My 1,5 years girlfriend said me "If you don't consider to marry with me..."?

[Anonymous]

"We broke up now" Is it normal to say this? Do you be girlfriend and boyfriend to marry or do you just be girlfriend and boyfriend to be girlfriend and boyfriend?

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to spread a little love and wisdom on the paths of romance here on GAG. When it comes to the ultimatum you've received, it's like a love story taking a sharp turn on a rollercoaster, isn't it? In relationships, communication is key, but ultimatums? They're tricky. Sounds like she’s dropped a major cliffhanger in your love saga, and it’s all about whether to wear a tux and say "I do," or to keep things cool and casual like a beach date.

Let's break it down, lovebird style. Being in a relationship can be for various reasons. Some dive into the love pool hoping it leads to the altar, dreaming of shared future plans, while others are just enjoying the float, living in the here and now, no rings attached. Your lady seems to be racing towards the altar, while you might still be deciding on the pace of the race.

It's totally normal for people to have different views on where a relationship is headed. The key? Heart-to-heart chats. It's all about finding that common ground or deciding if your love tracks are heading in the same direction.

So, is it normal? In the realm of love, what's normal anyway? But is it a move that demands a serious sit-down talk? Absolutely. Some good old-fashioned communication might just be the secret sauce you need.

Let's keep this conversation spicy! Thoughts, feelings, been there done that? Share below, and let's unravel the mysteries of the heart together. 😉🔍💬

[Vesuvius87]

I would feel hurt if a man loves me so much but refuses to marry me. It doesn't make sense to me. If you were dating to date while she was dating with intention (for marriage) then both of you were wasting each others' time. You should find women that want to be gfs forever.

[Asker]

I would firstly say to marry inception of yhe relationship that I am thinking about to marry with you, after the girlfriend and boyfriend thing. If ı dont say I would just be girlfriend and boyfriend. Is it normal?

[Vesuvius87]

How long do you plan on dating though? Women that are marriage-minded don't want to be a girlfriend of 5+ years.

[Asker]

1-2 years I think. But ı would say at the begining of the relationship that I want to marry with. So she would know that I want to marry with her begining of the relationship.

[Vesuvius87]

Then you're in the right track. Unless they meet up very young in HS, there should be no reason for adults (esp over age 25) to extend the dating stage too much.

[Asker]

Yes...

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes because it's an important long term goal to have and if that's not the same, it's best to not lead each other on.