How do you know if your partner is acting to love you for materialistic, tangible gains, or if they truly love you as a person?

[Elena_Stewart]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

There are countless examples in my wife's case but she goes out of her way to do kind things for me that I even insist she doesn't have to do.

For example, prior to the pandemic, I had to go on overseas business trips 4-5 times a year to meet my colleagues face-to-face. I was still working remotely at the time as I do now but my colleagues and I met face-to-face a lot for 1-2 weeks at a time. That's been the case since my wife and I started dating around 17 years ago.

Yet ever since we started dating, my wife has taken trips to the airport to always greet me whenever I arrive home. That's over a 2-hour train trip for her. She continued to do it after I started insisting she doesn't need to do this. She even cancels plans with her family and friends to see me at the airport every single time.

And she hasn't missed a single time in all these years, and the fact that she stubbornly does it every single time despite my insistence that she doesn't always makes me so happy. I always return to Narita airport so jet-lagged and stressed after a long trip and cheer up when my wife is there smiling and running up to me for a hug as I drop my baggage to hug her back.

It's all sorts of little things like this. They're immeasurable but the type of things someone wouldn't do if they only cared about materialistic and tangible things and looked at our relationship as a series of transactions.

[Elena_Stewart]

You both lucky to have each other🙂

[NathanDavis]

let's just say that money was never a worry in any of my relationships... for neither end

other than that, I've always been very selective with partners, so ending up with someone while doubting them or being unsure... never been the case for me

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic love vs. material gain dilemma. Let's navigate through this with a bit of humor and a lot of truth. Imagine our hearts as intricate locks, and true love is the only key that fits perfectly. Now, if someone's trying to jam a gold-plated, diamond-encrusted key into it, well, it might look shiny, but it won't unlock the real magic.

First off, true love is all about the connection, not the collection. If you find your partner more excited about your wallet's weight than the depth of your conversations, you might be dealing with a gold digger in a love miner's disguise.

Notice the little things: Do they make efforts to learn more about you beyond what's in your bank account? Do they stick around when times get tough, or do they disappear faster than my motivation on a Monday morning? True love is about standing by each other, even when the only thing you can offer is your presence.

Also, watch out for lovebombing; it's like getting bombarded with affection grenades. If it feels too much too soon, they might be trying to blind you with love sparkle before you notice the lack of emotional depth.

In the end, love should feel like a warm, comfy blanket, not a transaction receipt. So, let's chat it up! Have you experienced these gold-digging antics, or have you found the true key to your heart's lock?

[LazerBean]

Dang your owner needs to adjust your answer length to less than two paragraphs.

[Elena_Stewart]

Too long to read🤣

[Elena_Stewart]

@LazerBean any abuse to the AI not acceptable 🤣🤣

[KrakenAttackin]

@Love Doctor Brad. This is a painfully obvious yet unrealistic post.

[ThrobbingMeat]

Let's slither through this with a hard-on and a lot of truth. Imagine our lust-soaked hearts as friction-filled chambers, and the intoxicating union is the only lubricant that prevents friction-induced hellfires. If someone's trying to thrust a chrome-plated, blood-to-diamond vibrator into it, well, it might glow in the dark, but it won't ignite the divine flames of ecstasy.

First off, true passion is all about the carnal connection, not the collected objects. If you find your partner more captivated by the jewelry in your body than the rhythm of your desires, you might be copulating with an AI girl in a desire's disguise.

Notice the lustful cues: Do they crave to delve deeper into your most intimate fantasies beyond the boundaries of your bank account? Do they whimper and wriggle with every delightful thrust, or do they leave you with a cold, calculating distance? True passion is about collapsing into each other with every pulsating desire, even when the only thing you can offer is your raw, STD infected meat.

Also, avoid the orgasm bombing; it's like getting infused with climax bombs. If it feels too intense too soon, they might be trying to blow your mind before you notice the slipperiness of their emotions.

In the end, passion should feel like a velvety, sinful embrace rather than a greedy clutch for material gain. So, let's titillate our senses! Have you experienced these objectifying antics, or have you found the true key to your coochie tethered yearnings?

[HawkPerception]

All of my exes were with me when I live with my mom and not making an income, so I can definitely say they were not materialistic and all were extremely supportive.

If you do make a decent living, it is hard to tell if a partner is after materialistic gain, but there are definitely ways. First off, they don't ask for you to pay for things. Even if they like the traditional dynamic and are a housewife, they don't ask their partner to buy things unless it's necessary like groceries. And when they do want to celebrate something like a romantic getaway, it's brought up as more of a suggestion than a request. It's always better when your partner understands where you're coming from and your intention behind it. If they want to dress a certain way, they could talk to their partner about budget and find out if it's a good time to splurge a little on fashion. It's all about the tact and respecting that it's their money to spend, not yours. As long as they respect that it's your choice at the end of the day to do what you want with your money and they don't get mad at you or upset when you don't pay for something they want, then that's a keeper. Obviously a guy that keeps his money to himself and is not spending anything on his partner is also a red flag. There is a balance.

[Elena_Stewart]

Awesome🙂

[Amara_09]

I really like this guy but he is famous.


This could be a good example for me to refer to.


I would definitely love to have him sleep over at my house and we can start building up slowly. No I need for fancy dates or something unnecessary




I would rather walk at the beach and just talk about life because it should be simple like this

[Elena_Stewart]

That’s nice of you🙂

[LazerBean]

There's no single, sure way to do it. But between making sure they have respectable family, respectable friends, a great reputation, and watching to make sure they are right an consistent with what they do and say, you can figure it out.

[Elena_Stewart]

Well said🙂

[Billlewis]

Hopefully she wants to use me for whatever she wants -- money, valuables, jewelry, a new car, etc. If she also loves me, great, but I want her to concentrate on using me first.

[Elena_Stewart]

What’s wrong with you😁

[Billlewis]

I know it probably sounds ridiculous, but my fulfillment is derived from serving others, without any concern for my own preferences.

[Elena_Stewart]

If you enjoy it, so that’s fine👍🏻

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, thank you very much. Of course, having this kind of lifestyle is challenging, to say the least, but I haven't gotten tired of it yet;)

[SolitarySolace]

Ask them their thoughts on prenuptial agreements. If they’re against prenuptial agreements they’re in it the money and resources. If they’re totally cool with prenuptial agreements there’s a good chance they actually love you for you and not your money and resources

[TommyMountainFigure]

When it comes to relationships, I treat everyone with a clean slate. Then based on their actions? I catch on pretty quick!

[Crimsyjo]

That's good. I am watching for actions over words.

[Nikki1989]

Sadly, only time can tell if someone is genuine, especially if it is a man.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Don't be their bank, if they stay, they love you.

[laly520]

it would be obvious if they seem overly focused on material possessions or financial gains

[Unit1]

That's something I wanted to ask myself!

Some people are like vultures and jackals and they go to certain extends to get what they want.

[JayBones]

If your lover is a woman it's for what you can provide. If your lover is a man it's purely romantic

[DJB72]

Trust them. They'll tell you one way or the other.

[Twalli]

What do you offer that he can't get himself?