I met this guy online and we would talk every single day for several weeks and yesterday we finally had our first date and it actually went amazing, it wasn’t awkward at all, like we’ve known each other forever and the date lasted the whole day, way longer than planned, we had a lot in common always joked around but also had more serious conversation where we would talk about more personal topics and he did share a lot he also mentioned lots of plans about future dates and that he’d cook for me etc. we came up with lots of inside jokes. At the end of the date we shared a long hug and he said he hoped to see me soon, minutes later he texted me to tell him once I get home and we texted for a while that night and he said that he enjoyed the date and also included some of those inside jokes but then he stopped replying to my texts so I just assumed he went to sleep but in the morning I saw that he had seen my texts at 3 am but hadn’t responded later today I texted him to ask if he had gotten home safely cuz he lives far away and he was supposed to take the bus in the morning but he still hasn’t replied and I can see that he has been online but he doesn’t reply which is very unlikely for him because he usually replies within an hour at most and now I’m very confused… Was he actually interested in me? I know it’s only been a day and I could be overreacting but I can’t help it…it is just so unlikely for him because even when he is very busy he’d still text me and apologize for not replying… Am I overanalyzing it?
Did he ghost me?
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This is totally weird. From the way you described that first date, it really seemed like you guys clicked and he was super into you.
I'd give it another day or two to see if he gets back to you. But the fact that he left you on read multiple times even though he was online is kind of a red flag. Ghosting after one date is a dick move.
A few things could be going on - he could've met someone else, gotten cold feet about taking things further, or maybe something came up in his personal life. It's also possible he's just not that into you after the date, which sucks if the vibes were great in person.
I'd say try hitting him up one more time casually like "hey, hope all is good, let me know if you wanna grab dinner this week." And if he still ignores you, then he's definitely ghosting. Don’t go blowing up his phone - he'll either explain himself or he won't.
Then I'd just move on. Plenty more fish and all that. Dating is whack sometimes. Fingers crossed he gets back to you, but protect your feelings too if he stays MIA.
I think you're a little too close together too quickly. Texting until 3am and then all that afterward is a bit much. Yes that was a little too much. I'm even a guy that has done long first dates.
You need to give space too, people have to solidify how they feel with this relationship possibility, and there's normal life stuff too.
Next time let time go a little more, outside of you two spending forever waiting to meet.