What are the boundaries I should set for my boyfriend when he socializes with friends?

[benefiel]

I mean for both of us and for our relationship. And both for girls and boys.

[chick]

You want trust and respect in a relationship, right? So, here's the deal: tell your boyfriend to have fun with his friends but to remember what's important. Like, don't flirt with other women; that's a no-go. If he's out late, a quick message wouldn't hurt, just so you're not worrying. Drinking's fine, but getting wasted and acting dumb isn't cool. Also, make sure he's fair with his time. You both should have your own friend time, but also time together. Just talk it out with him, set the limits clear, and trust each other.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My wife and I don't really have any formally established. I have a share of both female and male friends and same with my wife. This is very common in Japan; we don't have the cultural idea that men and women can't be close friends without any romantic feelings involved.

That said, one thing I think we both subscribe to informally is that it would be inappropriate for me to spend a lot of time talking to a female friend like on the phone or spending a lot of private time with her away from my wife and other friends. Same for my wife with her male friends.

Instead, we all hang out mostly together: me, my wife, and our friends all together. I think that's the best way but we didn't have to formally establish it. That's just how we tend to hang out with people in Japan. We share our friends with our SOs instead of having private friends away from them.

Also because my wife and I spend most of our time together with our friends, it can be a bit too much always just being together. So I have my guys' nights and she has her girls' nights here and there where we go out separately, typically with me hanging out with our male friends and her hanging out with our female friends.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For example, I have a very close female friend who is like a sister to me. She's the one of Indian descent on the left on my cover page (although she's an American from Brooklyn, NY). So sometimes she calls me and we chat a lot but I also pass the phone to my wife and she talks to my wife a lot. This way I make my wife feel included; I would consider it rude and disrespectful if I chatted with her a lot and not involve my wife too.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Same when my wife's close male friends call her. She'll talk to them for a while and then pass the phone to me and we chat a lot. We always involve each other this way whether on the phone or hanging out with our friends.

[MrOracle]

My main thing has always been: respect your partner and do not talk or behave in ways that shows disrespect to them. Ask yourself how you would feel if the situation was reversed, and use that as a starting point.

It shouldn't be difficult to understand this, but it also assumes that you vetted your boyfriend before you got together so that you know that you have compatible morals, values, and life goals - if you don't, your relationship has little hope of surviving in the first place. If you DO have compatibility, then you should both have a good understanding of what the other person would feel was disrespectful, and you simply don't do those things.

For example, I don't ever complain about or say bad things about my girlfriend to anyone - family or friends or in public - I only share compliments or positive stories. If I have some complaint, I share that with her privately, and I expect her to do the same. I treat our relationship as I would a team, where we always publicly support the team, and when I make a decision about something, it's based on what's best for the team.

[naartjie]

Depends what you’re okay with.


• i don’t like men who bad mouth me to their friends about our situations or take their friends advice on what he should do in our relationship.
•Big no for him finding comfort in a female friend when you both have a fall out. •Staying over at the opposite sex’s house- big no.
•Flirting with female friends- also a big no.
•Flirting with other women around the guys- big no.
•Engaging in lustful conversation about other women with the boys- big no.
• getting wasted or doing drugs, big no.


Honestly I can write so much.

[HelpfulWoman]

none. its counterproductive because if he NEEDS boundaries so bad, he's probably not worth dating.
HOWEVER, if you both feel you need to through a calm discussion, you could come up with some yourselves. NOT just random ones YOU'VE decided need to be set without his consent.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, diving into the deep end of the relationship pool, are we? Setting boundaries is like choosing your favorite flavor of ice cream; it's personal, varies from person to person, and boy, does it matter for the aftertaste! 😜 Let's get into the mix, shall we?

First off, communication is key, darling. It's the cherry on top of any relationship sundae. Be open about your feelings, but also be a super listener. Remember, it's a two-way street!

For the ladies and gents in his life, it's all about trust sprinkled with a bit of common sense. You don't need to set boundaries like "No speaking to this person or that person." It's more about the vibe. Think of it as not having to say "Keep your hands to yourself" but rather understanding that certain places, situations, or behaviors can add unnecessary drama. We're talking scenarios that can lead to misunderstandings, like solo hangouts in very intimate settings. Not really the best recipe for trust, right?

Also, sprinkle in some social media etiquette. It's not about monitoring each other's accounts but having a mutual understanding of what feels respectful and what crosses the line into the land of "Yikes!"

Lastly, don't forget about your "us" time amidst all this. Balancing friendships and relationship time is like trying to balance a spoon on your nose; it requires finesse, patience, and sometimes, a bit of laughter.

So, how does that resonate with you? Feel like crafting some boundaries with a side of love and trust? Let's chat more about it. After all, who doesn't love a good ol' relationship brainstorming?

[DarkLegacy]

Oh so here is the AI user on here. The site is taking over more of peoples lives and decisions.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some boundaries that could be healthy to set with your boyfriend when it comes to socializing with friends:

- Be open and honest about who you're hanging out with. No need to hide anything.

- When you're one on one with friends of the opposite sex, keep things respectful - no excessive flirting, touching, or private inside jokes.

- Don't get drunk or do drugs without your partner. Intoxication can lead to bad decisions.

- Check in every so often when you're out so your partner doesn't sit and wonder what you're up to. A quick text takes 2 seconds.

- Listen to your partner if they express feeling uncomfortable about a certain friend. Reassure them and set boundaries to make them feel secure.

- Be respectful of your partner's friends and don't try to undermine their relationships.

- It's cool to have your own lives and hang with different friend groups sometimes, but also make time for couple stuff and don't neglect your partner.

- Sleepovers at different sex friends houses usually isn't a good look. Keep everything out in the open.

- Be sensible with posting on social media - no overly flirty comments back and forth that could make your partner feel some type of way.

Mutual trust and respect is the most important thing. As long as you're both communicating and making each other feel secure and cared for, you should be good! Let me know if any other questions come up.

[firenine909]

As long as the guy isn’t flirting or dirty talking the girl it’s fine. Flirting has weird boundaries but no sexual flirting. I only mention this because even like casual compliments could be dubbed flirts


Same with the girl (you) although no teasing just because guys are more willing to take these advances

[laly520]

u gotta decide it with him

for example, my boyfriend decided he doesn't want any female friends n is a guy who keeps distance with other girls

on other hand I dont allow other guys to touch me or get intimate

we both honest with each other n we do tell each other everything

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nobody can tell you what your boundary lines are. My only one is for my partner not to shag anyone else, but if I needed to stipulate that? then it wouldn't be much of a relationship!

[DarkLegacy]

Are you really 38 or 14. You sound more like the latter, you have no right to set any boundaries unless you are going to let him set some for you. That is controlling and coercive behaviour and is a form of domestic abuse.

[RACSKC0B]

I've found that the simplest policy is too not say or do things in someone's absence that you wouldn't say or do in their presence.

[boggboss]

What do u feel is reasonable fro both without bring controlling

[Twalli]

Let him do as he wishes as long as it isn't during any special days.

[BonMot]

Two points: Boundaries are for those you don't trust. We don't "own" other people.

[DreamLife7]

Why are you asking us?

[jimmy2]

Bye.