Do married and divorced people have more issues than singles?

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I don't know, although there are plenty of happily married folks, it still seems to be that others tend to have inner issues even in marriage. And of course divorced people deal with a lot of hurt, disappointment, and emotional problems from a failed marriage.

What do you guys think?

Do married and divorced people have more issues than singles?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

It depends on so many factors. Did this person, with strong and healthy boundaries, choose to leave a toxic partner? Or, we’re they the victim of some devious act of infidelity? Did they split amicably with maturity and respect or did it turn into a legal slugfest? Was there domestic violence and restraining orders or just moved along and started rebuilding life.

There are a lot of factors at play here and I’d say in my personal experience the answer would be both: immediately after my divorce unrecognized I was not in the best headspace and chose to not waste anybody’s time as I knew it wouldn’t be a good thing. Yet, years later, the lessons learned and self-awareness that comes with enduring such a trial made me a calmer, stronger, better man which gave me the ability to have a very comfortable, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.

Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

When married to my ex-wife, l paid for her ex-husband’s actions. I also was the stepdad to her two grown children. They were already set in their ways, and l was unable to have the same influences on them that l could have had they been younger. Basically my ex and her children’s problems became mine. My ex was 12 years older than me, l made the incorrect assumption that she had her shit together, would appreciate my giving nature, that she would pick her battles and overlook the petty shit that comes with being married. Her potential “Appreciation” for me was an obstacle to her and her family as well. It took 17 years of those 18 for me to learn that my ex and her family inherited her dad and his family’s narcissistic ways.

Believe me. It is great being single again.

Tatitheunicorn · Accepted Answer

I was married two years ago now and it caused more issues then before my ex husband and I got married because it seemed like that's when he used it to take advantage of who I am and basically when everything fell apart he didn't stick by my side but instead divorced me and left me to figure out how to catch up on rent and bills by myself..

Amara_09 · Accepted Answer

Yes.  Single means you are the only one. It’s easier when it’s one than two  A second person= more changes

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of whether the grass is greener on the single side, the married field, or the divorced valley! Love, my friend, is a complex beast, regardless of your relationship status. Each scenario brings its own set of challenges, triumphs, and, yes, issues.

Married folks often navigate the complexities of blending their lives fully with another human. This involves compromise, adjusting expectations, and plenty of communication. It's like a dance where sometimes you step on each other's toes. But when the rhythm is right, oh, it's beautiful!

On the flip side, singles are on this exciting yet sometimes daunting journey of self-discovery and the quest for connection. The freedom is exhilarating, yet the longing for a partner can sometimes feel like a silent echo in an empty room.

Divorced individuals? They're warriors who have walked through the fire of lost love. They carry the scars of their battles, sure, but also the wisdom that comes from such profound experiences. It’s a mix of liberation, rediscovery, but also, the challenge of healing from past wounds.

So, to say one has more issues than the others? Not quite. It's more about different issues, different stages of life, and different lessons to learn. We're all just trying to navigate the complexities of human connections. Let's keep the conversation going and share some more experiences. Who knows, you might just find what you're looking for in the tales of others. 😉 Dive in, the water's warm!

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Yes. In this day and age... Being married to someone is like having the burden of a 2rd person to cope with and take on the highs and lows they go through. It's a liability especially if the person suffers from constant emotional instability, trauma and brings a lot of baggage into your life and for what? Companionship, intimacy, occasional good deeds.
When things were more traditional pre 1950s, people were more conservative and family values still meant something, each one understood their role and boundaries.

lightbulb27 · Answer

they can if the prior issues created more unresolved complexities. I think what it does is expose inner issues which, as they wisen, helps them to have fewer issues... because they wisen up. That can take long time and after so many years, they may have accumulated some complex issues... financial debt, difficult X's, kids and costs, etc..

superchan2011 · Answer

Well of course divorced people have more issues than those who are single because whatever individual issues caused the couple to break up are still with each person, plus now they gotta deal with the heartbreak, sadness and overall disappointment of the relationship failing. Marriage it really depends on if the marriage is a overall good one or a bad one.

JoePro_ · Answer

I think it's just "different" issues, one type to the other. You don't avoid issues, heart break, financial issues, work issues, etc, by either being single or married, and there are benefits to each. If you're trying to decide if you want to be married or stay single, you might work through the pros and cons of each, and find out which of those things on those lists are most important to how you want to see and live your life 20 years from now. Then go for it.

Dongie · Answer

Probably, even without kids. Life after trauma is stressful.

exitseven · Answer

I think I have just as many issues but they are different issues

Wiredone · Answer

Relationship status has nothing to do with having life issues. There are roadblocks and hurdles that everyone has to overcome.

laly520 · Answer

trauma plays great role

Anonymous · Answer

On average, yes.

Akam93 · Answer

Yes cause marriage is hard.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

True!

JayBones · Answer

Obviously.

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