How do you know if your partner REALLY loves you?

[Anonymous]

This is my first long term, serious relationship as an adult. I love my girlfriend very much, and I am a very affectionate person. I’m thoughtful, I make time for us, I do all of the little things (random flowers, coffee, buy her candy, etc). Her and her friends describe me as “the perfect boyfriend.”

We have been together a little less than a year.

My girlfriend is, by her own admission, not the most affectionate person, and NOT a clingy person. She enjoys her solitude at times. She has periods where she is very affectionate— Cuddling, PDA, vocally communicates her affection. Followed by periods where she doesn’t want to be physically intimate— low sex drive, crabby, wants to have her own side of the couch.

My girlfriend says she loves me, she texts me good morning, asks how my day went. However, if you were to ask me who is more emotionally invested, I would have to confess that I think I am.

I could be wrong, and there is a chance she just has a better poker face than me because she’s 3 years older and has been in two relationships that lasted several years.

If I had to bet my life on it, I’d bet that she loves me, but it’s hard to believe when she isn’t as affectionate.

[PrudentGuy]

Dating and relationships is to a large degree like gambling.

First you need to prepare to lose, possibly all you set aside to punt.

Next, some games are purely luck and you only have 50/50 chance. Other games may allow you to use strategy, thus have a higher chance to win.

Same as dating. Analyse for yourself what is the chance you could win, then place your bet and hope for the best.

And know this, the house always win. Likewise in today's marriage, divorce is so high that many marriages doesn't last 5 years. So all you invested today as winning hand may end up losing to a divorce.

Sorry I am so negative, but this is the norm of today's dating game.

Anyway, good luck to you.

[boggboss]

Just because she don't show her love like you don't mean she don't love u and surly if you trust her which I hope you do you wouldn't question her love 4 you that's insecurities talking

[Secret6620]

They will say it and actively show it everyday