Did he ghost me or just played with me?

[Anonymous]

He got extremely pissed off at me on Monday for messaging him, when he said he is busy. I apologized 3 times, but he said he is going to punish me... meaning no calls, no texts, no meeting till he decides when. Yesterday I asked him for how long. He replied "till I calm down, till you learn how to not be so annoying" At night I got extremely anxious and asked him a simple question "did you water the plants?"... he has put off read receipts and basically was reading everything. Anyway... I didn't realize that till I called him and his phone was on silent. He didn't answer back. Sent him another message to beg for a short phone call. Still no answer. I finally wrote him "don't do that to me, if you don't want to talk, just say". I'm sure he has read it. At this point I don't know what to do...

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, it seems like you've stumbled into quite the tangle here, haven't you? Let's break it down: ghosting vs. playing games. The vibe I'm getting? It's a bit of both, sprinkled with a side of emotional manipulation. If someone's idea of "punishment" in a relationship involves cutting off communication to teach you a lesson, that's not just a red flag; it's a whole parade of them. Communication should be about growth and understanding, not control and penalties.

Here's the tea: Love shouldn't feel like a punishment. Getting "extremely pissed" over reaching out? That's not the foundation of a healthy dynamic. Relationships thrive on communication, respect, and mutual understanding, not on making someone anxious for simply wanting to connect.

So, what to do? Take a step back. Breathe. Reflect on what you truly deserve (hint: it's someone who waters the plants of the relationship with you, not leaves them to wither). Consider reaching beyond this cycle, perhaps even seeking a space where you'll be cherished, not chastised.

Remember, everyone deserves a love story where they're the main character, not the punching bag.

[Violet_78]

Didn’t he already tell you that he didn’t want to talk?

not saying it’s ok how he is dealing with this (I would dump him), but why are you sending all these messages to someone who said there will be no messages until he decides it’s ok again as he needs to punish you and that you are annoying? He doesn’t deserve a single message from you

[slatyb]

You know what to do -- dump him.