and then covering it up by saying "you are a guy" to me.
She is not a single mom. She says those things jokingly. But it reveals the extent to which women can do things and blame it on men even when they did the wrong thing.
You are asking as if we never apologise and never try to make things right...
You don't though lol
(Well, most women don't. Maybe you do)
@elizamichale1 It seems to be very rare for a woman to apologize to a man and look at how she messed up with him in some way.
@WanderingLoveWizard no thats not true we do when we r wrong... yea we may not say it directly but we definitely do it indirectly at times
I dont think so its rare... u hav to keep in mind that one can only apologise when they r wrong not at every bit of something
Yeah, when you think you're wrong. Which is never lol
@elizamichale1 What he said was exactly what I was going to say. Most women only apologize when they think they're wrong. Not if they really ARE wrong.
Never, even if it's their fault. If they do, they do it sarcastically.
Yes but it was years later.
Yes I've had women apologize to me many times.
I had a 20's year old apologize to me yesterday.
A girl was there who did apologize, for stopping to talk with me saying that i am very distractive for her from her studies. Dont know how far is that true
I think I can count them on one hand.
I can’t really remember them ever saying that, it would be rare
Yes, believe it or not haha
Yes. Quite a few times.
Yes, but by then it was too late.
Not that I recall
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