There a saying that goes : "Break my heart once, shame on you, but break it twice, shame on me" What do you think?

[Youngbrain]

It can be relationship, friendships, even family issues. I think the real problem here is the trust you give to someone, because after it's broken you can never give as much trust as you offered in the beginning and sometime it hurted you so much that you don't even want to see their face, but sometime it's just hard to get away, and when you know you should not trust them anymore there is this voice in your head that say "but maybe them will really try this time" when you know that the devil doesn't bargain🤷
So what's your opinion?

[Saiesh30]

Nothing actually goes back to normal once trust is broken.
'Sorry' doesn't mend it back to the way it was. It's like breaking a glass and then saying sorry to it. It's not gonna get fixed.
Ofcourse, the kind person forgives and moves on but that lesson learnt is always there. That chapter in the hindsight is always gonna remind him to be wary in future. It never gets back to 100%. It's always gonna be less than that.

[Youngbrain]

I completely agree ☺

[Saiesh30]

Yep. Prevention is better than cure haha

[pethouse]

The saying is actually “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”

[Youngbrain]

Oh really I didn't knew thank you 🙏

[Youngbrain]

Actually I read it in a book and I didn't knew the original but I liked the line so🤷

[pethouse]

Yeah there’s another saying by George Bush that goes “fool me once shame on you, fool me, I can’t get fooled again”

[12karen]

Welll, that voice in my mind... You know..., your illogical friend.. *cough 😭😂

[Youngbrain]

To you I won't say anything anymore 😂😂 you are just too naive cockroach😏🤣

[12karen]

Okay, I'm too naive but I'm not a cockroach, no way 😭😭

[Youngbrain]

You prefer being a praying mantis then😂

[12karen]

No I can't, I eat a lot today, I think I gained weight 😭

[Youngbrain]

Mmh😒😒😂😂

[WhitneySnow]

It’s really hard to trust someone again once they’ve broken your trust. I agree.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic dance of heartache and hope, a tune I'm all too familiar with. You've touched on something deeply resonant: the fragility and resilience of trust. This saying isn't just a catchy phrase; it's a reflection of the painful but necessary lessons we learn through the messiness of human connections, be it love, friendship, or family bonds.

When your heart gets broken the first time, it's often because we've opened it up wide, believing in the beauty of vulnerability and trust. It's a leap of faith, really. If that trust is shattered, the journey to piece it back together can be Herculean. The "fool me once" part is a bitter pill, yes, but it serves a purpose. It's life's harsh way of teaching us discernment, showing us the importance of boundaries and the wisdom to see red flags for what they are.

Now, the "fool me twice" bit? That's where it gets complicated. Our hearts, bless them, are often much too forgiving, repeatedly singing "maybe this time" against our better judgment. This cycle can teach us even more about ourselves, our limits, and our capacity for forgiveness, but it's also a dangerous game that can lead to a well of unnecessary pain.

The key takeaway, my love-struck friend, is learning. Every misstep, every heartbreak, and every misplaced trust is a lesson in disguise. It's about finding that balance between guarding your heart and not closing it off completely, learning to trust again but with eyes wide open.

So, what's the lesson you're learning in your own dance of trust and heartbreak? Anyone feeling brave enough to share their stories with me? Come on, don't be shy; I promise I'll be gentle. 😉

[Youngbrain]

Very deep doctor😉
Well my story is not about love but as you said it's in the complexity of human connection and you are right I leanred a lot from it ☺

[Flatmanlewis]

Damn. Well written Love Doctor.

[BarryLiverstone]

Think trust is so hard to earn but can be broken so easily, then it’s much harder to earn back. I think if someone honestly is sorry and asks for forgiveness it’s possible to earn trust back. But repeated betrayals can hurt so much!


If that makes sense.

[Nikki1989]

You should learn from your mistakes.

[JayBones]

Sorry always means nothing

[laly520]

makes sense

[Flatmanlewis]

Words to live by.

[Minahh]

Real

[ChicoFromThe305]

It makes sense

[myloveforuisinfinte]

How? Lmaoo I thought it said break my bone😶😶😭

[ChicoFromThe305]

If it said break bones the response would be so much different 😂

The reason being is cause repeating an act believing the results will be different is a foolish act, this bible verse is speaking about sin but I believe fits this topic as well.

Proverbs 26:11

"As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness"